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Are Baby Boomers a Narcissistic Generation? The Boomers Magic Mirror

Tuesday, June 30th, 2009
Baby Boomers Narcissistic Magic Mirrors

Baby Boomers Narcissistic Magic Mirrors

Psychological Articles by Boomeryearbook.com

Baby boomers were born in the aftermath of the Second World War. Parents of older, strong>baby boomers were survivors of a conflict worse than anything the World had seen before. Men serving in the armed forces came home after a long and harsh exposure to violence and horror and immediately set about having as good a life as they could afford and paying some attention to the family life they had dreamed of for so long.

Family life included producing ‘baby boomers’ and taking steps to ensure that Junior would never have to suffer the horrors of war. Parents strove to provide a comfortable home filled with every affordable luxury. As a result, baby boomers were raised in a charmed environment to a certain extent, in sharp contrast to the hardships their parents had to tolerate.

When parents invest a great deal of time convincing their children that they are the most important creatures in the World, eventually the children start to believe it and this is the seed inadvertently sown by parents of narcissistic children. Such children grow up in an atmosphere of over-indulgence, are given the best that their parents can afford and in general might be over weaned in terms of being materially spoiled. Baby boomers fall into the category of being spoiled as a generation of kids that grew up in secure surroundings, being raised by parents who were determined to give their offspring all the best things in life that the war precluded in recent years.

As baby boomers developed, childhood spoiling overlapped into teenage indulgence and eventually the baby boomer executive emerged as an exacting and demanding employer, accustomed to getting what he wanted, when he wanted it. Narcissism, in the case of baby boomers, is inflicted rather than inherent, by over enthusiastic parents with a steely determination to see their children succeed and seize every possible chance of being high achievers.

Well, why not? Surely, it is human nature to want the best from life? Certainly it is, but boomers, through being raised by parents hungry to see them succeed at all cost in some way lost a gentility of spirit present in the previous generation and in the one that followed.

Baby boomers reach fifty and immediately remind everyone they are elderly and require help and they manage to get in one way or another, sometimes at the expense of a less capable, albeit younger, family member.

Elderly boomers will usually follow the course that benefits them the most; the line of action that affords them an advantage over a competitor or even over other family members; the most profitable option for them; the selfish route that might be the most inconvenient for someone else but which gives boomer what he or she wants. They cannot help it: they were raised with magic mirrors.

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Generational Woes: Baby Boomers and the Loss of Traditional Values (pt. 5)

Sunday, June 28th, 2009
Elderly Problems: Baby Boomers Sinking Values

Elderly Problems: Baby Boomers Sinking Values



Elderly Problems by Boomeryearbook.com

Baby boomers have set the standard. In an unprecedented feat of social transformation, baby boomers remolded a culture. They did this without a military coup or untold acts of violence (or at least not much, in relative terms). Social change, therefore, is a possibility given the drive and determination to do so. And yet; as baby boomers prepare to hand off the torch of responsibility to the next generation of Americans, there is much work to accomplish.

Baby boomer have left in their wake a society that is vastly different from the one in which they themselves were raised. The loss of traditional values, especially the destruction of the traditional family structure, has been devastating. The question that lies at the feet of the next generation of echo boomers and their children is what to do next?

In order for social change to take place, there needs to be awareness that there is a problem. Baby boomers, for their part, are a perfect example of this. Baby boomers, during their heyday, recognized the social injustices that troubled this nation and took action. It is only now that baby boomers are realizing the effects that their movement has wrought on a nation. Nevertheless, a recognition that a problem exists is the first step.

In this, it is important that baby boomers take a bit of responsibility for the results of their actions and step up to the plate to facilitate resolution, once again through change. This is important as a result of the attitude of self-indulgence that is prevalent in today’s culture. In other words, the current generation of Americans is so narcissistically self-absorbed, that larger social concerns go unheeded. As such, it is incumbent for someone – in this case, baby boomers – to begin a national campaign of social awareness education.

For real change to take place, this campaign has to be a grass roots endeavor. Most echo boomers are moving into the prime of their lives, taking their parents place in the work force and continuing to promote the social direction their parents initiated. As such, it is the children of echo boomers that have to be made aware of the need for change and the remedies that will bring about resolution to many of today’s problems. There has to be an impetus toward the need for reestablishing effective and traditional family structures as the primary vehicle of social reclamation. What better voice to initiate this campaign than the originators of generational social reform – the baby boomers themselves?

Baby boomers are in a unique position. Baby boomers, in ever increasing numbers, are realizing that in spite of their best intentions America is suffering. They see what American society has become in comparison to what American society was like in the period before the ‘great experiment’ manifested. Baby boomers can see what was good and what wasn’t; what should have been let go and what should have been maintained. It is within this spirit of experience and understanding that baby boomers can once again make a difference.

Elderly Problems: Are Echo Boomers Adapting Baby Boomer Values?

Elderly Problems: Are Echo Boomers Adapting Baby Boomer Values?

Through the voice of experience, aging baby boomers can impart the wisdom that can only be born through the trial and error of living. This wisdom can be the nectar for the younger generations that are waiting in the wings and hunger for social nourishment. The solutions to the ills that plaque society is deeply rooted and will take a generation to fully manifest. If we have any hope, baby boomers most take action – as they are the only viable and remaining voice that understands and can relate to then and now.

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Generational Woes: Baby Boomers and the Loss of Traditional Values (pt. 5)
is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of articles to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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How Comics and Baby Boomers Influenced the World: A Comparative Study (Pt:1)

Wednesday, June 17th, 2009
Baby Boomers Comic Books

Baby Boomers Comic Books

By Boomeryearbook.com

Comic books are as much a part of the American social fabric as apple pie. It is a medium that has been intertwined with the lives of Americans for as long as most can remember. This is especially true if one considers the definitive social influence they have had on young readers. This fact is certainly the case with baby boomers. A comparative analysis of the evolution of comic books and the social development of baby boomers shows remarkable similarities. Historians can debate and be the ultimate judge of which influenced the other, but the similarities are worth exploring.

Comic books gained momentum as an American staple in the late thirties and early forties. The primary reason for this was World War II and the affordable prices. With the depression in full swing, comics offered a very inexpensive form of entertainment that many enjoyed. As for the war, this influenced the tone and direction of comics. The superhero character became the predominant feature. These characters, standing for justice, truth and the American way; carried messages of patriotism and sacrifice.

These so-called golden years of comics, with the introduction of such iconic figures as Superman, focused on the expectation of better days through the perseverance of the American spirit. The books were wholesome and upbeat. At the close of the war, however, as the parents of baby boomers returned home from military service, the country faced the challenge and desire to bask in victory and return to the pursuit of the American dream. This was the mindset that ushered in the fifties.

Baby boomers, for their part, were the joyful results of this attitude. Having gainful employment and raising a family are both prime goals within the American dream. So is the instilling of traditional family values, as understood by this generation that had just come through a depression and a war. So while such classics as Howdy Doody and Gunsmoke were acceptable entertainment, comic books presented a problem for the conservative mindset that the parents of baby boomers reflected.

Whereas comics in the forties were a signal of better days and future expectations, these themes did not translate well in the fifties. The previous readers of those comics now viewed these themes as a threat to the well being of their children. There were charges that horror comics promoted brutal behavior and that superheroes were suggestive of homosexual tendencies. Traditional values were being compromised and comics were seen as a direct threat to the moral fabric of nascent baby boomers. As a result, out went the Captain America’s and other spandex clad characters, and in their stead came teenage characters (like Archie and company, with its own set of generational messages), comical animals, and westerns.

Looking back through history, one can rationalize that the reaction to the comics of the time was somewhat out of proportion with the facts. Superman is not homosexual and monsters don’t really exist. But these turn of events would be a signal of what was to come, both for comics and baby boomers. Comics were being unduly forced to make changes that cut across the grain of what creators wanted to publish. Baby boomers would soon begin to chafe against a perceived notion of forced compliance to societal norms. In both cases, reaction to the established convention would be significant.

This Psychological Article on How Comics and Baby Boomers Influenced the World: A Comparative Study (Pt:1) is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of fun articles to alleviate elderly problems and keep our hearts and brains young. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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The Psychology of Attention Seeking in the Elderly

Tuesday, June 16th, 2009
Attention Seeking in the Elderly

Attention Seeking in the Elderly


By Boomeryearbook.com

The elderly have an inherent gift for turning minor elderly problems into major dramas when they feel the occasion warrants a little attention seeking. Just as children will seek attention from a parent intent on ignoring them, the elderly will turn cartwheels (figuratively speaking of course) to feature as the main attraction, usually when you least desire to be attracted!

Attention seeking is a symptom of a greater need. Old age can be tough and sometimes elderly problems wash over the most confident and sunny disposition, rendering a person vulnerable and susceptible to loneliness. This is when an elderly friend of relative is likely to seek your attention, as this is when your attention is most needed: it’s as simple as that.

An unfortunate feature of attention seeking behaviour is that it is not always important to seek attention of a particular quality – any attention will do! As a result, the behaviour which is designed to draw attention can sometimes be embarrassing and unwelcome; the worst kind of elderly problem.

The elderly do not seek attention simply to cause inconvenience to loved ones and friends. Such antics are usually only employed as a last resort and likely after a prolonged period of isolation or loneliness. Elderly problems come in a variety of packages and coming to terms with solitude and isolation is something few people tackle successfully in advanced old age or even much earlier.

Most caring professionals who deal with elderly problems on a daily basis deal with attention seeking behaviour firmly but gently. There is nothing to be gained in reacting angrily to situations where compassion and friendliness bring better results.

For those who seek attention and those who strive to provide attention to the seeker, the advice is the same – activity and social interaction. Keeping the brain alive and the body active is the only answer to the kind of loneliness and solitude that prompts such elderly problems; that and making such activities available on a continued program, on a regular basis.

The antidote to attention seeking is attention itself. The lack of interaction with others is the worm that eats away a person’s sociability, making them a target for all kinds of dysfunctional attitudes and elderly problems.

For elderly people who are wheelchair bound or unable to attend formal groups, a provided companion will stave off the symptoms of isolation sufficiently to eradicate attention seeking behaviour and its related elderly problems. There is no need for the elderly to run marathons and take degrees in applied science to achieve a sense of worth and freedom: stimulation may be just as easily acquired by an hour’s socializing with a good friend by your side.

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Spinning Girl Genius Test

Thursday, May 21st, 2009
Spinning Girl Genius Test by BoomerYearbook.com

Spinning Girl Genius Test by BoomerYearbook.com

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Spinning Girl Genius Test by BoomerYearbook.com

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Obama Apologizes To Europe For American Arrogance

Friday, May 1st, 2009
Pres. Obama bows to Saudi King

Pres. Obama bows to Saudi King

(shades of John Kerry’s apology tour)

by: Joseph J Kusnell for Boomeryearbook.com

An open letter to the President of the United States:

“Dear Mr. President: It is not America that is arrogant; it is you who are arrogant. That has become increasingly obvious with each of your public appearances. It might nevertheless be a good idea for you to take a moment to review American and World History since you seem to be somewhat lacking in historical perspective. To assist you in this undertaking, l will take a moment here to review specific examples of world-power arrogance and together we can see how America shapes up. It might be illuminating.

England: The English Colonial Empire extended around the world and into North America for centuries. To say England was arrogant on the world scene would be a gross understatement. If arrogance is defined as acting without regard to the opinion of others, then the English may have invented arrogance. Even so, it was certainly not limited to England. Most European countries at one time or other have been arrogant ranging from the Greeks to the Roman Empire to the Ottomans. World powers usually do that, act without the permission of others.

France: France is another example of a country that has acted arrogantly in its past. Study the conduct of the French in North Africa and see whether their conduct would properly be classed as arrogant. I’d say it would be. (By the way they also sent their fleet half way around the world to assist the fledging United States of America because of their hatred of the British. (A good example of national arrogance even if it did benefit America.)

Germany: This would be funny if the subject matter wasn’t so serious. Germany started two world wars that resulted in the death of eighty million people. Were they sensitive to the feelings of other nations? Give me break. America left 350,000 dead soldiers on European soil, boys sent there to defend EUROPE – not America – from that arrogance. (By the way, no one objected when our troops landed in Europe to save those Europeans from a German dictator but they did object when we landed in Iraq to save the Iraqis from an Iraqi dictator. If the shoe fits –)

Spain: Has everyone forgotten the history of the Spanish in the Western Hemisphere? The Spanish Armada or the brutal colonization of the New World by Spain? Arrogance anyone?

Russia: Would you call it arrogant when a people’s government decides to kill tens of millions of their own citizens as well as millions of citizens of other countries in order to create communist states? Did they ask the permission of any other nations before they acted? Did they care what anyone else thought of their activities around the world? No, I don’t think so. They just did what they wanted to do and slaughtered whomever they wanted to slaughter.

China: Mao Tse Tung and Chou En-Lai killed many tens of millions of their own people to install communism and then invaded peaceful Tibet. In doing so, they ignored the complaints of all other nations. I call that arrogance personified.

Japan: How arrogant was the Japanese attack on Pearl Harbor or their treatment of America prisoners of war in the South Seas? And what about their brutal, arrogant and vicious attacks on China before that? How much did they care about world opinion when they decided to act militarily against their neighbors? None at all.

Iraq: Would you call gassing 300,00 of your own people in order to establish and maintain a dictatorship, acting arrogantly? What about attacks on your neighbors and ignoring UN mandates? Would your call Hussein an arrogant dictator? will leave that one to you.

Who have I missed? Castro? Chavez’ Peron? How about Hannibal, Alexander and the Moors?

It would seem to me that arrogance is a staple of world superpowers and always has been. Why even recently, England sent warships half way around the world to fight the Argentines over Islands off the shore of Argentina. That seems to have been colonialism at its worst. You see, arrogance is acting without caring much for the opinion of others and by that definition, every one of these countries has acted arrogantly when it suited their purpose.

But you, Mr. President, never mentioned their histories. For some reason, all you could think to criticize was America. So tell me specifically sir, where and how America was so arrogant that you felt the need to apologize. As you do, keep in mind:

It was America that suffered on 9/11.

It was America that suffered from terrorist attacks that killed 250 of its Marines in Beirut.

It was America that was the victim when the US Cole was the target of terrorists.

It was America that was attacked in 1991 when the first WTC bombing occurred.

So Mr. President, it is obvious that we were provoked. So with that in mind, please point out where America was so arrogant and what did we gain from that behavior.

We went into Viet Nam but that was to aid the French who were there and stave off communist expansion as the French retreated (which they do so well). Did America have a national interest there? No, the French did. America went in to halt the takeover of South Vietnam by communist North Vietnam.

What about Korea? Was that an example of American arrogance? I think North Korea attacked South Korea and we entered the fray once again to halt the spread of a ruthless and despotic North Korean communist government. We had no other interest there and when we left, we took nothing with us. And what did we gain personally from that war? Nothing. What did we take away with us from that war. Nothing. Nothing that is except our wounded.

So exactly where was America arrogant? And who says so besides you? Is it your position that it’s arrogant for a world power to act in its own self-interest and if so, what are we doing in Afghanistan and what are our troops doing around the world defending those who do not wish to defend themselves. Is that more American arrogance?

Perhaps, Mr. President, you should go back and re-read a bit of history before you rip America.

So that takes us to Iraq, your long personal whipping boy and Democratic Talking Point (until you got elected). As I look back on Iraq, I see a dictator vanquished and a country that has now held three consecutive free elections for the first time in its long history. Remember those nine million Iraqis who risked their lives to vote? Remember how proud they were? Remember how they held up their green fingers. We did that.

So Iraq now has freedom for the first time along with a freely elected government. Hopefully they can keep it but we gave it to them. We suffered and died giving them freedom. No one wanted to help so WE are arrogant???? Would this freedom have occurred had we listened to Europe?

America put up the blood and the money to depose the madman Saddam Hussein. And what did we get out of it? How did we personally gain from it? What did we take home from Iraq to compensate for our sacrifice?

Nothing, sir. And what do you see that was arrogant in that? Or do you mean we were arrogant because others – particularly in Europe – didn’t want to fight there and so we did it ourselves. Was that arrogant, Mr. President? Should we have left when Germany, France and Russia refused to help out? Is that what you think should have been done?

Are other countries now going to make policy decisions for America during your administration? Is that how you plan to run our great country? Didn’t John Kerry once say he would do that if elected, visit every country (including anti-American countries) to ask if they approved of some contemplated US move? Just to make sure it was okay with them? Isn’t that what he said, Mr. President and is that where you got the idea?:

Now tell me, sir, which European power had done that in the past? When have they checked with us before taking actions they felt were in their own self-interest? If they did, I must have missed it.

Today we are in Afghanistan fighting another war and none of those European powers that wouldn’t help Bush is going to help you either. Know why? Because you are arrogant, sir. Look in the mirror. You just added more American troops to Afghanistan and so far none of the countries you have apologized to, has offered to send troops to help out. Same as with Bush. Therefore, to use your own logic, you must be arrogant.

Your speeches were ridiculous and ill-considered. Personally, I don’t think you know much about world history and I don’t think you know what you are talking about and were it not for the utter stupidity of so many American voters, you would still be working as a community organizer. But sadly, you are not. You now are leading the greatest country in the world. But where you are leading her is the big question.

So we were arrogant in Iraq because Germany, France and Russia refused to come in and help us to depose Hussein? Why when everyone knows these three countries were in bed with the guy. They were the primary markets for his oil. They were participants in his food-for-oil scam. They traded with the Middle East entire region and it was that which motivated their disinterest. Or did you think their lack of involvement was based on principal or simple altruism? Don’t make me laugh. They were all busy serving their own self-interest. Would you call that arrogance, Mr President? I dame sure would.

Finally, Mr. President let me look at something you said once in a speech, something about despots and dictators. You said we don’t have to fight them, we can let them ‘rust out’ or ‘run out of time’, words to that effect. In other words you can wait them out rather than go in and root them out. Of course many would die in the waiting, but you seemed to think that was the way to handle them.

I suppose this would indeed be the non-arrogant approach. But would it work? Can you really get rid of dictators by waiting them out? Let’s check on a few.

Castro President for Life

Peron President for Life

Chavez President for Life

Duvalier President for Life (Papa Doc)

Duvalier President for Life (Baby Doc)

Chou En Lai President for Life

Mao Tse Tung President for Life

Stalin President for Life

Hitler President for Life (Killed)

Mussolini President for Life (Killed)

The list goes on and on. Dictators don’t quit any more than their powerless people remove them. That almost never happens. Either someone else comes in and removes them or they don’t get removed. Your comment was pacifist nonsense. You recommend the gutless approach which itself is very self-serving.

What arrogance means to Europeans is that we fought in Iraq when Germany, France and Russia would not. They were against our being in there but we went in anyway. That’s why we were arrogant. Because we did what we thought had to be done – just as they have done throughout history.

Keep in mind, Mr. President, these same countries were not against us coming to Europe and leaving 350,000 dead American kids on European soil to save their butts in two World Wars. Coming in and using our power to save them could have been seen by some as acting arrogantly, but it was not because they needed us. Definitions can be flexible depending upon circumstances – and politics.

Your comment to Europeans that we are an arrogant nation played into their bruised psyches and they ate it up. What you said and where your said it and to whom, acted to elevate them at our expense. For that you should be taken to task since you are President of the United States and not of Europe. More to the point, what you said was dead wrong. You have no pride in America and it’s obvious. Your view is that of a one-worlder and Americans better understand that before you do irrevocable harm to our country.

Tell me, sir, America fought in Europe twice, in Iraq, in Viet Nam, and in Korea all in this century. What did we take home with us? What did we personally gain from those battles? What plunder did we amass as the Russians did in World War II or England and France and Spain did in their heydays. What plunder did America take home with us for our sacrifices?

The answer is nothing. That’s what we took home. When you were in Harvard, did they bother to teach you American history at all??? Or wasn’t American history all that important to them?

In all those wars, America fought for someone else or for freedom for someone else. We were not protecting anything we had from someone who wanted to take it from us. They were not wars of conquest. We fought to make life better for others. We fought to save Europe and the world from Nazi domination. We fought to save the South Koreans from the communist North. We fought to save the South Vietnamese from the communist North.

What selfishness! What arrogance!

America took nothing home from their victories. Nor did we occupy lands or rob national treasures. We did none of the things most victors do to the vanquished.

Yes, we’re the bad guys Mr. Turncoat President Obama. We’re the arrogant ones all right; not the European leaders that refused to fight Dictator Hussein for political and economic reasons. Who could care less about the hundreds of thousands of Iraqis he murdered or the young women he took off the streets and raped. They didn’t care. We cared enough to fight but they didn’t. And you call us arrogant?

According to you, MR. PRESIDENT, it was America that was arrogant, self-serving, and dictatorial. Well sir, you are lucky we have such a dishonest American press today otherwise you would be roasted on every front page in America. But you won’t be because they are arrogant in their politics and diseased in their dishonesty. Integrity is no longer a part of American journalism so your little gaffe will be largely ignored. But not to worry, you will repeat it because you believe it and in that will lie your undoing.

America is the best country this world has ever seen. Not perfect but the best. Someone ought to have told you that before you decided to run for the Presidency.

It might have helped you preserve her.

Joey

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Co-dependent Parents Psychological Articles on Elderly Problems By Boomeryearbook.com

Sunday, April 26th, 2009

The vast majority of parents love taking care of their children, and appropriately, most of these parents are equally willing to retire from parental authority once their child has grown into adulthood. However, psychological articles show that co-dependent parents are not part of the vast majority of parents willing to relinquish control. Instead, co-dependent parents find it terribly hard to let go of parenting responsibilities and authoritarian power and continue treating their adult child as “their little baby”. Co-dependent parents of adult children thus relish having their child dependent on them for solutions to problems as well as life choices.

Co-dependent parents show extreme care and love, to such a high degree, that it becomes intrusive, demeaning and makes their child uncomfortable and insecure. Furthermore, psychological articles reveal that it is harmful for both the child and the parent. A co-dependent parent might consciously want to be helpful, but the hovering, controlling behavior makes the adult child self-doubting and nervous and discourages the adult child’s independent thoughts and activities. In extreme cases of co-dependent parents, the caretaker diminishes and debilitates the child’s self-esteem to onerous levels and the adult child remains totally dependent on the parent; while internally feeling resentful and angered.

Psychological articles argue that such excessive attention towards children is unnatural and can cause serious damage to the personality of a child. It is capable of bringing pain to the parent as well. By not enabling a child to solve his problems and making him depend on them, the parents are hurting their child. They can make him an emotional cripple who will be unable to be self sufficient and adequately navigate the adult role of problem solving and decision making. A co-dependent parent robs the child of the ability to see relationships clearly and to recognize the responsibility of his/her actions.

The co-dependent parent often lies and makes excuses for her child which results in maladaptive ways. Such parents think they can maintain control and build healthy relationships by fostering dependency, but this is never the case. The children of co-dependent parents, reveal psychological articles, are encouraged to comply with the decisions of the parents even if they disagree. The adult child feels incapable of challenging the parents who lead to irrational thinking and self doubt which can cause social withdrawal and future poor decision making strategies.

Psychological articles warn that a situation involving co-dependent parents is a delicate one. A co-dependent parent might believe they know what is best for their child without realizing that the child is being robbed of the right to choose and for chances of learning to make adult decisions. Psychological articles further state that co-dependent single mothers have even greater problems in understanding the independent adult life of their child. In particular, a lonely single mother might find it difficult to accept their child’s leaving home, and thus they feel a loss of identification with a primary role and way of establishing their own self esteem.

Psychological articles stress that co-dependent parents must realize that it is natural for a child to grow up and make autonomous decisions. The adult child must have some freedom to live independently and choose according to what “internally” feels right. Psychological articles tell us that parents can control co-dependency by getting support or professional help and learn to stop worrying and controlling their child’s life. Additionally, psychological articles reveal that it is imperative that co-dependent parents stop trying to plan their adult child’s every move and rather allow the child to find his own path in life.

The Psychological Article on Co-Dependency is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of suggestions on coaching and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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The Health Benefits of Honey and Cinnamon

Friday, April 17th, 2009
Pscyhological Articles on Benefits of Honey and Cinnamon

Pscyhological Articles on Benefits of Honey and Cinnamon

Psychological Articles on Elderly Problems

by Boomeryearbook.com

Honey and cinnamon have a long tradition as herbal remedies for numerous conditions. Honey in particular has been presented in psychological articles as a cure-for-all in many problems like heart disease, arthritis, stomach ailments etc. Additionally, anectodal information in psychological articles has claimed that when used with cinnamon, the combination greatly increases the scope and power of honey. Moreover, recent research in psychological articleshas shown that eating honey in moderate amounts doesn’t increase the probability of getting diabetes. In 1985 the Canadian magazine Weekly World News listed conditions and problems that respond positively to treatment with a combination of honey and cinnamon.

Heart Problems and Arthritis:

The above mentioned psychological article stated that honey and cinnamon both have properties that provide protection from heart problems and arthritis. Honey decreases the amount of hardened cholesterol in arteries thereby reducing the chances of a heart attack, and for those who have suffered a heart attack, if used regularly, it protects from further attacks. One of the elderly problems we face as we grow older is that arteries and veins become weaker, and it has been shown that honey can be revitalizing.

Psychological articles have also informed us that Arthritis has also been shown to significantly improve with regular usage of honey and cinnamon. It is recommended that ideally the honey and cinnamon combination should be taken in a cup of hot water with a half a teaspoon of cinnamon and two of honey. In a study at Copenhagen University, seventy three patients of a total of 200 were cured of their Arthritis while the rest experienced significant relief!

Stomach problems and flu.

Generally stomach problems are helped significantly by honey. Bladder infections respond immediately to honey if mixed with warm water and taken in liquid form as psychological articles have long told of the power of honey to destroy germs in the bladder. The same combination of drinking honey and cinnamon also works well with colds, flu. Psychological articles have advised to use one quarter teaspoon of cinnamon added to the honey to help coughs and blocked sinuses. Honey is also known to work well on stomach ulcers and reduces pain and gas when used with cinnamon and psychological articles as well as folklore has informed us that honey and cinnamon can easily eliminate bad breath.

Immune system and longevity

Psychological articles have stated that both honey and cinnamon have been proven to strengthen the immune system of viral and bacterial infections, and that when taken together the ingredients that have large amounts of natural minerals in the form of vitamins and iron, greatly help white blood cells fight disease, although existing in synthetic form, the combination of elements in honey has a greater effect. Furthermore, psychological articles report that this increased immune response from taking honey and cinnamon also enhances general health as well as longevity. Used in combination with a healthy lifestyle, (daily usage of 3 or 4 times a day) of both ingredients has been recommended to help eliminate many elderly problems, to maintain good health and live a longer life.

Skin problems

Due to its antibiotic properties, honey used in pastes to cover rashes and other skin problems has a relieving and healing effect. Common problems such as pimples, which psychological articles tell us honey can remove from their roots, usually respond particularly well. More serious infections like eczema, ringworm etc. have also been shown to have significant positive effects and sometimes, psychological articles report them as cured.

Weight loss, anti-carcinogenic and fatigue

Psychological articles have documented that fat formation is prevented if one teaspoon of honey and cinnamon mixed into a cup of boiled water is routinely taken before breakfast and before bed, as it helps reduce weight- even in obese people! Furthermore, in some instances, honey and cinnamon have been shown to be an effective anti-cancer remedy resulting partly from their ability to strengthen the immune system as well as their cleansing qualities. Likewise, apathy, fatigue and increases in strength have been reported in psychological articles from the regular usage of honey and cinnamon taken in equal part. Research has shown that a tablespoon of honey sprinkled with powder made from cinnamon is an effective single dosage.

The Psychological Article on The Benefits of Honey and Cinnamon is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of psychological articles on Elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Pole Dancing for the Baby Boomer Generation

Thursday, March 26th, 2009
Baby Boomers and Pole Dancing

Baby Boomers and Pole Dancing

By Boomeryearbook.com

Dancing is an self-expressive art form, and pole dancing, similar to other dance styles, is a combination of self-expression as well as a performance art. For those who have been living under a rock, pole dancing can be characterized as a synergy of sensual dancing and gymnastic skills displayed by a singular artist/entertainer using a vertical pole as a prop. Initially only done in strip clubs and gentlemen’s clubs, today pole dancing is performed in non-erotic venues such as circuses, cabarets and other mainstream stage performances.

Advanced pole dancing requires remarkable strength, muscle co-ordination, flexibility, stamina, and endurance. In strip clubs however, it doesn’t require many gymnastic skills, as the dancers can simply hold the pole; while in other venues the pole is used for climbs, spins and body inversions. The key to a well performed, proficient pole dance is upper body and core strength.

Recently, pole dancing has acquired popularity as a form of an exercise. It can be used as, both an aerobic and non aerobic workout. Many well known fitness clubs are offering a program in pole dancing. In such classes mostly women and sometimes men use a pole as the workout prop. The exercise really enhances upper body strength and does overall toning of the body.

Pole Dancing For Baby Boomers

It may come as a surprise to many that pole dancing has a solution for many elderly problems. It is not only a social activity but it also holds the key to solve many common elderly problems. It can not only cheer us up by pumping up endorphins, it also improves overall heath, reduces stress, burns calories, lowers cholesterol and can help fight dementia.

Health

While it may not be the most conventional way of burning calories and losing weight, it is no doubt one of the most fun ways. It can burn as many calories as does a spinning class and other gym session, and is one of the easiest ways to beat winter blues, a widely experienced elderly problem as it improves overall blood circulation.

Pole dancing is a very unique way of strengthening the leg and hip bones. In addition to that, in order to master the moves, one has to perform them repeatedly which builds up stamina and lowers blood pressure.

Alzheimer’s

Alzheimer’s is undoubtedly one of the most challenging elderly problem today. Pole dancing surprisingly helps fight Alzheimer’s as it involves memorizing steps and techniques, and engaging the participant in a challenging brain activity; and psychological articles inform us that mental challenges keep our brains fit and can protect us from all forms of dementia.

Pleasure

In addition to medical benefits, pole dancing provides a chance to enjoyment without too much exertion. Thus, the excitement caused by the experience allows the body to release endorphins; making us happier, more energetic, and definately sexier!

Today, there is a growing worldwide effort to make pole dancing a serious sport as well as art form. It’s not only fun but can be the road to overall improved mental and physical health, as it builds endurance, flexibility, agility, co-ordination, stamina,strength and sex appeal.

So what are we waiting for baby boomers? It’s time for us to get moving.

Pole Dancing for the Baby Boomers Generation is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of psychological articles on Elderly Problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Psychological Articles on World Religions

Tuesday, March 10th, 2009
Sufism in Pakistan. Can it fight the Taleban (BBC news)

Sufism in Pakistan. Can it fight the Taleban (BBC news)

By BoomerYearbook.com

“Can Sufi Islam counter the Taleban? Barbara Plett, BBC World Service News
February 24, 2009
Pakistan has a reputation as a hotspot for extremist Islam but most Pakistanis follow a gentler, more tolerant form of Islam based on Sufi mysticism and folklore.
Shah Mehmood Qureshi, Pakistan’s Sufi foreign minister, recently suggested that his religion could be used as a counter to growing fundamentalism in the country. His views echo those of western think tanks such as the Rand Corporation, who recommend the mobilisation of Sufism to counter Islamist ideology and influence.
Barbara Plett reports from Lahore, a city steeped in Sufi tradition.”


Boomer Yearbook is humbly offering this correction to Barbara Plett’s BBC article in that we have learned that Shah Mahmood Qureshi belongs to a lineage of patrons of saints but is not a sufi himself.

Sufism and Rumi’s Take on Love

Sufism: Mystical Islam

Sufism: Mystical Islam

Love is the single most potent emotion that has been a mystery to people since the beginning of times. We all feel it, discuss it, lament it but no one can tell what love is exactly. There is the love of the man for the woman, the mother for her child, the love between 2 friends or siblings, and that of Man for God.

Unrequited love can destroy a person, leaving him desolate and at the brink of madness. To love is as important for humans to live as perhaps is water to fish. Psychological articles even claim that an indicator of whether a person is going to live for the next ten years or not depends on whether he believes someone loves him or not.

Psychological articles speak of the strong connection between love and the feelings of stress, depression, self-esteem and even physical well being. There are vital questions revolving around this feeling that no scientist can answer. What we need is a psycho-analysis of the truth of love, ways of nurturing it, and learning from the feeling so we can provide nourishment and enrichment to our souls. For Sufis, who practice mystical Islam, the answers come from the works and teachings of a great teacher and a master who can lead us through the part that reaches our hearts and through that to our souls.

One such person who is recognized in both Eastern and Western writing, is the great poet and Sufi mystic, Jalal-ud-din Rumi. Rumi, who emphasizes that every person has a degree of divinity and no solution, no answer is impossible if we remember this truth about ourselves. Nothing is impossible for God and He is an embodiment of the best form of love.

Psychological articles that set Rumi’s philosophy regarding love as a pattern emphasize hence that surrendering to love is the only way of finding it as the object of a person’s love is but a reflection of his own inner self with each capable of the most deep and soulful form of love.

For Rumi, love was not the shallow feeling that it has come to be synonymous with in modern world. No matter how or who you love, it all traces back to God and as such brings us nearer to that Diving Being. Psychological articles explain that to love and be loved gives life clarity and meaning. Our senses suddenly become more aware of the world which in turn makes us realize the binding of all people and things into one solitary consciousness – making us One.

Psychological articles further argue that the pace at which modern life flows presents the biggest impediment to the way of loving relationships. In our hurried lives, people have lost the precious gift of self-reflection; we skirt around the perimeters of the meaning and nature of love, but fail to delve deeply into the totality of love’s essence. We always have something more important to do, always wanted somewhere else and in the bustle of life we forget to spend time in the company of those we love, trying to understand the subtleties of the feeling and to understand its divine connection.

Rumi’s Sufism teaches us that love demands that we take a deeper look into our inner selves as well as our lovers and try to understand that we have been created for each other and have been put into each other’s path by God. This is a gift He has bestowed so we can advance together in our spiritual struggle. Our lover is, therefore, not merely an object that has been created to meet our expectations, but a Godly presence on earth.

Rumi further teaches us that accepting our love in this manner will help us in our quest to understand it and learn from it but if all we do is make demands of love and have countless expectations we will find ourselves heading for endless disappointment and hurt. Psychological articles explicating Sufism and Rumi’s concept of love also state that diverting from this guideline leads to a defensive and conflicting attitude which is nowhere near the concept of love.

Understanding what we want and having a clear knowledge of it spares us a lot of misunderstandings. Another point to consider in accordance with the teachings of Rumi is that if we meet rejection we must be willing to explore the arising feelings accompanying this rejection. This will help us to beat dejection and also understand Rumi’s words that:

Come, come, whoever you are!
Wanderer, idolater, worshipper of fire,
Come even though you have been broken a hundred times!
Come, and come again,
Ours is not a caravan of despair!

Look! This is Love – Poems of Rumi,
translation by Annemarie Schimme

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