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For those lucky characters that are so laid back they are almost comatose, feelings of being ‘strung out’ and ‘tensed up’ are alien and outside their ability to comprehend efficiently. They get out of bed with a smile in the mornings, determined to enjoy their day no matter what happens around them. The boiler has burst? Oh good! A great opportunity to wear the new waders you got for Christmas! The car won’t start? Fantastic! Another day off! Baby boomers who go through their entire lives with an optimistic grin on their faces annoy the heck out of the rest of us, right? There is a happy middle ground, however, where we can all inject a little sunshine into our personality to make us good company and nice to be around.

Psychological articles on Positive Psychology have taught us that stress comes in large and the more popular travel sized package that is easier to deal with. When stress builds to a point where we can no longer tolerate it, our own boiler bursts and we go through what is commonly referred to as a ‘nervous breakdown’, where emotions take over and we are no longer in control of them. Letting go of excessive stress is imperative to achieve any peace or worthwhile enjoyment in later life.

Many baby boomers and others of retirement age, have contained stress for a great part of their life. While you are busy struggling with the corporate ladder and striving to achieve to make sure nobody takes your position from you, as well as battling with all the strain of bringing up children, stress sits neatly outside our range of vision. Often, as the welcome relief of retirement looms, stress crystallizes into an all consuming emotion; almost as if the mind says, “Okay, you can let go now…!” It can be disturbing and upsetting, especially for baby boomers, at a time when they think their lives will be clear sailing from now on…

There are psychological articles that deal with the serious and disturbing effects of having a nervous collapse and provide advice for sufferers on where to seek the professional care required for such illnesses. For those of us who are fortunate enough to be able to deal with stress levels that are within the limitations of our skill set, ‘chilling out’ is what is required!

Interestingly, the gift of overcoming excessive stress levels is often in a person’s ability to ‘shake off’ negativity. The ability to say “So..!?” and “Do I look like I care” – are all seemingly negative and unsympathetic responses to a problem but in fact they are healthy and successful ways to avoid becoming over involved in a situation that might otherwise topple personal confidence; raising stress levels and making the problem, in a way – bigger.

Baby boomers have less difficulty than some other generations in adopting a ‘couldn’t care less’ attitude and in some ways the trick is to care a little, rather than not at all!

The Psychological Article on Letting Go of Stress and Resentment: Chilling Out is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Acceptance is an art form it seems. As we baby boomers get older, we perfect the art of criticism and become more cutting in our appraisal of others yet lend little respect to the greater talent of being able to accept others as they are. Psychological articles from the school of Positive Psycholgy tell us that over enthusiastic criticism can actually have the effect of making us depressed. Unsurprisingly, feelings of guilt often accompany criticism, especially when comments are directed at someone we care for.

As baby boomers approach retirement age, husbands and wives tend to spend more and more time together, putting unaccustomed pressure on a relationship that enjoyed the benefits of independence as each partner had a job and other interests to occupy their ‘critique’. Retirement tends to throw people together, sometimes resulting in a clash of interests and making either one or the other of the partnership over critical and hard to handle.

Accepting who you are is often the first step to accepting others. For many people, the act of picking fault with others is nothing more than a demonstration of self insecurity and leads to an accusing attitude or trying to set the blame for even trivial matters at the door of someone else. It is all to do with wishing to appear worthwhile in the eyes of the other person: ‘I did not do this, it must have been you, I am the perfect one; you are the one who is lucky to have me…’ The opposite result is achieved, of course. Baby boomers often struggle with changing their attitude late in life but it can be done if the change is wanted badly enough.

Accepting other people requires a little more serenity and patience than some of us feel equal to feeling, especially in situations where the other person is genuinely a boring old idiot or is demonstrably of lower intelligence. That pressing urge to tell someone to go and ——– is something we all feel inside when we are tired and want to go home and put our feet up instead of listening to someone talking rubbish or when we feel obliged to stay with someone who is hurting, despite their problems being arguably their own fault.

The point is, well balanced and accepting people DO stay, and DO listen. They have the self control and the compassion to recognize when they must accept and when they need not bother. Psychological articles outline this quite clearly, along with the advice on how to achieve the perception necessary to make the decision on which route to follow!

Baby boomers have the confidence to know who they can accept and who is outside the realms of acceptance. Taking an introspective step toward self acceptance and knowing one’s own limitations and faults can help tolerate the defects found in others. Certainly acceptance brings an amount of satisfaction that you have made an effort – whether it is fairly recognized and rewarded is another matter!

The Psychological Article on Accepting What You Are: Accepting Other People is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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From the cradle to the grave, we baby boomers are influenced by authority. Authority decides where we shall be born; often quite far away from where we will actually live: authority decides where we shall be educated and for how long – where we will live; work; have children and where our children will be educated… When do we ever actually get a say in the way we want to live our lives? The answer is actually ‘no time soon’ but we can at least take control of certain aspects of our lives and be as independently decisive as possible within our social framework.

Psychological articles ask how you can get a handle on your life and turn it the way you want. Begin with making a few simple assessments of what needs to change. The process of self assessment is easy for some baby boomers and not quite so easy for others. Changes might start with resolving to be a little tidier around the house or keeping your work area free of clutter to allow you mind to function more clearly, without having to consider a dozen things before settling on the matter at hand. It might entail standing up for yourself and what you believe in or refusing to be bullied by someone who has habitually coerced you into doing things their way.

Take care of yourself: your inner and outer self requires loving care to function efficiently. Psychological articles from the field of Positive Psycholgoy inform us that putting ourselves first can sometimes be a hurdle for someone who has been taking care of a family and doing a pressured job for many years but the benefits to be enjoyed are almost immediate once you start making an effort to repair your physical and emotional resources.

Try tackling new challenges. New stuff can be scary, especially things that appear to be in the special reserve of all those other people – the smart baby boomers we spend our lives admiring and who we assume to be more talented and intelligent than we. Taking the initiative to say, ‘You know what, I bet I could do that if I tried: old ‘whatsisname’ can do it and I’m smarter than he is’, can change your life as you take back the power to make things happen.

Don’t waste your time and energy dwelling on failures or thinking about things you didn’t do. Invest the time wisely and use it to do the things you know you can do. You can make a difference with a little determination and effort. Exercise a little moderation and stop making sweeping references to your failures (I never win anything) and limitations (I can’t dance; I can’t swim; I can’t sing).

For baby boomers, making changes can win back control and help to initiate a new chapter of fulfilment never thought possible. It is all about being positive and making your life work for you, rather than the other way around. At the end of your life, authoritarian boundaries are at their least effective, so make the best of it and start enjoying your independence.

The Psychological Article on Taking Control of Your Life: Making Your Life Work for You is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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There are people who blunder through life, lurching from one situation to another; usually a result of someone else’s orchestration. There are a number of factors that impact our ability to deal with life’s events. Our awareness and our ability to broaden our interests in what is going on around us affects the influence we can have on what happens to us, with whom and for what reason. Psychological articles on raising awareness explore the possibilities of changing the way we deal with life by broadening our perspectives, and making things happen ‘our way.’

Our personal perceptions of what is going on around us and what is happening to other people tend to peak and trough throughout our lives. Busy executives with a pressured working life tend to have a sharper personal awareness of events that affect their office environment but a lower awareness and perspective of the dramas happening at home. For baby boomers, when retirement comes to someone with a previously demanding working life, problems often arise and it is necessary to work on raising awareness as to what is happening outside a working environment.

Baby boomers with an acute interest in the community tend to have a higher social awareness of how their own contribution to the community has a strong influence of the way things work; the way they are treated by friends and neighbors involved with their community activities; the way they are able to live as a result of those activities, that facilitate a better social life and a wider circle of friends.

Psychological articles that discuss the effects of not having this awareness and leaning toward a less decisive role note that baby boomers who ‘roll’ with the events happening around them, taking only a passive interest in decisions that affect their personal way of life, tend to be more introvert and also more prone to elderly problems: their minds and bodies are less active so therefore they lead a more sedentary lifestyle.

A sharpened awareness and a broader perspective might be applied to any number of daily activities and decisions made by baby boomers, as they find new interests and play a more active role in the society in which they live. The simple process of forming new social groups and the resulting improvement in the social performance of those involved can make a difference to each individual and help maintain a broader interest in events that have an impact on a boomer’s life; also on our ability to makes changes within the social structure.

Taking the step toward raising awareness and broadening perspective is the first in a series of actions that affect the way we work, the way we socialize and the way we deal with family matters that might otherwise take place outside of our control. Our ability to deal with daily crises stems from the level of our awareness and perspective: if that level is inadequate for purpose, we make poor decisions and choices.

The Psychological Article on Raising Your Awareness and Broadening Your Perspective is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Is it ever too late to divorce?

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The modern take on marriage, separation and divorce is hard to accept for many elderly spouses who vowed to love, cherish, obey and generally put up with old ‘whatisname’ forever or until hell freezes over…! ‘In my day, when you made your bed, you lay in it forever…’ was the popular attitude taken by most Grandmothers up until around the late sixties, when baby boomers decided free love was more fun.

Making your bed and laying in it forever does have its points, however, especially if you are a baby boomer approaching seventy and you cannot be bothered to cook your own meals!

Married Man Entering His Home

The trend in modern society is to try out the marriage bed first, by living with a partner for several years before finally agreeing to tie the knot around the sixth birthday of the fourth child of the alliance; a lifestyle that would shock most Grannies of the sixties were they still around to witness it.

Despite being able to take a free trial run, however, many baby boomers still get it horribly wrong and end up in a marital nightmare for many years before finally deciding enough is enough. The results of an unhappy alliance are, unfortunately, all too evident to family and friends who are close enough to the troubled couple to know how painful an unhappy marriage can be.

The misery of discord might often lead to one or both partners taking lovers and having short or long term affairs with other people. The eternal triangle will result in gossip; intrigue; deceit and usually end in divorce no matter how old the parties involved might be. Deeply unhappy couples sometimes continue to live under the same roof despite their differences but stubbornly refuse to be sociable or even polite over a painful and punishing period of disharmony because they feel they are too old to divorce.

But what age is too old? Sixty? Seventy? Eighty…? Some people, in spite of having numerous sexual encounters in their early years, take their marriage vows seriously enough to avoid separation and divorce well into their late sixties. Knowing the legal option is readily available is comforting but not actually of any practical help if you are stuck in a stale mate with a man or woman you cannot bear the sight of but also cannot bear to part with.

The first step to the divorce court is often arrived at after receiving a friendly shove from a well meaning friend or relative who can no longer stand to watch two lovely people living a nightmare together when they could be happy apart. Age should not be a barrier to separation or divorce for baby boomers prepared to take a responsible and sharing attitude to the legal aspects of parting amicably: stubborn conflict usually means the lawyers get the lion’s share of the finances.

Divorced Man Knocking on door of Former Home

For baby boomers in a long term unhappy marriage, age should not dictate how and with whom one should live.

The Psychological Article on How Old is Too Old to Divorce? is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!