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Alcohol Recovery Step 4: The State of Readiness and Wanting to Change

Friday, August 28th, 2009
Alcoholism

Alcoholism


By Boomeryearbook.com

At stage four of the twelve steps to recovery from alcohol addiction, an addict might turn to his or her family doctor for further help.

It is widely believed that alcoholics need to be trotted along to a dependency self help group at the first available opportunity and undoubtedly these groups are invaluable support for recovering alcoholics. However, a family doctor will have access to certain information which tells him how the body is coping with alcohol addiction and the withdrawal process. An honest interview with a trusted medical expert at this stage can be invaluable, especially if the addict is also suffering with physical or mental elderly problems.

A recovering alcoholic going through the twelve steps will begin to experience the first threads of success at stage four and begin to feel a winning sense of self worth. By this time, some ugly truths have been faced and some fearsome dragons slain. The addict is beginning to understand how to avoid social occasions where their resolve might be challenged and learn how to avoid dangerous scenarios where it becomes extremely difficult to resist the temptation to drink. The addiction itself has begun to grow whiskers and is no longer quite so scary. Elderly problems which might accompany the alcoholism will probably by now have been recognized as a separate issue to the problem of alcohol dependency.

Stage four is a time of readiness for the recovering alcoholic. It is a time of polishing armour and making a final push, as the final stages through the twelve steps are concerned with review and helping others. At stage four the alcoholic might still be in the process of self analysis and although this process never really stops, at stage four it is still the major part of being ready for the final stages of recovery.

At this point in the process, the alcoholic has admitted openly, honestly and completely that they are addicted to alcohol and will probably have accepted they will be unable to drink ever again. One or two will be so elated over their successes that they will vow never to drink again: for others the path is rockier. Addicts with elderly problems to contend with in addition to their alcohol dependency might have taken a while longer to reach stage four.

By stage four, recovering alcoholics will have mastered the art of sharing their problem with others and be receptive to hearing about other people’s difficulties. The first three stages are heavily concerned with self analysis and so stage four allows a brief breathing space for the addict to review his own journey and be ready for what lies ahead.

A certain serenity might have been achieved by stage four that will have been noticeably absent in someone with an alcohol dependency in the first three stages of recovery. The ability to recognize danger zones has become fine tuned and those with elderly problems will be less stubborn; more receptive to advice; less arrogant about their entitlement to respect due to their great age.
Alcohol Recovery: The State of Readiness and Wanting to Change is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Alcohol Recovery

Alcohol Recovery

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3 Facing Alcoholism: Honesty-Making a List of our Faults- Warts and All

Thursday, August 27th, 2009
Overcoming Alcoholism

Overcoming Alcoholism

By Boomeryearbook.com

Alcoholics can be a self pitying lot! Sometimes, even in the face of enormous encouragement, they will see themselves as being unsupported, unloved and uncared for. Recovering alcoholics approaching the point where they recognize their problem, facing it head on and achieving some success in turning away from their addiction, must nonetheless still undertake a process of self analysis to understand how to conquer further temptation.

Stage three in the process of alcohol recovery involves taking a long and hard look in the mirror and sometimes admitting the reflection is not particularly attractive. Long term alcoholics, some of whom suffer with elderly problems alongside their alcohol dependency, may find the journey through the process of self analysis incredibly difficult and fraught with self doubt and anger at having to go through the ordeal.

Steps in Alcohol Recovery

Steps in Alcohol Recovery

‘Warts and all’ is a concept we all enjoy when it involves hearing of someone else’s shortcomings but not necessarily our own; especially when we approach our older baby boomer years and possibly have to deal with elderly problems. Some of us harbour the attitude that because we are getting on in life, our faults should be overlooked or ignored out of respect to our age. Even people who are not alcoholics are susceptible to this indulgence; people who are alcohol dependant are inclined to pounce on any loophole that will allow a little leniency and this is the exact time when strict self examination is crucial to success.

The third stage toward recovery is a time of reflection and taking stock of progress made, along with a determination to continue on the road to sobriety. For those who are baby boomers and have a few more years under their belt, the process is no different to that which must be undertaken by a thirty year old. Elderly problems offer no excuse for sitting back and protesting, “Oh I can be cut a little slack at my age”. No, no. The entire process of recovery from alcohol addiction is stapled to a firm resolve to change completely and forever.
Alcoholism is no easy beast to slay. The symptoms of withdrawal, even in the mildest form, are unpleasant and debilitating, especially if they are aggravated by elderly problems. A recovering alcoholic might suffer vomiting, loss of appetite, insomnia, sweats, tremors, involuntary twitching, headaches and a racing or irregular heart rate. Any of these symptoms would cause anxiety in most people but for an alcoholic they represent an excuse to give in. More severe withdrawal might include convulsions, hallucinations, delirium, DT’s and black outs.
Stage three is protracted and difficult. Not only is the alcoholic acutely uncomfortable and suffering from physical symptoms, which might also be combined with the symptoms of elderly problems, he or she will be aware that they are less than half way to complete recovery.
It is hardly surprising then that many alcoholics who have come through all twelve stages of recovery view stage three as one of the most difficult and label it the ‘fork in the road’.

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2 Alcoholism- The Power That Can Restore Sanity and Tranquillity

Thursday, August 27th, 2009
Alcoholism Chart

Alcoholism Chart


By Boomeryearbook.com

Alcoholism is a powerful addiction and one that seems impossible to overcome to someone unfortunate enough to suffer under its influence. The effects of alcohol can take a toll on someone’s physical and mental faculties; transforming their personality, alienating them from those closest to them, and turning their life upside down. It can have a malignant influence on the young, the middle aged and even those old enough to be experiencing elderly problems. Is it any wonder, then, that so many alcoholics find it difficult to stay on the road to recovery after the first step has been taken?

One of the major features of an alcoholic’s life is turmoil. An alcoholic must run his or her daily routine as best they can between drinks. The addiction in its early stages appears to the alcoholic to be manageable; pleasant and sociable even. However, the latter throes of alcohol dependency are not pretty. The alcoholic is controlled by drink; unable to go anywhere by car because they cannot do without a drink for long enough to drive; unable to be civil without a drink in their hand, lying to cover up their addiction, and sinking into debt because every cent goes to paying for the bottle. Alcoholism is a terrible way to live and a terrible way to die.

The alcoholic’s determination to restore their own sanity and tranquillity is the key to the second stage of recovering from alcoholism. Although it is true that the hardest part of recovery is admitting there is a problem, the second stage is no bowl of cherries either. For elderly alcoholics, the recovery process is often made more difficult by elderly problems which might include absent mindedness, physical pain caused by age related diseases, isolation and loneliness. Being alone in older age is one of the major elderly problems people might face in later life and for a recovering alcoholic the barriers to be broken down can seem impenetrable.

Taking charge of one’s life is a challenge most people would prefer to face in younger years. For people who have elderly problems and also have an alcohol dependency the difficulties are obvious and sometimes the sufferer will stubbornly refuse help for an agonizing period of time.

Once help has been sought, however, alcoholics with elderly problems often display an iron resolve to beat their alcohol addiction in spite of having to tackle other infirmities.

For those in the position of having to help a recovering alcoholic, the key to the most effective program of help is the restoration of calm and order, which in turn helps to recover serenity, self-composure, and sanity. The chaos that reigns supreme in the life of an alcoholic is one of the most destructive influences and a common reason for the alcoholic ‘falling off the wagon’. A safe haven of calm is always the anchor to success for someone with an alcohol dependency and supporters who are able to help provide the alcoholic with continuity and gentle encouragement are those who are most likely to succeed.

Alcohlic Recovery: Step 2

Alcohlic Recovery: Step 2

Alcohol Recovery-The Power That Can Restore Sanity and Tranquillity is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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1 Facing Up to Alcohol:Admitting to Being Out of Control

Monday, August 24th, 2009
Alcoholism: Step One-Admitting to being out of control

Alcoholism: Step One-Admitting to being out of control

By Boomeryearbook.com

Alcohol addiction is a terrible burden. Alcoholics come in all ages, shapes and sizes and some, tragically, are hardly old enough to drink yet incredibly have an alcohol dependency. Older alcoholics might be experiencing elderly problems that aggravate their addiction, such as disability: it is very difficult to drink secretly if you are dependant on someone else to buy the alcohol.

As the elderly alcoholic becomes more reliant on others to provide alcohol, his addiction becomes more apparent, usually followed by resentment as caring friends and relatives eventually refuse to buy an unlimited supply.

Alcoholics with elderly problems have probably been drinking for many years. The key to beating an addiction is always taking the first step of admitting there is a problem. For an elderly drinker, as with all drinkers, this is often the step that is the most difficult and one that seems impossible to take.

Sometimes, elderly alcoholics do not face up to their addiction until they have become dependant on someone else to a debilitating degree. A man (or woman; alcoholism does not discriminate) who has spent most of his working life drinking to excess and being unable to give up drinking, will not see this as a problem until someone else is involved. That someone might be a professional caretaker, or a member of the family, another person with elderly problems or even another alcoholic.

At some stage, elderly alcoholics usually have usually tried and failed to give up drinking. Sometimes, the act of trying to stop drinking will have lasted only a few hours; sometimes a few days; albeit unsuccessfully. As the alcoholic ages and elderly problems such as forgetfulness or dementia set in, the addicts behaviour typically becomes more difficult with retirement allowing him (or her) more time in which to drink.

Regardless of age or circumstance, the first step to alcohol addiction control is always admitting there is a dependency on alcohol. An addict finds this admission incredibly difficult and will sometimes experience a real sense of loss, failure and despair at having to face up to the fact that they are out of control.

The theory that all alcoholics know they are alcoholics is not true. Someone who is able to stop drinking for a few days might easily believe they are still in control of their ability to stop completely: “Well, I stopped for three whole days last week, so that proves I am not an alcoholic”. In fact, it only proves that the addict can stop drinking for three days. The effect of alcohol on the addict and the inability to be without it is what derails their effort to truly conquer the problem.

Alcoholic dependency in a person with elderly problems will already have caused considerable inconvenience throughout their life. They might have been unable to go to work because they have been in an alcohol induced sleep; they might have been unable to pay their bills (alcohol is expensive). Facing up to the problem is hard enough at any time but an aging alcoholic might also have elderly problems that aggravate efforts at recovery.

Alcoholism

Alcoholism

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A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words

Tuesday, August 4th, 2009

 

Obama's Reaction to an Elderly Problem

Obama's Reaction to an Elderly Problem

 

One picture is worth a thousand words.
 
Take note: Professor Gates, a Black friend of Obama’s, needs help walking down the stairs. Who is helping him? Is it the President who cares so much about him?
 
No, the President could care less. He has accomplished him mission which was to get himself off the hook after his racist comment. Notice the “cat that ate the canary” look on his face.
 
It is the White cop, Sergeant Crowley, who was ridiculed by Obama last week as stupid who is taking the time to help Professor Gates down the stairs. 
 
If that doesn’t tell you anything about your President, nothing will.

THE ORIGIN OF LIFE – DID LIFE BEGIN ON PLANET EARTH?

Monday, August 3rd, 2009
Origins of Life

Origins of Life

 

 Joseph J Kusnell for Boomeryearbook.com

How did life begin?

In the Cosmos that engulfs us, there are upwards of a billion, trillion, trillion stars with almost as many planets. Do you know how many that is? Here’s how many that is:

1,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000 stars and planets.

You would be hard pressed to find many knowledgeable people that now believe that among all those trillions of planets, earth alone harbors intelligent life forms. It is far more likely that there are thousands and perhaps millions of such planets scattered across the great reaches of the limitless Cosmos, that harbor life.

But those places are so far away that they have very little reality to us. We are never going into outer space no matter what you hear and no one from outer space is coming here. The distances are simply too vast. (For more: see my article titled: Space Exploration – A Journey To Nowhere”.)

So our focus in this paper will be our Solar System.

Life as we know it exists today on Planet Earth. Earth is the only planet in our system that is suitable for it. The reason is fairly easy to comprehend: Mercury is far too close to the Sun and therefore too hot. Venus while not as close and not as hot, is still too close and too hot. Earth as Goldilocks would say is “not too close and not too far but just right” and therefore we have life. Mars is too far away from the Sun to feel its warmth and therefore too cold for life and so there is no life. It all depends on two things: (1) how far you are from the Sun and (2) how powerful are the Sun’s rays that reach you.

Get the picture?  The inner planets are, in order: (1) way too hot (2) too hot (3) just right and (4) way too cold. And all, as I said, because of two things: (1) their distance from the Sun and (2) the strength of the Suns rays that reach them.

With that having been said, I begin my paper on life in the Solar system.

The Beginning:

What is the sun? What fuel does it burn? Is the Sun’s fuel renewable? If not, how long will it last and what happens when it is gone?

This is a hypothetical – a theory of how life began. I hope you find it interesting. 

The Sun is a star. A very small, out of the way star, one of billions of trillions of trillions of such Stars.

The Sun is on fire. Its fuel is created by a process known as nuclear fusion, a process that stars can affect but we cannot. 

The Sun’s fuel is finite, that means it is not renewable, which is to say one day it will run out. At that time, the fire will go out, the heat and light that Earth receives from the Sun will come to and end, and we will be gone. But not to worry, this is not scheduled to happen for a very long time and chances are we will be gone long before then. 

Our Sun has a lifetime of fifteen billion years and was created ten billion years ago. We therefore are two thirds of the way through the Sun’s life cycle and because of that, two thirds of the Sun’s fuel is gone. The Sun is not what it used to be. 

Stars are all born and all die in the same way – as a gigantic, cataclysmic explosion in the heavens. They are born in a Supernova and when they exhaust their fuel, they die as a Supernova. It is a cycle of life and death.

Understanding all this is essential to understanding the theory I am about to present concerning the beginning of life in our solar system, a theory it is likely you have not heard before.

Many of you reading this paper have a home with a fireplace. I wish to talk to you about that fireplace. First let me set the scene.

The home is a hunting lodge in the Great northwoods of Canada. You are there with guests. It’s a bitterly cold night in the middle of December and the wind is howling outside the cabin. The cabin is large with a big family room that has a big fireplace.

As the night comes on, one of your guests suggests you all go into the family room and sit around a cozy fire. You agree so you go about the business of starting a fire in the fireplace. You take the logs that are stacked beside the fireplace, put them in,  and in minutes you have a roaring fire going. The room quickly heats up.

Unfortunately in your haste to get a fire going, you put on way too many logs and as a result, the fire quickly becomes much too hot for comfort. You have given it too much fuel.

Rule 1: A fire is hottest when it has the most fuel available to burn.

Rule 2: A fire’s heat diminishes as its fuel is consumed.

Rule 3.  A fire goes out when its fuel is used up. 

Back in your family room, your guests quickly become uncomfortable. The room is just too hot and the closer they are to the fireplace, the hotter it is. If the fire is not banked or they don’t move back, they will all die of heat stroke. Since the fire cannot be banked, you suggest they all move to the back of the room as far from the hot fire as they can get. And so they do.  After relocating, they are more comfortable.

But as the night progresses, three things happen: (1) the logs in the fireplace begin to burn down (2) the warmth from the fire starts to recede and (3) the back of the room that was warm earlier now begins to get downright chilly. Something has to be done.

You and your guests have three choices. (1) Go into another room (2) Add more logs (fuel) to the fire. (3) Move closer to the fire where it is apt to be warmer. 

Since there are no more logs inside and it is way too cold to go outside, and your guests prefer the family room, they select Option #3 and move closer to the fire. As a reward, they are immediately warmer.

But the evening is long and the night is bitterly cold and as the logs continue to burn down which they do, the warmth doesn’t radiate as far as it did earlier and so it isn’t long before the problem reappears: the cold is reaching them once again.

And once again the guests have their choice and once again they chose to move closer to the fire.

It’s a good idea but it is only a temporary solution because the real problem is the fire is running out of fuel and it’s only a matter of time before the fuel will be gone and the room will become uninhabitable no matter how close they move. 

And why will the fire go out?

It will run out of fuel?
 
Correct. Fire needs fuel and without fuel, a fire will go out.

This is the dynamic upon which I have constructed my theory – The Theory Of The Progression of Life Throughout Our Solar System.

The Solar System:

You all are familiar with our Solar System. You know what it looks like. There are nine planets each zipping around the sun at various distances. The planets are broken into two groups known as (1) the inner planets and (2) the outer planets.

The outer planets are generally large concentrations of gas, and they don’t concern us. The inner planets however are rocky planets with a core like our own and it those that do concern us. They are: (1) Mercury (2) Venus (3) Earth and (4) Mars.

At the present time, the planet Mercury, nearest the Sun, is the hottest of all the inner planets, far too hot to shelter any living life form that is familiar to us. 

Next in line from the Sun is the planet Venus and Venus, while not nearly as hot as Mercury, is still too hot to house familiar life forms.

The third planet from the Sun is Earth. Earth is far enough away from the Sun so that the Sun’s heat is not as strong thereby modulating our temperature to where life can exist, and so we have life. 

Mars, the fourth rocky planet from the Sun is far beyond Earth. By the time the Sun’s rays reach Mars, there is little heat left in them and so Mars is bitterly cold. Too cold for life as we know it; therefore, life does not exist on Mars.

So we see that life is much about the heat and light that emanates from the Sun, the strength of which depends on two factors: (1) how far one is from the Sun and (2) how hot the Sun is at the time. It is important to remember that the power of the Sun’s rays is a product of the amount of fuel available to be burned. Therefore, the rays had the most power when the Sun was new and have much less power today.  

As a result of this dynamic, we can say with certainty that things have changed in our Solar System. Mercury is still very hot but nevertheless cooler than it was in the beginning. And the same dynamic applies to each inner planet in turn. Each planet is cooler today than it was yesterday but warmer today than it will be tomorrow.

Here is a table demonstrating how the temperatures of the planets might have been affected by the amount of fuel remaining in the core of the Sun at any one time.

Planet  When the Sun      Today             Tomorrow                               
_____________Was New ____________________________________________
Mercury 1,300 degrees 900 degrees  500 degrees
Venus     900 degrees 500 degrees  100 degrees
Earth     500 degrees 100 degrees  (-) 300 degrees
Mars     100 degrees (-) 300 degrees  (-) 700 degrees

Note. These are not real temperatures. I am using them to demonstrate a theory.

You can see what I am driving at. Look at Mars. Back when the Sun was new (Column #1) and its core very hot and its heat radiating very far, the temperature on Mars was 100 degrees, perfect for life to have developed. The other three planets, however, were all just too hot for life as we know it. 

Today (Column #2), when the Sun’s strength has diminished because of a reduction of available fuel, temperatures have gotten cooler on all the planets. Mars, which previously had temperatures of 100 degrees, has fallen now to minus a 300 degrees and is therefore, no longer life-friendly and so, there is no longer life on Mars.

But look at Planet Earth. Earth that was far too hot for life at the beginning (500 degrees) has cooled down (100 degrees) and is now life-friendly and so, we have life on Earth. It seems to me that life establishes itself where and when it can.  

Look again at the table and Column #3 – Tomorrow. Tomorrow the Sun’s rays will be even weaker as more and more of the Sun’s fuel is gone. As a result, each Planet will have cooled down. For example:

Mars, cold Today at minus 300, will be colder Tomorrow at minus 700.
Earth, moderate today at 100, will become life-unfriendly Tomorrow at minus 300. Venus, hot Today at 500, will become life-friendly Tomorrow at 100.
Mercury, hot Today at 900 degrees will remain hot Tomorrow at 500. 

So this is my theory: I believe that life may jump from inner planet to inner planet as the surface temperature allows. That at one time (in the Beginning), life as we know it existed on Mars. And that one day in the future, when Earth becomes too cold to sustain our life form, life will disappear from Earth and reappear on Venus and later, even on Mercury is one can exist that close to a dying Sun.

But sadly, in time the Sun’s fuel will all be gone and all life will disappear forever from the Solar system. But it won’t matter, because shortly after that, the Solar System itself will disappear as the Sun explodes in a cataclysmic Supernova. And thus it will all end.
So that’s my theory. That life jumps from planet to planet, taking off a few hundred millions years in between to renew itself as the temperature on the next planet becomes hospitable. During the interval, all signs of life are removed from the previous planet.

But there is another possibility. That possibility is that despite the heat and light and warmth on a planet, other composites are required such as carbon, if we are to have life as we know it.
Lacking such essential elements, life could not develop no matter how warm and bright and comfortable a planet may be.  In that case, since life exists on Earth, we know Earth has those other essential elements. And since it does not exist on other planets and no sign has been found that it ever existed on Mars, perhaps life in this solar system is and has always been limited to the third rock from the Sun.

One day soon, we will know that answer. 

Think about it.

Joey

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Parental Obsession and the Dangers of Umbilical Addiction

Sunday, August 2nd, 2009
Psychological Articles on Parental Obsession

Psychological Articles on Parental Obsession

 

 
Psychological Articles By Boomeryearbook.com

The tight bond which develops between parent and child is well documented to be a driving life force; its legendary power to protect and shield has made history through the ages.  One reads of parents rescuing their children from burning cars or sinking ships, finding almost super human strength to lift many times their body weight, or survive underwater for impossible lengths of time to save their child from drowning, and so on.  Occasionally, this life force warps and becomes damaging to parent, child, and any unfortunate individual close enough to be affected by association.

Sometimes nicknamed Umbilical Addiction, the most common form of this disorder is in women, the maternal instinct propagating into an obsessive need to smother and control, turning the child eventually into an over weaned, incapable shadow, although it is possible for this ugly condition to appear in male parents.  Commonly the attention is focused on a daughter but it can appear between fathers and sons.

The symptoms of obsession begin early, when the child is a toddler, or even before the child is out of diapers.  The mother can go to extraordinary lengths to ensure her child is completely dependant, lavishing attention and unnecessary gifts upon the youngster to guarantee devotion and loyalty.  Detection and control of this behavior is invariably impossible, as all the symptoms are confused with ‘spoiling’ – an over simplified and dog-eared expression sometimes applied to a disorder with far less serious implications.

As the child develops, the traits of this dreadful condition become more obvious.  Interference in the mother’s (or father’s) control results in anger, or even aggression toward anyone who might try to intervene in the child’s behavioral difficulties.  As the child becomes older, the early spoiling tactics produce unacceptable acts of rebellion and disobedience, usually incurring the disapproval of the rest of the family.

The child staggers into adolescence, displaying alarming behavioral dysfunctions such as thieving, lying and rudeness, and always the young adult will continue to remain closely attached to the very parent causing the damage. Elaborate lies may be invented to cover misdemeanors, both by the parent and the offspring, until eventually, as the young adult leaves school and enters the workplace, the delinquent has developed into a dangerous, ego obsessed, narcissistic psychopath.  Sometimes, the situation has festered over such a long period it is impossible for the child to function without the approval and support of the parent.

In extreme cases, the dependency of the child combined with the overbearing control of the parent results in an incestuous relationship as the child is unable to cope with normal interaction with the opposite sex.

Each time the ‘child’ is confronted by authority,  even by the authority of the offending parent, the reaction becomes more intensely anti social, until eventually the individual develops a strong dislike and an active antagonism for most social codes.  Throughout most of this adult’s young life, excuses have been found for his or her stealing, lying, idleness and general delinquency.  When evidence is presented to this person that such behavior cannot continue, the result can be dangerously aggressive and sometimes vindictive.

Such people commonly display a desire to adopt pets, such as dogs and cats, but invariably are cruel to the animals.  The ownership of such pets gives the person comfort and supplies a need which is the result of having few friends.  However, as they are unable to deal with responsibility, they lash out at the animal when they are required to nurture it in any way that causes personal inconvenience.

The early childhood of such people is the key to the behavioral disorders which become apparent later in life.  The adult cannot bear responsibility or control of any description and often their inability to cope with authority and routine leads them to become more and more anti social.  Frequently, they are unable to interact normally with people and elect to work in jobs which do not require social skills.  An ideal profession for such a person would be long distance truck driving, or light house keeping, or working in very noisy environments which prevent conversation – professions which necessitate extended periods of solitude and require little co operation with colleagues.

Those who have reached adulthood carry an ingrained inability to parent their own children.   Typical behavior of such a person would be to produce children but then treat them badly, and so the cycle continues.  Many families tolerate such people because they believe their behavior is merely eccentric; some even imagine them to be colorful in some way, someone to be ‘put up with’ because after all, everyone is different. 

The havoc caused within close family circles by such behavior is unimaginably distressing, especially when the parent invents lies to cover bad behavior, sometimes at the expense of other family members.  Often the cycle of deceit goes on for years, perhaps even up to and after the death of the parent.  Occasionally, the disorder develops into a more sinister condition when the parent, through death, is no longer able to provide emotional support.

The Psychological Article on Parental Obsession and the Dangers of Umbilical Addiction is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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