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By Boomeryearbook.com

As singles, we enjoy the freedom of being without responsibility. When we marry (or not, as the case may be) and have children, we assume a mantle of obligation to our kids and our love for them is so often expressed in the material advantages we are able to provide through our hard work, such as good schooling; fashionable clothes; a good social life and later on perhaps a car and help with the deposit on an apartment.

Our children are indeed fortunate to have parents who can afford to provide the best in life. Or are they? Do such privileges carry the same value when they are gifted by affluent parents? And where does the generosity stop? And when does it stop? When we reach forty? Fifty? When we become older baby boomers suffering with our own elderly problems?

The good things in life are well publicized. The desire to possess the best begins in the school yard continues into old age and certainly baby boomers are well acquainted with the urge to own a fancy car and a nice house. Problems begin when the younger generation, brought up in luxury, cannot adjust to borderline poverty as students and a well meaning set of parents start to underwrite a number of expenses on behalf of sons and daughters who by rights should be providing for themselves.

Putting a standing order in place to help out a younger family member who is experiencing hardship can seem so little to do and in fact we all do it to help our kids when they need our financial support. The long term result of providing this life line, according to psychological articles, can be detrimental rather than beneficial, depending on the level of help being given.

The unpleasant truth is that sooner or later, whether he likes it or not, Junior will have to stand on his own feet and do without financial help from the Mom and Dad Bank. Many families have no difficulty with the transferring of financial responsibility from older members of the family and once younger people leave college they no longer ask for or receive financial help. However, some continue to depend on their parents for financial support even after they have a young family of their own and this obligation puts pressure on baby boomers to continue working well after retirement age.

So many times we hear the phrase ‘Oh, they don’t ask for the money but I like them to have it anyway’ – almost like a weird parental insurance premium that guarantees solvency for Junior and his girlfriend or wife or kids.

Psychological articles tell us that sooner or later, baby boomers have to ‘let go’ and stop being Mom and Dad Bank, not only for our own benefit but also for the sake of our kids who need to learn independence. It’s a tough pill to swallow, but we boomers need to heed this advice or we will find ourselves facing some strong elderly problems.

The Psychological Article on Letting Go: Sooner or Later, We Have to Stop Being the Breadwinner is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Psychological Articles on Elderly Problems

By Boomeryearbook.com

Baby boomers who decide to open a new branch of the family later in life face a number of problems other than the obvious physical difficulties that can present in the average woman in her forties who puts her body through a process traditionally reserved for younger people.

An older lady contemplating a new baby will perform a number of searches online into the pros and cons of having a baby and be dismayed to find that there are few pros and plenty of cons to terrorize a prospective mother, with all the risks of Downs Syndrome, miscarriage and complications and a plethora of other possible drawbacks outlined in depressing detail. You need to reach Google Page 3 before finding an encouraging forum!

A woman in later life will have developed intellectual and social tastes that extend beyond the realms of changing diapers and choosing nursery wallpaper. Although most baby boomers who are new mothers are pleased to set their own entertainment to one side while their new baby is very young, toddler groups and other activities designed to attract mothers with mutual interests can represent a gap in social interests.

Baby boomers can sometimes feel like social outcasts when thrown into a circle of mothers in their twenties and early thirties with a wealth of other hobbies and interests in common apart from the obvious link of being mothers to young children. Psychological articles that investigate the difficulties experienced by older parents see this feeling of being excluded as non productive and could even be a contributing factor to baby blues, or post natal depression.

As baby gets older, the older mother feels even more outside the normal circle of younger parents, as children begin to socialize. Some children quite innocently associate older ladies with grandparents and it is not unusual for them to make an assumption that their friend’s mother is actually a grandma. It can be embarrassing for an older mother when such mistakes occur in the company of other adults as apologies are made, making older Mom feel even more elderly!

Some people are quite happy to be different and be set apart from others but for many older mothers, part of the pleasure that comes from being a new mother is closely connected with the social link to be enjoyed with other new mothers and their children. Psychological articles recommend that mothers in this situation seek groups that provide social activities for older mothers, to help minimize feelings of exclusion before moving on to a more varied range of parental ages and interests.

Whatever age baby boomers are, pregnancy and birth in later life can offer a range of minuses and pluses but no more or less than at any other time of life, providing there is enough love to go around and always remembering that Mom’s health and well being will require a little more attention if she is to remain fit enough to chase a two year old around the supermarket…

The Psychological Article on Fitting In With Younger Mothers: The Older Mother’s Dilemma is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!