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Baby Boomers Guide to Toxic Friendships

Friday, June 19th, 2009
Psychological Articles: Toxic Friends

Psychological Articles: Toxic Friends

Psychological Articles by Boomeryearbook.com

Toxic friendships are just that – poisonous!

The people you grow up with and come to love and respect within your family structure, as a rule, tend to be people you are stuck with. Even if your mother, father, brother, is the kind of person described in psychological articles as being ‘toxic’ it is highly unlikely that you are going to isolate yourself from them. Why would you want to do that?

It seems obvious that even if you do, the subsequent emotional pain of cutting loose from such ties would hurt you far more than it would hurt them! They have their toxicity to sustain them and you are just Mr or Ms Lovely; your niceness making you a target for the toxic behavior highlighted in psychological articles written to guide us all out of the toxic trap.

Friendships, however, are a different matter, that is the friendships detailed inpsychological articles as ‘casual’ or ‘passing’. Such friends are those you meet up with for an hour after work, with whom you may enjoy a glass of wine or a chat over the events of the day. These people are a toxic nightmare for the optimistic and the pragmatic. They ‘poison’ the day with negativity and apathy: they take the fun out of life for everyone they come into contact with and positive people would do well to avoid them like the plague.

Psychological articles have a field day with these characters and the kind of behavior that features in someone displaying toxic attributes is easily recognizable by how you feel when you are with a person carrying the stigma of toxicity. Psychological articles describe them as the kind of people who see a field of beautiful flowers only in terms of how it might affect their allergies; a cute puppy as a carrier of germs; the delightful old man who gives up his seat on the train to a young lady as a pervert.

Psychological articles that go deeper into the difficulties of dealing with toxic people explore the reasons why such attitudes triumph over joy and cheerfulness. Theories abound, some expounding the ‘opposite concept’ of either neglect or over indulgence; extreme happiness or misery; extreme wealth or abject poverty. Whatever the causes, the effects are long reaching and influence some of the most successful members of society.

Toxic friendships tend to survive for quite a long time before they are finally vanquished due to the wide and generous nature of the non-toxic part of the equation – the gentle, non toxic, patient, easy going and golden hearted pal who takes an emotional beating every time the toxic friend needs a sponge to soak up their resentment and pessimism. Psychological articles tend to advocate such people steer clear of toxic friendships for the sake of their own emotional welfare and survival.

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Baby Boomers Guide to the Toxic Antidote

Friday, June 19th, 2009
Psychological Articles: How to Rid Yourself from Toxic People

Psychological Articles: How to Rid Yourself from Toxic People

Psychological Articles by Boomeryearbook.com

The toxic antidote is sought by the unhappy victims of toxic friendships and relationships all over the World. Psychological articles subject the unhappy condition of toxicity in depth and depressing detail, with all kinds of theories researched and commented upon to find a solution to the unhappiness of toxicity; its causes and the reason it flourishes even within a content and happy environment.

Everyone has gloomy friends; the kind of pal who shows up late without an apology and proceeds to complain about their day before they have even said hello; the ghastly kind of person who tells you how bad you look when you have a cold and then assures you that he or she had far worse symptoms when they had the same cold before passing it on to you! These creatures are the wet blankets on the picnic of life; the gloomy cloud of despondency in an otherwise sunny afternoon. Psychological articles come nowhere near to describing the kind of grey mist such purveyors of depression can cast over a happy disposition.

The antidote to such behavior is actually happiness in large quantities and spread about with as much enthusiasm as possible. Psychological articles go down all kinds of avenues to find the answer to dealing with toxic people and their poisonous attitudes. The subject is somewhat over researched and all manner of complicated formulas are suggested for arming yourself against toxic effects. The simple solution, barely touched upon by professionals in psychological articles, is sunny cheer distributed in the face of negativity and misery.

Those who are affected by the symptoms of toxic negativity described in psychological articles tend to have a healthy resolve which equips them to enjoy pessimism and gloom. They are unhappy people anyway and have a talent for looking on the dark side of a situation and not allowing cheer or laughter to penetrate their cosy, critical outlook. They just don’t want to be drawn into a happier place and will not thank you for trying! Psychological articles which argue whether an antidote for toxicity exists agree that sufferers are happy victims of depression.

So why do we persist in seeking an antidote to toxic gloom and sadness? All the psychological articles that dedicate thousands of words to the pursuit of the antidote to eternal gloom never expound on the advantages of tolerance and patience when dealing with sufferers of the symptoms of toxicity.

Toxic people gravitate to positive attitudes like flies to honey, possibly because this exposure to optimism feeds their critical reserve, giving them one more thing to grumble about. Such people thrive on conflict and objection, so presenting them with a refusal to argue or be drawn into a combative situation dilutes the effect they have on more sociable members of the community.

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Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Friday, June 19th, 2009
Psychological Artices: Obsessive Compulsive Chart

Psychological Articles: Obsessive Compulsive Chart

Psychological Articles by Boomeryearbook.com

We often hear the term obsessive compulsive bandied about to describe a variety of behaviors and often it is used jokingly to emphasize a person’s devotion to some sport, cause or activity. However, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder or OCD is a very real and painful disease. In this psychological article we will discuss the symptoms and cures for OCD.

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is an Anxiety Disorder (DSM-IV) that is characterized by irrational fears. Victims develop anxious thoughts and feelings based on a foreboding or dread that some horrible thing will happen to them. Psychological articles agree that these fears are largely unfounded and exist only in the mind of the victim.

In order to deal with these irrational fears, a victim develops compulsive behavior patterns such as:

• Repeated hand washing
• Counting things
• Double checking things
• Insisting that things be in a particular order or symmetry

Psychological articles concur that even smaller, less significant behaviors such as insisting that all your canned goods face the same direction can be classified as compulsive behavior.

Many Baby Boomers enjoy the television program, “Monk” which first made OCD known among the masses. Up until the success of this TV show, many people did not know about Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. In Monk’s case, all of his friends and family are aware of his obsession. In real life though, this is not usually true.

Most psychological articles say that those who suffer from OCD will go to great lengths to hide their compulsive behavior. They don’t want to be seen as freakish or weird so they are often secretive only performing their “rituals” in private where no one can see.

How Did I Get OCD?

Some psychological articles believe that OCD is hereditary and passed on through maternal genes. If you noticed Obsessive Compulsive behaviors in your own mother or other female relative then there’s a chance that you can develop these irrational fears and obsessive behavior patterns during your lifetime.

Other studies have found that OCD occurs when insufficient amounts of the brain chemical Serotonin are produced. Still other studies in psychological articles say that this disease comes as a result of changes in your body’s chemistry and biology. There’s no definitive answer as to what actually causes OCD.

What Can You Do If You Think You May Have OCD?

The problem with OCD is that its sufferers will normally hide their symptoms from others. This makes it difficult for the victims to receive the help they need to live normal, healthy lives. Victims often downplay their obsessive behavior by referring to it as “perfectionism.” There’s no stigma attached to being a perfectionist. This is seen by most psychological articles as normal behavior requiring no medication or counseling.

But there’s a line between perfectionism and Obsessive Compulsive behavior. With OCD there is a great amount of fear and anxiety coupled with irrational thoughts that the victim cannot control. In some cases, sufferers can even display violent tendencies such as:

• Urges to harm yourself or someone else
• Aggressive and horrific impulses
• Extreme pornographic or sexual images constantly bombarding your thoughts

Because some of the behaviors can be harmful to sufferers or those around them, it is critical to obtain treatment. If you suspect that you or a loved one is a victim of OCD, then realize that your ARE a victim of a very real disease and you need help.

Baby Boomers are very independent thinkers. They are rugged individuals who have made it through a lifetime of struggles and have triumphed. They like to think of themselves as tough people. This can often cause them NOT to seek help for things like OCD.

Imagine having Cancer. Someone with cancer would not be ashamed to admit it and get treatment. OCD is no different. It, too, is a disease that has invaded your mind and body and you should not be ashamed to seek treatment for it.

There are many good medications nowadays that can greatly reduce the signs and symptoms of OCD. Counseling can also be beneficial. Psychological articles tell us that with the proper treatment, the signs and symptoms of OCD can be dramatically reduced to the point where you can live a normal, healthy life.

One of the more successful treatments recommended by psychological articles is cognitive behavior therapy. This treatment involves retraining your thought patterns and routines so that compulsive behaviors are no longer necessary.

The bottom line is, “Don’t be afraid or ashamed to admit you need help!” No matter what the situation, the very first and most important step to getting help is admitting that you need help. Push through your fears and reach out! Let others help you. Get on that pathway to better mental health today!

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How Comics and Baby Boomers Influenced the World: A Comparative Study (Pt:3)

Thursday, June 18th, 2009
Baby Boomers Comics and Culture Changing the World

Baby Boomers Comics and Culture Changing the World

Psychological Articles by Boomeryearbook.com

The sixties offered both comics and baby boomers a time of growth through adversity. For both parties, the previous decade had been one in which growth beyond the constraints of a conservative social standard was discouraged. Now, as the first signs of defiance to accepted norms began to take place, a clash was inevitable. Change, in general, does not come easy and this would certainly be the case for America. Nevertheless, as vehicles of transformation, and comic books were ideally positioned to bring this about.

Comics would play a significant role with young baby boomers, especially those that were beginning college by the mid-sixties. College campuses around the country were becoming a hot bed for social unrest. Baby boomers were not happy and the ideas that were at the point of their dissatisfaction could find a purchase in the comics that many of them were reading.

Many comics, especially those that were the product of the creative duo of Stan Lee and Jack Kirby, had brought a vein of realism to the superhero genre. Lee and Kirby, having laid the foundation for this new brand of hero with Spiderman and the Fantastic Four, now set out to incorporate social issues in their stories. There was no better social issue that was brimming to be broached than that of racial inequality. America, during this time, was dealing with the pains of racial strife, and the civil rights movement was striving to gain momentum.

Yet many white baby boomers were as yet untouched and unaware of the growing discontent by their neighbors of color or of their plight. And then Lee and Kirby introduced the X-Men to the world. The X-Men were a group of young mutants, children born with super powers that set them apart from normal people. They had the same dreams and aspirations as any one else, but because they were born with powers (i.e. they were different) they were shunned, marginalized and hated by the majority of people. The racial overtones were obvious. More importantly, the injustice of such bigotry was made abundantly clear and young white baby boomers understood the message.

As these themes continue to play out in the comic medium, baby boomers took heart and took action. As the civil rights movement grew and became a force, both black and white baby boomers were joined together in a common cause of justice. In conjunction with the anti war movement as the Vietnam War progressed, baby boomers rejection and staunch opposition of their parents social and political policies forced – albeit slowly and painfully – change. By the end of the decade, significant strides had been made in civil rights – both in legislation and in the minds of the public of what was acceptable. By the end of the decade, a military pull out of Vietnam was inevitable.

Baby boomers had proven that they, as a generation, were a social force to be reckoned with. Their ideas were influenced by the comics they read and the convictions in their hearts. Baby boomers understood that it was their determination for change that had brought about the social transformation that they were witnessing. As a new decade ushered in, baby boomers and comics would assert their new found dominance in American culture.

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Baby Boomers and The Cycles of Depression

Thursday, June 18th, 2009
Elderly Problems: Depression

Elderly Problems: Depression

A Psychological Article by Boomeryearbook.com

Certain illnesses have no specific test for them, such as a blood test. And yet, the sufferers of Depression know in most cases. Their families are often aware as well. In this psychological article we will discuss how Depression works and what you can do about it.

The first thing most people want to know is “How does Depression happen? What causes it?” There are many causes. In many cases, psychological articles find a combination of symptoms in sufferers. Below is a partial list:

1. Family History
2. Hormonal Imbalance
3. Substance Abuse
4. A traumatic life experience
5. Environmental factors
6. Age

There are a few diseases and medications, which can also contribute to depression. Most psychological articles show that the bottom line cause of Depression is an imbalance of Serotonin, a chemical in the brain. The brain of a Depression sufferer doesn’t manufacture enough of this chemical resulting in the symptoms most often seen in those who suffer from depression.

Psychological articles now acknowledge that the process of getting older and realizing that your youth is gone can cause depression as is seen in many people of the Baby Boomer age.

If you believe you might be afflicted with this disease, then don’t despair! There are many great treatment options from counseling to medications.

These days your doctor can treat you with a medication, which will normalize those Serotonin levels resulting in a marked decrease of the symptoms. Often, counseling is also suggested so that the sufferer can deal with the root causes of the Depression.

According to psychological articles in the DSM-IV, Depression is present when five or more of the following symptoms are present for most of the day, nearly every day for at least 2 weeks. At least one of the symptoms must be either persistent sad or “empty” feelings or loss of interest in activities.

• Constant sadness
• Irritability
• Hopelessness
• Trouble sleeping
• Low energy or fatigue
• Feeling worthless or guilty for no reason
• Significant weight change
• Difficulty concentrating
• Loss of interest in favorite activities

Most psychological articles agree that you don’t need to experience all of the signs and symptoms listed above to have depression.

Symptoms can vary. Depressed women are more likely to experience guilt, weight gain, anxiety, eating disorders, or increased sleep than men. Psychological articles have found that the elderly tend to experience persistent sadness or “empty” moods more than others.

It is important that families of those who suffer from Depression get involved and make every effort to help those afflicted to seek medical attention. All psychological articles agree that by its very nature, those suffering from Depression will rarely have the wisdom to realize they have a problem and/or the strength it takes to get up and go do something about it.

If you or a loved one displays the symptoms listed above, then make an appointment with your doctor and discuss how you’re feeling. Depression doesn’t have to slow us down or take us out of the game.

This is especially true for Baby Boomers who may feel that their best years are over. This couldn’t be further from the truth. We still have a great many wonderful years ahead of us. Let’s live them as well and healthy as possible!

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How Comics and Baby Boomers Influenced the World: A Comparative Study (Pt:2)

Thursday, June 18th, 2009
Psychological Article: Baby Boomers Comic Books

Psychological Article: Baby Boomers Comic Books


Psychological Article by Boomeryearbook.com

It’s no secret that baby boomers have considered themselves, as a whole, as a force of social change. Often referred to as the “counter-culture”, baby boomers have long been associated with a rejection (supposedly) of the more traditional values of their parents. This realization and determination to redefine society took place, coincidently, within the same period that comic books were evolving from the restrictive confines of a decade of forced conservatism. Indeed, the turbulent sixties brought a number of societal challenges that had an effect on mass medium, baby boomers, and the nation as a whole.

In one sense, baby boomers do indeed justly deserve the banner of “rejecters of traditional values.” The sixties brought with it more war and a growing attention to racial (and to a lesser extent, gender) inequality. Whereas the parents of baby boomers generally took these issues in stride, baby boomers were coming of age and rejected the status quo. For boomers, war in and of it self, was not justifiable; racial and gender inequality was not right. These were the signs that perhaps something needed to be done, perhaps something needed to change.

Influencing these thoughts were the comic books that many baby boomers – now teenagers and young adults – were reading. The fifties were a troubling time for comics, as charges of promoting homosexuality and brutality forced comics to cave in on itself and produce a standard fare that was more suitable to the conservative palate that was prevalent. The winds of change, however, were stirring with this wholly American medium as well.

Just as the forties introduced the concept of superheroes as a focal point of hope for a better day, so too did the late fifties and early sixties revive this concept. This was the silver age of comics, and old characters such as the Flash and Green Lantern were reintroduced to a new audience, but bringing with it those same themes of hope and expectation. They would provide a focus of inspiration for young baby boomers that had not had the experience that their parents had with these characters. Inspiration, as we know, is the well spring of ideas and motivation for action and change – two points that baby boomers would embrace in coming years.

In conjunction with the reemergence of the superhero (and the idealism for truth and justice that they generally espouse), there was a new trend to also portray superheroes in a more realistic style. Comic pioneers Stan Lee and Jack Kirby introduced the world to the Fantastic Four and Spiderman. These characters, unlike previous portrayals of superheroes; had fears, identifiable problems (like trouble paying bills) and general, everyday issues. They maintained their model of inspiration, but had to work at it. For baby boomers, these new characters epitomized the spirit of American perseverance – much like older heroes had done for their parents.

The stage was now set for baby boomers, comics and a nation to come face to face with the need for change. For baby boomers, the ideas that they were encountering in comics (and certainly other mediums) began fermenting into a need for action. For comics, the canvas of creativity and purposeful story telling was emerging. For the country, these forces would combine to produce an upheaval that would eventually result in monumental changes to the social norms.

The Psychological Article How Comics and Baby Boomers Influenced the World: A Comparative Study (Pt:2)
is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of fun articles to alleviate elderly problems and keep our hearts and brains young. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Baby Boomers Guide to Ingratitude and the Generation Game

Thursday, June 18th, 2009
Psychological Article on Baby Boomers Guide to the Ungrateful Teenager

Psychological Article on Baby Boomers Guide to the Ungrateful Teenager

Psychological Articles by Boomeryearbook.com

Baby boomers are part of an older generation renowned for taking life by the shoulders and shaking loose every last bit; enriching their own life experiences and making an impact on the lives of all those with whom they come into contact. Gratitude for being able to do this is something that comes naturally to baby boomers.

Others might not create such a positive impression and show a tendency for ingratitude, not only toward baby boomer family members but everyone in their social circle. These characters are a negative influence and have an ugly reputation for turning a great day into something less than enjoyable.

Baby boomers’ inbred ability to achieve and enjoy their achievements have the effect of spreading outward, as a pebble in a pond will cause the ripples to radiate, eventually washing over the more negative aspects of life and making problems seem less serious by virtue of the reduced importance placed upon them.

In a world where economies are becoming part of daily life, it is imperative to keep a sense of priority and place emphasis on friends, family and being grateful for the best things in life which are still free, for baby boomers and for everyone else too.

Younger generations seem to struggle with the concept of gratitude. Baby boomers certainly enjoyed a more privileged youth than previous generations, yet managed to retain a sense of appreciation regrettably lacking in the generations that followed. Under-thirties tend to take material possessions for granted and even believe they have a divine entitlement to the things the older generation are accustomed to earning through hard work. Extreme youth seems to feature a regrettably extreme overindulgence.

Moreover, ingratitude, like misery, seems to be contagious amongst peer groups: when one person buys a new car or a new house, friends covet the acquisition and strive to attain bigger and better and so the circle goes on. Gratitude does not seem to enter into the matter and in fact, the popular belief seems to be, ‘I have earned it; I deserve it’, whether it is true or not. Baby boomers are more likely to experience a heightened appreciation of material luxuries as they have a deeper sense of gratitude.

Generations express gratitude differently and younger age groups seem to expect their gratitude to be assumed rather than openly voiced. Baby boomers are enthusiastically grateful by comparison.
The generation game is one that is played by all shapes, sizes and ages and not always according to the rules. However, baby boomers have the advantage of experience over most of the other players! Ingratitude of younger friends and family is just part of the game.

When it comes to the generation game, the trick is, as in life, not to win but to take part.

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Baby Boomers Guide: Teenage Temper Tantrums and Tizzy Fits

Thursday, June 18th, 2009
Psychological Article: Baby Boomers Dealing with Teenage Temper Tantrums

Psychological Article: Baby Boomers Dealing with Teenage Temper Tantrums

Psychological Articles by Boomeryearbook.com

Baby boomers tend to get along just fine with teenagers as a rule, perhaps because they remember all too well that rebellious streak that dragged the world kicking and screaming through the fifties and sixties!

Temper tantrums, even amongst the most even tempered teenagers are expected but no less unpleasant. Teenaged grandchildren are a special blessing but they can turn an unsuspecting baby boomer into a jabbering jelly if you don’t know how to deal with hot teenage tizzies.

The thing to remember about all teenagers is that in spite of appearing cool and confident on the outside, most of them are experiencing all the ghastly symptoms of adolescence: pimples; greasy hair; limbs sticking out at all angles and hormones running up one leg and down the other.

A large number of teenage temper tantrums are a result of not being able to deal confidently with a given situation. Baby boomers are over flowing with the confidence thing; it is what they do best. Adolescent kids are not so lucky and when placed in an environment, emotional or physical, where they are unsure what to do or how to behave, they will lash out and try to hurt those nearest and dearest. Sometime the nearest and dearest might be their local favorite baby boomer!

Taking tantrums in your stride is part of dealing with the teenager in your life. Children in the throes of furious temper require a calm approach and teenagers, only a few short years out of childhood, are equally needful of a tranquil approach. Leave reproach for later and try to pour a little gentleness into the situation. As your raging teen reaches early twenties, your baby boomer patience will be richly rewarded with friendship and gratitude for understanding at a time when their emotions were frayed and sensitive to criticism.

Never, ever raise your voice when trying to diffuse a teenage drama with tact and diplomacy. Baby boomer serenity is a winner and guaranteed to quiet everything down long enough to find the source of the problem and hopefully suggest a solution. A bonus is that nearly always in the case of teenage fallout there is a sheepish and affectionate apology forthcoming when you least expect it. Gracious acceptance of this apology and the resolve to put the matter to rest is the best way forward. These temper flare-outs occur from time to time throughout the teenage years but as your teenager develops into an adult, you will find a new companionship blossoms out of love and understanding.

Baby boomers are famous for going through life lifting emotional stones to see exactly what lies beneath. Teenage dramas are a perfect challenge for the baby boomer’s natural ability to negotiate a truce in the face of extreme conflict.

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Baby Boomers Guide: How to Survive Dysfunctional Behaviour in Children

Thursday, June 18th, 2009
Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers: Dysfunctional Children

Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers: Dysfunctional Children


Psychological Article by Boomeryearbook.com

Baby boomers are getting to that age where patience might be wearing ever so slightly thin when it comes to dealing with dysfunctional behaviour in others and that includes children.

The old favorite, ‘You wouldn’t be allowed to get away with that when I was a kid’ somehow sits uncomfortably on baby boomer shoulders, considering that as kids, baby boomers tended to get away with most things! There are limits, however, to what even the most placid boomer will put up with and obnoxious behaviour in children is probably one of them.

Children usually misbehave for a reason and that reason is usually to be found somewhere within the parenting skills of the primary adult. Baby boomers are smart and intuitive and although sometimes unable to find the solution, they can usually spot the problem from miles off! If the child you are dealing with happens to be a grandchild, there is a hurdle to get over from the outset, as Mom is very likely to object to your taking Junior’s table manners into your own hands so you will have to try making small improvements at first.

Baby boomers are by nature fun to be with (older boomers will no doubt remember the sixties!) There is no need to yell at a kid who is obviously unhappy to begin with. Exercise a little baby boomer intelligence and seek a gentler plan of action. Children can behave like the devil incarnate in situations where you might feel embarrassed by public displays of tantrum but there is no substitute for calm at these times.

Screaming tempers are very difficult to sustain in the face of absolute calm and a stony determination not to respond angrily. Take a deep breath and you’ll find yourself able to communicate affectionately with the child, ignoring your private desire to scream even louder than they. If you still can, kneel beside the child so that your face is on a level with theirs; there is nothing scarier than having a large adult towering over you when you are trying to have your best public screaming fit.

Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers: Temper Tantrums in Children

Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers: Temper Tantrums in Children

When the child understands that you are not going to shout and scream and in fact, join in with the hysteria game, it is likely in most cases that calm will be restored. This is not the time to begin extracting apologies; just walk away and address the cause of the problem thirty minutes later, perhaps. By that time the child will have recovered some measure of quiet and be easier to approach.

Baby boomers are the older generation nowadays but there is no need to behave like an elderly despot: a calmer attitude is more productive.

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Baby Boomers Guide to The Dangers of Overindulgence

Thursday, June 18th, 2009
Psychological Article on Baby Boomers Guide to The Overindulged Child

Psychological Article on Baby Boomers Guide to The Overindulged Child

A Psychological Article by Boomeryearbook.com

Overindulging a child can set off a heartbreaking string of dysfunctions, rendering the child unable to socialize effectively with others. The middle aged and elderly baby boomer is at the sharper end of trying to manage children with the symptoms of spoiling, usually in the role of grandparent.

Baby boomers enjoyed a long leash as children, as a rule. Baby boomers were not in the unenviable position of being ‘seen and not heard’ – in fact most were seen and heard and how! Baby boomers therefore sometimes have an issue with inflicting discipline on their nearest and dearest – it’s that freedom thing again!

Freedom of choice for children is certainly wonderful but hardly appropriate when it’s three hours past midnight and everyone wants to kill Junior because he is playing baseball in the dining room. Baby boomers have an inbred ability to be laid back but indulgence of this kind is harmful to the child and anyway, the rest of the family have a right to peace and quiet.

Overindulgence is sometimes understandably mistaken for love. Love makes the World go around true enough but unfortunately, overindulgence can lead to dysfunction and unhappiness for a child who is too young to understand why he is no longer invited to birthday parties and play dates. He (or she) will not have comprehended that his poor behaviour in the past precludes him from further invitation. That poor behaviour is usually the result of overindulgence on the part of the parents, the grandparents, or both.

The urge to protect and nurture a child is overwhelming for some and perhaps for baby boomers there is an acute desire to ensure grandchildren enjoy the world as much as they did when growing up. Whatever the excuse for providing a child with an excess of everything, the result is the same; poor behaviour and exclusion for the child.

As the child develops, poor behaviour is likely to deteriorate further if left unchecked. The answer is to recognize the cause and stop the process of overindulgence before the child becomes beyond amendment. Overindulgence is debilitating and can damage a child’s ability to be considerate, to interact sociably, to behave civilly and to retain a level of concentration at school.

The other extreme, which is unrelenting discipline, is equally unacceptable. The happy compromise, somewhere between, is the formula for a happy kid and a happy baby boomer grandparent.

Children flourish within restriction, as long as it is not too harsh. A little restraint can go a long way to providing a healthy framework for a child to grow within and baby boomers are clever enough to know just how much restraint is necessary for peace and harmony.

The Psychological Article on The Baby Boomers Guide to The Dangers of Overindulgence is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of psychological coaching suggestions and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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