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By Dr. Karen for BoomerYearbook.com
Relationships are an integral part of life. Some fill our lives with love and joy while others cause a lot of heartbreak. Some relationships last a lifetime and unfortunately a few die prematurely. Love them or hate them, it’s difficult to live without them. However, sometimes in life, love and friendship turn elusive. Try as we might loneliness doesn’t seem to leave us alone! We might call it fate, God’s will or just life, but the truth is by doing that we simply let go of our power to change our lives. We have the power to attract new and fulfilling relationships. All we need to do is to banish old patterns of thinking and living, which perpetuate the state of loneliness.
“How can I attract new relationships?”
Let go of your past
Sometimes new relationships stay away from us because of our tendency to live in the past. We get so engrossed in old memories that we let go of opportunities to create new ones. Sometimes we keep comparing every new person we meet with someone we loved in the past. This perhaps is because of lack of acceptance of the fact that the past is long gone.
The following therapies can help you let go of the past so that you can start afresh:
-Psychological counseling: If your problem is deep rooted, for instance if you’ve faced a childhood trauma or can’t accept a loved one’s death you may need psychological counseling.
-Clinical Hypnosis: Clinical hypnosis is another therapy which can help you in breaking free from your past. Sometimes past events become so firmly embedded in our subconscious that it becomes difficult to let go, forgive and forget. If you agree to undergo this therapy, a trained hypnotherapist will be able to delve into your subconscious and release painful memories stored in it.
Open yourself to accepting good
Sometimes life is unable to bring us all the goodies in store for us because we create barriers in its way with our negative thought process. We either live in the belief that perhaps we don’t deserve good things to happen to us or are too scared to imagine ourselves in a happy state for the fear of disappointment. Either way, we end up bringing suffering to our own life. The following are some simple exercises which can help up you change your thought process:
Positive Affirmations: Practice the following affirmations in front of a mirror everyday:
“I Love and approve of myself”
“I now express love to all those I meet”
“I am open to receiving and giving love”
“I attract loving, generous and caring people into my life”
“I feel safe and secure and trust life to bring me the best”
“I deserve love”
Whatever you tell yourself repeatedly with full conviction becomes your belief. That’s how affirmations work. When you tell yourself repeatedly that you are open to love, eventually you’ll start believing it and your unconscious actions and thoughts will start reflecting your belief.
Visualizations: Take 5-10 minutes in a day and imagine yourself in a loving and beautiful relationship. See yourself laughing and glowing with love. Feel the joy of giving and receiving love. See yourself surrounded by people who genuinely love you.
Visualization is an extremely powerful technique which can help you attract whatever you want into your life. You must have heard of athletes and sportsmen visualizing excelling in their game, before the important event. They do it because visualizing prepares the mind and body for the task at hand. If you visualize achieving success, your thoughts and actions unconsciously push you in the direction of success.
Apart from these steps you will also need to make some conscious decisions, such as figuring out old relationship patterns. Look at your old relationships objectively and see what you did wrong. Make conscious attempts not to repeat old mistakes. Use affirmations and visualizations to help you overcome your shortcomings so that you can attract and enjoy fulfilling relationships.
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