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Making Provisions for your dog after you’re gone

Saturday, August 29th, 2009

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By Boomeryearbook.com

Dogs can be the companions of our later life and many people profess to love their dogs even more than they loved their departed relatives, especially relatives they were not particularly close to, such as the mother-in-law! People with elderly problems who are dedicated to their pets are well aware that they will probably not outlive their animals, yet very few make proper provision for their pets, should the worst happen.

The idea of sailing toward the end of life without making responsible provisions for a surviving spouse would be unthinkable for most people. Yet in spite of loving their pets to distraction, many neglect this vital provision and leave the fate of a beloved pet companion to chance. It is certain that a pet left alone after an owner’s death, especially an elderly pet, will have little chance of finding another home and they will probably end their days in some ghastly rescue center with hundreds of other unfortunate dogs and cats who were once treasured but sadly left behind.

Making proper provisions for your dog after your death is so easy. Many people with elderly problems who have an extended family can make arrangements prior to their death to ensure some younger member of the clan takes on Fido in his twilight years. Quite often there is someone delighted to have the chance of adopting a well behaved pet but in the confusion which follows bereavement, such things might be low on the list of priorities. By the time someone gets around to doing something about a treasured pet, it is too late and the poor dog has been destroyed or passed to a dog pound.

When you know you have elderly problems and you are considering how to leave your estate after death, it might be a good idea to write your intentions for your dog into your will and ensure your attorney is aware of your wishes where your pet is concerned. If there is no family member willing to take on an extra set of paws, there are some lovely doggy homes and hotels around as long as financial provisions have been put in place. These institutions are quite different from the state pounds where dogs are often kept in over crowded conditions due to the sheer numbers of abandoned animals.

Remember if you have more than one dog, to mention in your last will and testament if you do not want them separated. It is not unusual for dogs that have grown up together to form a strong attachment, in which case it would be cruel to part them.

For many people, their dogs are as close to them and as precious as their children. You would not entertain the idea of leaving your children without provision, so why not be as compassionate with the furry and faithful companion who sees you through every crisis in your life and sticks with you through thick and thin!

Making Provision for Your Dog After Your Death is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Getting a New Puppy: A Guide to Training a Puppy for the Baby Boomer or Booming Senior Owner

Saturday, August 29th, 2009

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By Boomeryearbook.com

The aging baby boomer or booming senior owner of a new puppy might already be experiencing personalelderly problems and the decision to welcome a new addition to the family may well have been made due to loneliness or the loss of a life partner. A pet can certainly help to reduce the effects of bereavement, partly because the nurturing process is therapeutic and partly because the company provided stems isolation at times of solitude, such as evenings and early mornings.

Older dog owners often have particular issues, such as an inability to move quickly. If you have a new puppy, make sure you use a harness and lead when you are out walking, rather than a simple collar arrangement which might easily be ‘slipped’, allowing puppy to escape onto a busy road. Be mindful that you are no longer as agile as you used to be and your elderly problems are likely to hinder your ability to catch a young puppy on the run, even if you had the inclination to try!

New puppies can be naughty and boisterous. Make sure yours gets enough exercise to reduce the risk of boredom and keep your own joints supple and free of elderly problems. Puppies that chew the furniture might have been left alone too long or given too much freedom during the teething stage. Also ensure you give your new puppy plenty to chew on and encourage him to exercise his sharp little teeth; that way he might leave your belongings alone!

House training needs to be addressed early and persevered with until puppy has learned to be clean. People with elderly problems cannot be cleaning doggy mess every day: it’s unhygienic, unnecessary and depressing. Take professional advice if your puppy is persistently soiling the rugs and do it soon to avoid naughty habits forming.

There is nothing nicer than having a lovely, cuddly puppy to snuggle into. For someone who is aging, a puppy can be solace for the children who grew up, for the grandchildren who live far away or for the wonderful wife or husband who is no longer around. Remember, however, to allow your puppy to interact with other people to promote his ability to socialize and reduce the risk of his becoming over protective and snappy with strangers.

Try not to spoil a puppy. Feeding at the table and handfed snacks between meals are a no-no if you want your pup to grow up with good habits and polite manners. Introducing snacks to a puppy can result in drooling – those awful slimy shoelaces that hang from the jowls and make everyone feel nauseous! Cute in a little puppy but repulsive in an older dog and puppies tend to grow up quickly! Feed only at mealtimes and always in puppy’s own bowl, never on a plate that is used for humans.

If you are going to allow your dog onto the sofa when he is full grown, that is certainly up to you. But if you are going to object to a fully grown Newfoundland taking up two thirds of the couch, do not allow him to get up there as a puppy! Once dogs have established their allowable territory, it is impossible to convince them to change their habits.

Getting a New Puppy A Guide to Training a Puppy for the Elderly Owner is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Making a Difference: Why Older Rescue Pets Deserve a Second Chance at Life

Saturday, August 29th, 2009

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By Boomeryearbook.com

One of the more annoying aspects of getting older and facing elderly problems is the requirement to make adjustments to our routine. Just at the precise moment when we begin to enjoy seeing the same friends we have seen every day for years, they start moving away or otherwise leaving us! So inconsiderate of them and before you know it, your social circle has halved!

Jokes aside, getting older necessitates a lot of changes as we begin to lose companions and also begin to develop elderly problems. Just as we lose our friends in older age, so do pets. Dogs who have served their masters loyally for many years end up in dog pounds because proper arrangements have not been made to give them a home after their owners pass away. Is there anything worse for a dog than finding himself in a cold cage locked up with a dozen barking and yapping strangers instead of being tucked up in his own bed?

What must go through a dogs mind when this happens? What did I do? Why have I been locked up here when I have been such a good boy? One of the worst character traits of the human race is its arrogance when it comes to pets. A man would not dream of leaving his wife destitute after his death (okay, some would but not the decent ones) yet he would leave his dog on the street.

The pets that have been deserted in homes and rescue centers all over the country deserve a second chance at life. Not all of them can find good second homes and many die in the pound, pining for the owner they loved and protected for so long.

Making a difference to an older pet can afford a great deal of personal satisfaction. Taking the decision not to adopt a puppy this time can be a lifeline for an older dog. They are so grateful and their loyalty is touching. At first they are tentative guests in your home but after a while they begin to integrate and deal with their new surroundings and become a valued friend and companion for an older owner and one who may be experiencing elderly problems in later life.

Most people whiz through early life without lending a second thought as to how they will spend their twilight years. Many fool themselves into thinking things will not change and their wives or husbands will be there forever. Immortality is something none of us can depend upon, however, and it is certain that that later life will bring bereavement and enforced adjustment to a new routine when loved ones and old friends are no longer present.

Elderly problems are unavoidable and the prospect of spending time alone for someone who has been accustomed to constant company can be daunting but many aging baby boomers and seniors reduce loneliness and isolation by bringing an older dog home for a second chance with a new friend.

Making a Difference: Why Older Rescue Pets Deserve a Second Chance at Life is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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Giving an Old Dog a Home

Saturday, August 29th, 2009

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By Boomeryearbook.com

Hopefully, everybody gets old, a sometimes unpleasant truth. Everybody has to face they are not getting any younger and start dealing with elderly problems that start to bite in our late baby boomer years, or sometimes earlier, and continue until we finally shuffle off our mortal coil, by which time hopefully we will have lived life to the full.

Predictably, our dogs get older with us and all too often we have to face the agony of losing a long term pet; a dog who has romped through the woods with us, played catch in the park, played with our children, seen off intruders (and occasionally one or two we would have preferred to be made welcome – we all make mistakes) and given us years of companionship and love.

What on earth do we do when our constant companion is suddenly gone? Many people vow never to get another dog but invariably they change their minds after a year or two and start looking for another doggy friend. Anyone who has returned home after a bad day to an ecstatic welcome from their dog will understand the feeling of comfort a dog can give. A dog’s affections are without strings. The equation is a simple ‘I will love you forever no matter what’. This is the kind of devotion you do not get from a fellow human being.

So as you are getting on and possibly have elderly problems to consider, what kind of dog do you look for? Well most people consider taking a puppy into their homes and of course puppies are cute but they do require a lot of hard work and attention in the early days of training and possibly someone with elderly problems might be better off with an older dog.

Every year many thousands of people die without making provision for the pets that are left behind. The faithful and loyal friend who has seen you through all your problems over many years might suddenly find himself locked up in the pound with hundreds of other dogs, scared and lonely and confused. At least consider giving one of these beautiful dogs a home. It’s not all about the cute factor, at least it shouldn’t be; a dog that is seven or eight years old might already have elderly problems but he also will have other years of life and love to give. He can’t be happy in a dog rescue center.

If you do decide to give an older dog a home, bear in mind that there might be a period of settling in. This might take six months and over that time your dog will get to know you and love you. At first there might be some hiccups. You might try to feed dry food to a dog that has always been fed on fresh meat. You might discover your dog has allergies to certain things, or he might not like the mailman or the neighbor’s cat. Patience will pay off and if you let your dog know you disapprove of bad behavior he will soon settle down.

Giving an Old Dog a Home is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Furry Friends: Pets Getting Old with their Owners

Saturday, August 29th, 2009

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By Boomeryearbook.com

As we get older, our routines change and we slow down. Possibly we will lose our life companion and have to make some painful adjustments in our day to day lives. The onset of elderly problems can cause more distress and leave us feeling isolated and useless. As oftentimes our friends are just as elderly as we are, we find that bereavement is something we must deal with more and more each year that passes.

Keeping a sense of humor is something that can see us through some upsetting moments in our baby boomer and older age and keeping a faithful and affectionate pet such as a dog can be the answer to loneliness and isolation. As our own elderly problems diminish our physical and mental capacities, our dogs are also getting a little grey around the muzzle and beginning to display the symptoms of doggy elderly problems, becoming slower and more likely to sleep during the day.

As we age, our bodies normally slow us down and we no longer need the level of exercise we once did; a long walk in the park each day might suffice and this is where a dog can really be an asset in our latter years.

Some prefer to be ‘pet free’, protesting that pets are too much of a tie and if there is a dog at home it is difficult to leave and travel etc. However, dogs can always go along if you make the right arrangements and pick somewhere they are welcome. Some dogs just love going out in the car – mine puts his nose out of the window and the wind blowing his shaggy coat makes him look like a Mad Professor – and they make great travelling companions.

Dogs are highly intelligent and caring and often will adopt a sharper sense of protection as their owner ages. It is common to see dogs guiding their frail owners with elderly problems across the road and not just dogs trained to guide the blind but ordinary, loyal pooches who sense their owners are becoming slightly dependant. So they step in and shoulder the responsibility of getting them both across the road safely.

A dog can be a close friend as we age and it is important that we recognize our furry friend is getting on in years too. Take your dog to the vet for regular check ups, have their weight checked to make sure there is not too much strain being placed upon their pelvic joints and if they are too heavy, help them to diet and exercise to get the weight off and lengthen their life. Pay closer attention to their claws, which grow longer in age (same as ours!) and require clipping more regularly.

Most of all spend time with your dog and give him (or her) all the love and devotion he has given to you over years of love and loyal companionship.

Furry Friends: Pets Getting Old with their Owners is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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The Companion at Your Knee: How Dogs Can Provide Comfort to Baby Boomers

Saturday, August 29th, 2009

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By Boomeryearbook.com

One of the worst aspects of getting on in life is the prospect of loneliness. We all lose people who are close to us and losing a long term partner or wife, or husband, can be the most traumatic event of our lives. As we get older and elderly problems begin to make an appearance in our lives; one of the most effective comforts available is the friendship given freely by a dog or a cat.

Dogs can be life companions. So many pets left behind when partners die provide an amazing depth of comfort to the grieving survivor. They are one of the more loyal and faithful species and will go to any length to protect their owners, even if they receive only a modicum of attention in return. For someone with elderly problems, a dog can provide an irreplaceable companionship.

Dogs traditionally require exercise and in this respect can provide a great incentive for boomers and elderly legs to stretch every day instead of vegetating on a couch somewhere…the secret to an active older age is staying supple and mobile. Walking a dog each day is enough exercise to provide an aging frame with the movement required to help keep elderly problems such as arthritis and stiff joints under control.

People with elderly problems who have recently been bereaved sometimes choose to take in a dog for company. If you are considering getting a dog and you are quite elderly, bear in mind that a very small puppy might represent quite a lot of work. Small puppies require house training, will need routine trips to the vet and might actually chew your slippers!

On the other hand, there are so many beautiful older dogs, some of whom might themselves be recently bereaved, who would appreciate a loving home and be grateful for the warmth not only of your fireside but also your affections. Additionally, small puppies are likely to survive you and be left without a home.

Take the time to consider whether you should adopt a puppy or a more mature doggy friend. If you have the means to secure a loving home for your puppy after you have gone, there are some advantages in adopting a younger dog, not the least of which is that a younger animal will probably outlive you, giving you companionship for the rest of your life.

A dog can be the means of re-establishing a routine in a life rendered lonely by bereavement and elderly problems. The necessity of caring for a living creature, although it cannot replace the affections of a lost partner, can provide activity in a life that otherwise might feel empty and purposeless.

Doggy companions are a vital part of life for many elderly people who feel they are unable to face old age alone. They are the loyal friends who stick by us through any disaster, including pain and death.

The Companion at Your Knee How Dogs Can Provide Comfort in Old Age is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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6. Co-Dependency: The Effects of Alcoholism on a Marriage

Saturday, August 29th, 2009

By Boomeryearbook.com

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Co-Dependency Alanon

People who have been married a long time, especially those who are old enough to experience elderly problems, have usually fallen into a routine with their husbands or wives. It is true that the first flush of passion usually steps aside to allow a more mellow affection in later years and occasionally this comfortable friendship can lead to a certain amount of carelessness between long term spouses and partners.

The first signs of alcohol dependency in a partner can be a passing observation of your husband or wife having ‘one too many’ drinks at a social gathering and then repeating the process at every opportunity. Watch for it and take note of it…

Alcohol dependence can begin with having one or two drinks before leaving for an evening with friends, instead of waiting to have a drink in the company of others. This need for alcohol to provide the ‘buzz’ of sociability can be an early warning that all is not well. Elderly problems are certainly not the cause of alcoholism in the elderly but sometimes the symptoms of elderly problems can cloud a more serious addiction to alcohol.

Alcoholism is a cruel and invasive condition that all too often lulls the sufferer into believing he or she is not in any immediate danger of addiction. Once the addict finally understands he is the throes of an addiction, he might pursue a program of denial for some time before finally admitting he needs help to restore his ability to say no to alcohol. Elderly problems can sometimes complicate this process but with gentle encouragement from a marriage partner the elderly addict can arrive at the point of seeking help as promptly as anyone else.

While the alcoholic is in this tragic stage of denial, all of his or her relationships, including long term friendships and associations with business colleagues, are at risk of breaking down. The addict begins to display unpleasant character traits such as dishonesty – telling lies when the truth will suffice; duplicity – making excuses for being unable to attend work or attend to family commitments; the ability to set aside every consideration other than the need to find another drink.

Most successful marriages are based on trust, love and friendship. Alcoholism actively threatens the alcoholic’s ability to be trusted; to offer affection and also to be a reliable friend. Almost all of the basic requisites for a successful marriage are compromised by an alcoholic addiction. It is hardly surprising then that so many alcoholics land in the divorce courts either prior to, during or after attending a recovery program.

The human desire to survive is as finely tuned in the wife or husband of an alcoholic as it is in the alcoholic himself. A person who has been lied to and abused for years, while his or her husband or wife drank away life savings and the means to pay the household bills can hardly be blamed for wanting to leave, even if the alcoholic is well on the way to recovery.

An Alcohol has a lot to answer for, but it is also imperative that the partner seek out help and support such as an Alanon program.

The Effects of Alcoholism on a Marriage is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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5. Co-Dependency: Putting the Bottle Second: Supporting an Alcoholic Through the Twelve Stages of Recovery

Saturday, August 29th, 2009

By Boomeryearbook.com

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Co-Dependency Alanon

The unfortunate aspect of being a drunk is that the bottle comes first: always. There are no boundaries an alcoholic will not trespass in order to secure his (or her) next drink. There are no moral limits to consider and no reason that is good enough to consider doing without that next drink.

An alcoholic who is seeking help is invariably doing so because he or she has no choice and life has reached a crisis point. How that crisis is dealt with can make the difference between an alcoholic going successfully along the twelve steps to recovery and failing miserably and tragically.

Some alcoholics are elderly and also have elderly problems that complicate their recovery process. An elderly alcoholic has certain other issues to deal with, not the least of which is the illusion that they know better than everyone else due to their senior years and experience. This, of course, is complete nonsense: an elderly alcoholic with elderly problems has as much chance of recovery or failure as any other alcoholic. The plaintive excuse, “I can’t face a recovery program at my age” is one that will brook no sympathy at any self help group meeting and one which will likely be met with justifiable impatience.

Supporting a recovering alcoholic requires the patience of a saint and considerable fortitude. Elderly alcoholics with elderly problems often have more time at home in which to indulge in secret drinking, if they are so inclined, whereas younger addicts have the slight recovery advantage of being busier throughout the day. The resolve to cleanse an addiction such as alcoholism requires enormous determination and although the support of family and friends is invaluable, it is the alcoholic who must take on the obligation to change and change permanently.

When dealing with an adult addiction, it is impossible to follow a person around twenty four seven to ensure he or she does not pick up a bottle and it is rare to find a recovering alcoholic who has not ‘fallen off the wagon’ at some stage. What is important is not how many times the person falls off the wagon but that he or she immediatelyclimbs back on it again. This is when support really comes into its own and when the help and love provided by a supporter will help keep a recovering addict on the straight and narrow and ready to try again.

It is important to understand that a supporter of a recovering alcoholic needs to be just that – supportive. Not cloying; not the kind of person who finds excuses for inexcusable lapses, not a clinging leech who interferes and supervises every basic task the addict attempts, not a watchdog and not someone who is weak enough to succumb to self pity. The alcoholic, especially one old enough to have elderly problems, is practiced enough at that and a supporter needs to demonstrate a more positive outlook.

Supporters for recovering alcoholics should study the twelve recovery stages, attend an Alanon program, and discreetly monitor the alcoholic’s progress without being intrusive unless it is absolutely necessary.

Putting the Bottle Second: Supporting an Alcoholic Through the Twelve Stages of Recovery is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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4. Co-Dependency in Alcoholism – A Family Affair: How Alcoholism Affects the Entire Family Structure

Friday, August 28th, 2009

By Boomeryearbook.com

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Co-Dependency Alanon

Being an alcoholic is no fun and certainly nobody denies that addiction is a form of sickness in whatever shape it presents. However, being closely associated with an alcoholic is also no bed of roses and entire families are affected by the social behavior of someone in the grip of alcohol addiction.

For a long term partner, wife or husband, there is a certain obligation felt to help the addict and support them in seeking professional help. For young children and teenagers there are often deeper issues to address, some of which are not aired for months or years as the family struggles to help control the effects of addiction.

When an alcoholic is living within a large family structure, it is reasonable to assume they take up a great deal of attention that might usually be required to help younger members of the family through difficulties caused by adolescence such as exams and teenage physical development. Teenagers already have a battle with hormones: add Grandma’s elderly problems and Dad’s alcohol addiction to the mix and you have a recipe for daily explosive family confrontations.

Extreme addiction to alcohol produces some unpleasant problems, not the least of which is financial. Alcoholism is an expensive addiction and one that requires a constant cash injection to sustain an adequate supply of liquor. Cash spent on a bottle is no longer available for the things teenagers tend to think are essential to life, such as clothes, cell phones and money for entertainment. The lack of funds can make a youngster resent the cause of ‘not being able to do stuff’.

The younger members of the family, although sympathetic to elderly problems, tend to view addiction as an indulgence. Resentment causes teenagers to feel angry, which in turn can cause them to act out or rebel and as psychological articles by Alanon explain, so the vicious circle goes on and on…

An even greater problem occurs when the addict is a mother. Mothers who have an alcohol addiction have multiple problems to overcome for a number of reasons. Women often provide the daily routine in the house, beginning with getting the children out of bed in the mornings to eat their breakfast and ending with putting them to bed at night after a supposedly nutritious supper and a warm bath. All of this breaks down when late into the morning or early afternoon, the lady of the house is sleeping off a bottle induced stupor.

The result is that other members of the family, some of whom might be trying to cope with elderly problems, must take over the household responsibilities while Mom sobers up in the corner – or not, as the case may be. Many American homes are being run by elderly grandparents because parents are either absent or drunk. The social difficulties faced by these reluctant caretakers are immense and in some cases, insurmountable.

Alcoholism A Family Affair How Alcoholism Affects the Entire Family Structure is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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3. Co-Dependency in Alcoholism: The Hidden Bottle: Dealing with an Alcoholic’s Hidden Bottle

Friday, August 28th, 2009
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By Boomeryearbook.com

Alcoholism has an unfortunate way of sneaking up on people. It begins with loved ones having a drink or two after work or sharing a bottle of wine with dinner. The effect is pleasing; conducive to chatty interchange and has the added benefit of loosening the tongue for those who, when sober, have a tendency to shyness.

The effects are even more pronounced if more alcohol is consumed. Suddenly the bottle of wine is no longer shared. The drink or two after work turns into a four hour drinking binge every night and work colleagues begin to avoid the person, not wishing to be associated with a heavy drinker and also perhaps finding the person’s activities distasteful as drunken behavior begins to more prominently feature.

Not everyone who enjoys a drink is an alcoholic. People in general display different reactions to alcohol and not everyone who can consume enormous amounts of alcohol will be addicted to it. However, an addict will be unable to sustain a sensible relationship with alcohol and will usually be unable, once in its grip, to turn away from alcohol without some form of formal help and support.

Elderly alcoholics might also have elderly problems. Elderly alcoholics will usually have been drinking out of control for many years but one or two exceptions may have turned to alcohol following bereavement or trauma; even the shock of unwanted retirement can sometimes push a person’s alcohol dependency to an unacceptable level. For people with elderly problems who might be on strong medication for age related diseases, alcohol can be extremely dangerous.

Simply taking away the bottle will not be a long term solution to the problem. Someone with an alcohol dependency will move heaven and earth to find a bottle if they are so inclined and addicts are notoriously clever at finding ways to secretly drink. The older a person is, the more likely they are to have perfected a system of drinking secretly and the more annoyed they are likely to be when their subterfuge is finally exposed.

Within a family unit, an elderly drinker with elderly problems might be a grandmother or grandfather accustomed to a level of respect from younger members of the family. Often the drinker is someone who has enjoyed the affection and esteem of the family for many years and only now is being revealed as an alcoholic without sufficient control of his or her drinking. This represents a problem for the family as it is important the alcoholic is faced with the reality of having an alcohol dependency that is out of control.

Taking Granpa by the hand and telling him his drinking will be covered up by the rest of his faithful clan is certainly not going to help him sort out his problems. Seek professional medical help in the first instance, followed by joining a self help support group to kick start a positive approach to drinking for those with elderly problems.

The Hidden Bottle: Dealing with an Alcoholic is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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