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Co-Dependency Can Be Dangerous

Thursday, January 14th, 2010

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By BoomerYearbook.com

Co-dependency has become quite common in present day relationships. If you consider the webmasters definition of the word or refer to any expert from psychological articles, you shall find it as follows: “one needing another in a relationship which is highly addictive”. From the very early on, co-dependency has been one of the roots of many personal and professional relationships. For instance, there is co-dependency between farmers and the sellers and factory owners and workers. These types of co-dependencies have been duly accepted and considered normal and healthy. But when co-dependencies show up in personal relationships between life companions or friends, then the relationship comes under scrutiny and becomes a question of psychological “ill” health.

The reason co–dependency can become the root cause of many subsequent problems is due to the addictive nature of a co-dependent relationship. When two or more individuals are in a co–dependent relationship, the members tend to lean on each other and sometimes, this dependency crosses way over the line. According to psychological articles, it is in these situations that co–dependent relationships start to become more fragile.

For instance, psychological articles tell us that in the situation when one of the members in the co-dependent relationship is occupied with some other work and cannot cater to the wants or desires of the other partner, the relationship starts to be strained. The other partner realizes that his wants and desires have less importance, meaning, or value for the other and thus starts to feel unwanted. Co-dependency tends to make the bonding in the relationship susceptible to rupture during this stressful situation.

Co-dependency has been seen to be the base of many different relationships in the world today. Especially those relationships in which a woman has to tolerate a lot of stress as well as difficulties, because of the woman is dependent on the male partner as she prefers not to live alone, can not afford to raise her children alone, or the culture she lives in frowns on “single” women. Thus the woman will go through a lot of trauma and sorrow due to the co–dependent relationship. Another important way in which co–dependency in the relationship can prove to be dangerous is because it can bring a high level of insecurity in the relationship. It is a normal tendency of the human mind to think about losing out on anything which is dear to it and of which they are in possession. This is why co dependent partners tend to become insecure about losing each other. Psychological articles tell us that this insecurity becomes a innate part of their relationship and makes them think and worry about various psychological fears and tensions; causing co-dependency to be a dangerous factor is a relationship.

This Psychological Article on Co-Dependency Can be Dangerous is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of suggestions on coaching and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Baby Boomers: The Greediest Generation the World Has Ever Seen?

Tuesday, January 12th, 2010

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By Dr. Karen for BoomerYearbook.com

Some years ago, a lengthy article was published by the BBC on the vagaries of the baby boomer generation. It was a damning critique of a generation hell bent on wrecking the planet, along with most of its social standards.

So how has the baby boomer species ruined the World? They stand accused of owning homes that are too big; gas guzzling cars that are too big and require to be driven too far each day to work and home again; taking too many holidays too often to exotic locations; over spoiling the grandchildren; causing the divorce rate to skyrocket; not to mention sexually transmitted diseases rumored to be rooted in baby boomer ‘free love’ from the sixties onward; and generally being a scourge on an otherwise relatively even keeled planet!

Although one or two boomers have made a half hearted attempt to protest their innocence and declare that their society is simply more transparent and that the World has always struggled with poor moral standards, in our modern society we tend to forget that the pre-baby boomer years were comparatively free from the alcohol and drug related problems we now have to deal with on a daily basis. Apart from the occasional ‘drunk’ who would be a local scandal, the thirties and forties were primarily wrapped in a cocoon of respectability until we baby boomers came along and exploded our values – or lack of them – on society; causing moral havoc everywhere.

To add insult to injury, the baby boomer generation continued its sexual freedom motif at all cost and instead of putting a curb on its sexual activities, spent gazillions on research to sponsor the ultimate birth control – the Pill!! Hooray! Contraception was the new age weapon against unwanted pregnancy and funded with almost the same enthusiasm as the space race. Sexually transmitted diseases were warded off with condoms, brought to modern sophistication to make them more comfortable and marketed to exhaustion: with relatively foolproof protection at its fingertips the baby boomer set thumbed its nose at the rest of the World and carried on doing what it did best…

But – we baby boomers have also blessed the World with some ‘good stuff’. Let us not forget space travel; plastic surgery; computer technology; alternative medicine; the mobile phone; the morning after pill; food hygiene; seat belts; disposable diapers; the hundreds of cures that have been brought to people with horrible diseases and disabilities: baby boomer technology is not all bad…

Baby boomers are thought to be single-handedly responsible for the breakdown of family values in the new Century. With the escalation of the divorce rate, the onset of the ‘new family unit’ became something the World had to cope with; stepsons and daughters having to build trusting relationships with step fathers and mothers; children abandoned while their natural fathers or mothers sought new relationships elsewhere; the old concept of ‘making your bed and lying in it’ out the window; to be replaced by the ‘take what you can get out of life because everyone else does’ attitude that is more typical of baby boomers than loyalty, fidelity and ‘staying together for the sake of the children’, so popular in pre-WW2 days.

‘Consumerism is all’ to many of the baby boomer generation; unsurprising when you consider the product standards on offer. Baby boomers have on their doorstep an array of consumer goods the like of which the World has never seen: stand in any department store on Christmas Eve or Hanukkah in New York or London or Paris and savor the aroma of melting credit card plastic, mingling with the scent of new fabrics, perfume and expensive leather to know just how baby boomers have changed the face of religious festivals Worldwide! We just don’t know when to stop, it seems…

Enhancement is the expensive and sought after ultimate boomer beauty routine – from top to toe, we boomers spend a fortune on our physical appearance. We like labels; we like our youthful image and we do not accept our advancing years as previous generations have graciously accepted theirs – bring on the Botox and the liposuction -and charge it!

As women continue to be liberated and strive for sexual equality; as gays fly out of the closet at the rate of knots and as America invites its first African American president to make a cameo appearance on ‘The Simpsons’, it is obvious that the boomer generation accepts nothing as impossible.

The greediest and most consumerist generation the World has ever seen is by nature deaf to criticism so there is little point in harping about boomers leaving the planet in poor condition! Knowing baby boomers, it will be passed on tagged ‘as seen!’

Baby boomers continue to procure the best that money can buy, despite dire warnings of recession; global warming; the death of the planet; disease; pestilence and the collapse of the family unit. Love us or hate us, we boomers at BoomerYearbook.com know that we are simply incorrigible…, and we wouldn’t have it any other way!

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Mr. Obama: Can You Hear Us Yet…..?!

Friday, January 8th, 2010

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By BoomerYearbook.com

The wishes and desires of valuable voters continue to go in one of President Obama’s ears and out of the other, with the 2010 Congressional elections predicted to bleed Democratic representation. With approximately 60% of polled opinion vehemently against the health reforms being politically force fed to the nation, it is perhaps to be expected that the 2010 Congressional elections and the 2012 presidential election might well be an awakening of souls!

Some believe a president’s approval rating matters a great deal more than many of the political issues that surround the economy. Obama’s ability to mobilize a powerful voting machine could well turn around his popularity and produce rabbits out of the hat in 2012 but such theatrical stunts are disapproved of by Obama’s competitors and supporters alike.

President Obama’s first year in office has consistently been profiled as a baptism by fire, with socialized healthcare predicted to bankrupt the country by murdering off an already ailing economy. Obama’s stubborn, unrelenting refusal to listen to the private sector voting sections of America who hollered and vehemently protested their objections to his public health plan has cost votes and seats, with more radical ‘politicats’ even dramatically calling for taking back congress!

By putting the sick and elderly on waiting lists and wafting disastrous Cap and Trade policies like so much putrid incense, the Democratic administration risks losing everything in the run up to 2012. It is predicted that numbers will gradually sink and slide and even Obama’s Teflon-like coating will begin to absorb the possibility that these policies are not what the nation wants or expects from presidential leadership.

Blaming George W Bush (“Dubyah”) for every little thing that goes wrong is also not going to fool anyone with a modicum of voting intelligence. There comes a time when policies must stand on their own merit and not be assigned to the vagaries of previous administrations every time they fail. As unemployment continues to peak around 10%, the country demands an employment strategy that will fix stuff rather than make sympathetic noises in the ears of voters who do not pay the lion’s share of the nation’s tax bill anyway.

With a downward slide predicted prior to 2012, President Obama is being urged to plaster over some of the cracks appearing in the voting fraternity at an alarming rate. The White House message that conveys the sentiment, ‘You will have this whether you want it or not’, is unlikely to win favor with hard working Americans lacking bottomless pockets who are expected to find more cash to sponsor health care reforms in an already stretched economy.

In the first months of the year, Obama is still being labeled a ‘one trick pony’, faring badly whenever challenged in debate by either Palin or McCain; challenged in the press as a president who changes nothing yet says anything to win, whatever that might be.

Obama’s popularity is all important to victory in 2012 yet might also represent for Democrats their worst hurdle if policy continues to fail in terms of results. An apologetic foreign policy and an inadequate and ineffective policy on terrorism wraps up the reason why many hard working, financially responsible Americans are understandably ticked off at the start of a new decade on Capitol Hill. Obama’s turning a deaf ear to these US voters may well bring a turnaround in the 2010 Congressional elections as well as defeating Obama’s re-election in 2012.

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Terrorism: A Personal Issue

Monday, January 4th, 2010

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Terrorism: A Personal Issue

By BoomerYearbook.com

Nigerian Umar Abdulmutallab is 23 years old, educated in London, and anyone meeting him for the first time would gain an impression of polite formality. He is respectful and considerate to his elders and also to anyone who is of a different culture to himself. Good with children; a quiet and private person and like so many of us, he prefers to keep his friendships slightly distant.

 
Abdulmutallab needs to keep his friends at arm’s length, because his goal in life is to die an Al Qaeda martyr and take the lives of as many innocent westerners with him as possible in the process. On Christmas Day, 2009, Abdulmutallab failed in an attempt to blow up a plane over Detroit, carrying explosives secreted in his underwear.

 

In the wake of 9/11, we all diligently made double and triple checks whenever we travelled and happily submitted to increased security precautions everywhere we went, understanding the necessity to put our safety above convenience. Little by little, that diligence has slipped, it seems, and recent security incidences all over the World highlight that extremist terrorist groups are yet again achieving footholds in the gaps in our security.

 
The profile of the young men recruited to be suicide bombers usually follow the same type: educated; polite; quiet; unassuming; well spoken; deadly. Such young men are promised rewards beyond their dreams in the life thereafter, in exchange for their mortality.
Intelligence profiles other young men in the process of training in Al Qaeda camps and the European press freely publicizes the imminent risk of more attacks on more planes and more innocent people. Yet America remains immersed in diplomacy instead of adopting a more appropriate all out campaign to tighten security.

 
America has been providing support for the Yemeni government in its battle with Islamic militants, but Yemen has become increasingly unstable, with more frequent terrorist attacks from Yemeni bases, such as the one perpetrated by Abdulmutallab on Christmas Day. It is thought that a great deal more intelligence on Yemeni suicide bombers is known by American security but not enough is being done to prevent further terrorist incidents; an appalling indictment considering the sweeping promises made to protect Americans following 9/11.
Full body scanners, combined with personal searches and spot checks, are being implemented in airports all over Europe at the start of the new decade, although some doubts are being expressed whether such precautions are effective against liquid explosives and the high tech devices being utilized by terrorists.

Pro Islamic groups everywhere are sparking debate on the question of innocent Muslims being marginalized and targeted as a result of over enthusiastic security but the reality is that complacency brings consequences too gruesome to risk.

We can do what we can do…in the meantime, surely the watchword is vigilance and the American public has little chance of encouraging vigilance if they are unaware of imminent danger. Information is vital to discovery in terms of uncovering plans of terrorist attacks.
Scores of similar attacks to the one attempted by Abdulmutallab are suspected to be planned for 2010. Taking steps to crush terrorism rather than appease those who sponsor its atrocities might be the more sensible policy in light of the danger posed to innocent American travellers.

At least that’s what we at BoomerYearbook.com think. We’d love to hear your opinion.

The Psychological Article on Terrorism: A Personal Issue is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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