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This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied behavioral patterns that occur when families are affected by outside events, or by the impact of second and third marriages; the dangers and coaching solutions concerned with ‘spoiled’ children and the hurdles that must be addressed for family newcomers: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.
Psychological Articles and Coaching Tips for Baby Boomers to Avoid/ Alleviate Elderly Problems
Elderly baby boomer grandmothers spent their early youth in a disciplined environment, where a certain amount of responsibility and an exacting standard of behavior was expected by fathers and mothers brought up in the thirties, when the unenviable experience of the depression made an impact on their values and morals.
Now that it is Grandma’s turn to exert some influence on what happens within the family structure, she is determined to be generous and show her grandchildren, especially her granddaughters, that love can be expressed through giving as well as through discipline and a rigid social code.
While baby boomer grandmother was too busy contributing to the family finances to pay much attention to her daughter, resulting in a marked ‘coolness’ in their relationship, she is resolved to ‘make amends’ and show her granddaughter how much she loves her through a form of idolization.
Adoration has a lot to answer for when it comes to spoiled grandchildren, who as a result of over indulgence have no concept of ‘value’. Appreciation suffers cruelly when over indulgence takes over in the life of a child. By the time the child has reached teenage years, considerable damage might have occurred and be almost impossible to undo.
Psychological articles from the schools of Attachment, Object Relations, and Positive Psychology observe that when children are given too much, the basic elements of appreciation are lost. For example, kids who are showered with gifts throughout the year will derive little pleasure from receiving gifts on special occasions such as birthdays and at Christmas time.
The pleasure of receiving a gift loses its magic if the experience happens too often. The worst specimens of ‘spoiling baby boomer Grandmas’ give their grandchildren expensive gifts of toys, clothes and entertainment treats such as restaurant meals, every day. Parents struggle hopelessly to save enough to buy their child a special gift on a special occasion, only to be ‘up-staged’ by Grandma’s Platinum Credit Card. Naughty ole’ Grandma is so obsessed with single-handedly ruining her grandchildren, she hardly notices her daughter’s increasing coolness as resentment begins to bubble dangerously…
Spoiled children grow into spoiled teenagers and this is when the real trouble begins. Our modern society offers every indulgent gadget – usually costly – to gratify every whim of a young adult who hasn’t the slightest inkling of the amount of work required to earn the price of a new mobile phone or a new car or tickets for next week’s rock concert.
Teenage granddaughters who have been subjected to ‘whims of worship’ applied by deluded grandmothers, enjoy owning a wardrobe so extensive they could not possibly wear each outfit even if they changed three times a day for months! Their jewelery is up to date; their sense of style is years ahead of their maturity and their allowances are – well – generous!
Psychological articles that make an interesting study of such behavioral patterns also observe that the teenage granddaughters in this equation also display a capacity for being materialistic and criticizing others who are unfortunate enough not to have a baby boomer cash machine affectionately known as ‘Grandma’.
It may be wise for Grandma to remember the song and familiar adage of the depression years:
“God Bless The Child Who Has Her Own”
For if not, Grandma may unwittingly be creating an “entitled” spoiled young woman.
The Psychological Article on Spoiled Teenage Granddaughters: The Dangers of Giving Too Much is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.
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