By Dr. Karen for BoomerYearbook.com

This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied sexual behavioral patterns that occur as a result of the impact of the modern World; the challenges faced by men and women of the new age and the hurdles that must be addressed: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Two Timing Love Cheats: Baby Boomers Who Sleep Around

Sexual liberation is great and for sure nobody wants to go back to the days when nice girls sat on the porch and did their courting under the eagle eye of Grandma or a vigilant brother or father. Baby boomers are accustomed to sexual freedom and all the fun that goes with an independent love life. Unfortunately, however, people who have the freedom to indulge their romantic interests also have a tendency to be free with other people’s feelings from time to time.

Baby boomers who grew up in the fifties will remember how sternly love cheats were dealt with in those days. Dating was generally viewed to be something you did socially rather than sexually and so it was not unusual for girls to go out with different men over a few weeks but only very bad girls would sleep with each one of them and probably earn a shabby reputation for doing so.

Long term boyfriends were usually made official in some way; with token rings exchanged and the words ‘going steady’ bandied about to justify physical intimacies that would be unacceptable between casual friends. Love cheats would therefore be considered ‘heels’ and dealt with accordingly.

Over the decades, love cheats and two timers have changed little in essentials and nowadays, despite the World having matured with regard to sexual freedom, infidelity and disloyalty still hurt as much as back in the fifties! Psychological articles describe to us the kind of emotional pain we feel when we are being deceived by a lover as almost unbearable. We struggle to find ways to deal with it; we withdraw from our friends as we try to come to terms with the loss we feel as a result of being two timed or ‘made a fool of’; we still feel as offended by love rats in this Century as we did in the last.

Of course there are different types of love cheat. Baby boomers who have gone through life cheating on this person and that person and made a habit of being disloyal will probably never change and never understand the benefits of being faithful to one companion. Others simply find themselves in a deadly three way situation from which they cannot escape and are actually quite nice people who have become caught in an emotional trap.

Love cheats, despite their reputation for having more fun than anyone else, rarely enjoy life. Psychological articles show us that so many love rats have an ingrained sense of inferiority and so find their multiple sexual partners a comfort. They are able to assure themselves that they are popular; in demand; attractive; sought after. In fact, anyone with the right frame of mind can be a love cheat: good looks and superior intelligence are not vital elements, although a degree of charm would be useful.

Baby boomers with a reputation for being “unfaithful in love” will probably enjoy a wide circle of friendships but few friends will trust a love cheat entirely – after all, if a man (or woman) is prepared to lie and manipulate in their intimate relationships, why would they apply a greater degree of integrity to a casual friendship?

The Psychological Article on Two Timing Love Cheats: Baby Boomers Who Sleep Around is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied sexual behavioral patterns that occur as a result of the impact of the modern World; the challenges faced by men and women of the new age and the hurdles that must be addressed: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Is Baby Boomer Sex Losing its Flavor?

The old adage teaches us that familiarity breeds contempt. Something that is easily attained is often under valued and too much sex certainly loses its appeal if it is offered too frequently and in the same worn out format. Baby boomers like sex as a rule and tend to seek intimate relationships to enhance their lives in a variety of shapes and forms. Psychological articles tell us, however, that too much sex becomes banal and boring.

Of course sexual excitement that is available with a young and nubile (or virile, as the case may be) partner has a quite different appeal to indulging in sex with the same partner you have lived with for the last twenty years and who needs vari-focals to read the instructions on her sexual lubricant. That kind of sex is massively over rated and even the most rampant baby boomers may be leaning towards being pleased with postponement.

Some people have a self image issue that precludes them from seeking sex with appropriate partners or partners of their own age. Their false impression of their own appeal leads them to fool themselves and take a disingenuous view of what their mirror reflection tells them. They see young and sexy while others see the reality: elderly; flaccid; well past its sell-by-date. For these people with an inflated notion of self, their long term partners with all the inevitable signs of age such as wrinkles and crow’s feet; are no longer appetizing. They seek sexual gratification, often with disastrous results, elsewhere, feeling their baby boomer partner has lost his or her flavor sexually. Psychological articles tell us that in fact these baby boomers are experiencing a sense of loss and that a reality check is in store as they seek the attentions of partners who are younger and fitter.

Sexual activities for seniors vary with lifestyle. Those who have stayed ultra fit throughout early and late middle age experience enormous sexual pleasure as they enter their sixties and seventies and if they have a long term partner sharing the same physical interests, in both conventional and same sex marriages and relationships, they are more likely to stay sexually content into old age. Illness can sometimes throw a monkey wrench in the works when it comes to a healthy sex life for couples entering later life, leading one or the other to need sexual gratification elsewhere.

On the whole, baby boomer sex does not lose its flavor, although for most aging boomers, it does seem to wane and suffer as a result of circumstance.

The Psychological Article on Is Baby Boomer Sex Losing its Flavor? is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

By Dr. Karen for BoomerYearbook.com

This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied sexual behavioral patterns that occur as a result of the impact of the modern World; the challenges faced by men and women of the new age and the hurdles that must be addressed: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Baby Boomers and Their Astounding Ability to Remarry

As the sexual revolution of the fifties, sixties and seventies exploded many of the principals and traditions of marriage, baby boomers found themselves leading a crusade against convention. The standards of our grandmothers, who ‘saved themselves for one man’ were replaced by independent views that ran riot over the usual perimeters that bound social behavior and general public expectation of how to behave and with whom.

Despite this, baby boomers have still managed to uphold, albeit loosely, the sacriment of marriage, although it should not surprise anyone that they have done so on their own terms. Young couples tend to live together outside marriage, sometimes for many years and produce several children in their ‘common law’ state before finally deciding to get hitched.

So why do they bother? Couples who have enjoyed an intimate relationship for so long they are better acquainted than many married couples might suddenly make a decision to lurch down the aisle in a lavish ceremony, inviting family and friends to a flamboyant exhibition of devotion, their children heavily involved in the service and the whole debacle costing thousands of dollars they can sometimes ill afford. Why?

The answer is ‘security’. Women might be independent and self confident yet they still feel they require the piece of paper and the requisite vows of everlasting devotion before they feel truly cherished and those baby boomers who do not believe in the fairy tale are swiftly dismissed as cynical and out of touch with reality, despite the soaring divorce rate.

Interestingly, marriage has undergone a subtle metamorphosis in recent decades. The longevity of marriage has definitely suffered and in the 21st Century, most couple profess to wanting to stay together forever ‘if possible’ rather than ‘no matter what!’ This casual attitude to ‘until death separates us’ has led to many baby boomers entering into the state of marriage not one or twice but on several occasions throughout their lives, leaving the local church bridal carpet in many home towns downright threadbare and wedding albums featuring a veritable montage of photographs of spouses through the ages!

Baby boomers, true to type, have put their own interpretation on what constitutes eternal devotion and left the World with a more comfortable ‘boomer-esque’ version of the ritual. Boomers threw the ‘obey’ part of ‘love and honor…’ out the window as soon as they could get away with it and left in the marriage service only those vows they felt were reasonable and manageable. ‘Obeying’ one’s husband was just not boomer-like and it had to go: lifetime affection should be enough, so boomer ladies thought, without bringing all that servile nonsense into it!

Psychological articles teach us that people who enter into multiple marriages enjoy the security that marriage affords; the satisfaction of tying up the loose ends; the gallant protection of the male; the united front; and lastly but least favorite with lady boomers – ‘making an honest woman of the little lady!’

As boomers remarry at the rate of knots and divorce just as quickly before going on to the next romantic adventure, psychological articles are yet to observe the long term effects on society as a whole.

The Psychological Article on Baby Boomers and Their Astounding Ability to Remarry is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!