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How to Forgive and Move On

Thursday, November 19th, 2009

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In life we often come across people who hurt us, lie to us, cheat us and sometimes even break our hearts. Often we move on, but are unable to forgive and forget. We carry the pain in our heart and don’t let the emotional scars heal. The reason probably is, that for some reason we often view forgiveness as condoning someone’s hurtful act or behavior. In fact some people even view not forgiving as a form of passive revenge. What we don’t realize is that by holding on to old grudges we are only harming ourselves.

Why would a person who showed blatant disregard for our feelings or welfare, care about our forgiveness? Holding hatred or anger against such a person is not going to affect him/her in any way. That doesn’t leave much scope for revenge, does it?

Forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning someone’s actions either. By forgiving you are not saying that it’s alright for someone to hurt or harm you, by forgiving you are only breaking the negative karmic connection that you have formed with the person who hurt you. It’s like saying, “you’ don’t affect me anymore, I refuse to think about you, you hold no importance in my life, and I forgive you for what you did, because you didn’t know any better.” What’s important to understand is that forgiveness is an act of self-love; it’s something that you do for your own good.

How to forgive?

Understand how “not forgiving” can harm you

Holding on to old hurts and resentment can lead to psychological problems like depression, loneliness, extreme cynicism, prolonged anger, high blood pressure, heart diseases and many other long term health problems. If someone attacked you, your natural reaction would be to protect yourself from harm; you wouldn’t turn around and inflict more pain or hurt upon yourself. So by that logic, if someone hurts you, protect yourself from more harm by forgiving that person.

Forgiveness exercises

The following forgiveness exercises may be able to help you start your process of healing:

Write the name of the person you are angry with on a piece of paper. Next write down why you are angry with them, pour you heart out, write everything that you feel about this person. When you are done, write that you forgive them because you do not want them to affect you anymore. Now burn this paper, watch the flames devour all your anger and hurt. Try this self hypnosis exercise. Sit down in a comfortable position and breathe deeply. Focus on you breathing. Imagine that with every in-breath you are taking in light and energy and with every out-breath you are exhaling all your stress. Repeat this process for 4-5 minutes or until you start feeling sufficiently calm. Now picture that the person who hurt you is standing in front of you, imagine a white chord connecting the two of you. Look at this person in eye and speak you mind out, scream at them, abuse them, release all your bottled up emotions. Once you are done, mentally break the white chord connecting you with this person. Repeat this exercise once a week, till you feel you’ve finally broken the negative connection between you and the person who hurt/harmed you. In some cases of deep anger, you may want to avail yourself of help from a trained counselor or therapist. Sometime bitterness or anger can cloud your judgment and make you extremely resistant to the idea of forgiving someone who hurt you. In such cases the counselor may help you reach a stage of reconciliation by making you see the other person’s perspective. However, if you were assaulted, attacked or abused by someone, reconciliation is not an option. In these cases the counselor or therapist can help you start your healing process.

Forgiveness is an act of self-kindness. Remember forgiveness does not mean excusing someone nor justifying their act, neither does it mean being passive and not fighting for justice. Forgiveness only means moving on with life, it means giving yourself the gift of peace and tranquility.

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Looking Back: Accepting a Change in Circumstances Through Financial Difficulties

Monday, November 9th, 2009

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Articles from Boomeryearbook.com explore the fascinating and varied behavioral patterns that occur when families are affected by outside events, or by the impact of the modern World; the challenges faced in the new age and the hurdles that must be addressed: The Boomeryearbook.com Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

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When we take on the mammoth task of relocating in our younger years it is usually due to advancement – a better job with better prospects and the excitement of a newer, bigger house will make up for parting with familiar friends we are leaving behind.

When baby boomers make the decision to relocate it is sometimes because the family has grown and moved away and we want a smaller, more manageable home but sometimes it is because finances have spiralled out of control and it is necessary to make cuts in order to survive. This can cause a great deal of heartache, especially for baby boomers who favor a ‘stay at home’ existence and are not particularly sociable.

Psychological articles tell us that moving house is one of the more stressful activities we can take on, right up there with bereavement and divorce. For young people undertaking such an upheaval, the strain is bad enough but for baby boomers already in their late fifties or sixties who appreciate their own fireside, depression can set in quickly as they realize just how much they miss their old home.

Settling down and accepting changes are actually in the mind. It may be true that the new neighborhood does not have a convenience store on the corner or a smart shopping mall within five minutes drive; while the doctor’s office may be further from home and the woman who lives next door might be annoying with her constant shouting at her husband. The point is that this is not only their home now; it is also yours! Comparing a new environment to an old one is not only pointless but also painful and not in the least productive if you are trying to overcome homesickness.

Baby boomers in a new environment should try not to look back it can be avoided. That is not to say you should forget your old home and never think of it again but in time it will be possible to look back with a smile instead of tears and that time might vary from person to person.

Psychological articles teach that acceptance of most things is achievable with the right set of tools. The emotions concerned with relocating through a change in circumstances involve letting go of familiar surroundings and embracing new ideas. Looking back can be difficult in the first few weeks and months but in time might be no more painful than turning the pages of a much loved album.

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How Baby Boomers Can Improve Concentration

Sunday, November 8th, 2009



by BoomerYearbook.com

A lot of us baby boomers struggle with lack of concentration.  No matter how hard we try, sometimes we just can’t get our minds to focus on a given task.  Our random thoughts create a web of confusion in our minds…and our mind teases us by dangling distraction after distraction in front of our eyes! So, how do we deal with this menace? Here are few tips:

Meditation

Regular meditation can help boomers improve stress resistance and overall concentration power. Meditation involves focusing your attention on a mundane or repetitive task, such as your breathing, a chant or mantra. Regular practice will train your mind to focus on any task with full attention.

Set rewards 

Whatever you start with, decide how you will reward yourself once you accomplish it.  An incentive will give you a reason to concentrate on your task.  Don’t be too lenient on yourself; tell yourself you’ll get the reward only after you complete the task.

Take mini breaks

Taking mini breaks like a walking around your house, doing a little chore, watering the plants or watching TV for 10-15 minutes. This will help you refresh your mind, so that you can get back to your task with a clear mind.

Ensure that you sleep well

Lack of sleep sometimes affects our concentration levels. Therefore ensure that you follow a sleeping routine, 7-8 hours of a good night’s sleep is a must if you want to feel active and alert in the morning. Keeping the following points in mind may help you follow a good sleeping routine:

-Don’t eat a heavy or spicy meal for dinner, as it may interfere with your digestion and make it difficult for you to sleep

-Try and sleep at the same time everyday 

-Ensure that your room is comfortable and dark

-If you find it difficult to sleep, try this little meditation exercise:

·        Lie down straight

·        Close your eyes

·        Focus on your breathing

·        Pay attention to every in breath and out-breath

·        In a while you’ll feel relaxed enough to sleep

Mind clearing visualizations

When your mind is cluttered with too many thoughts, you might find it difficult to concentrate on a task without getting distracted. Practicing the following mind clearing visualization once a day may help you build your concentration power by de-cluttering your mind:

·        Sit or lie down in a comfortable position

·        Close your eyes

·        Deep breathe. Imagine that you are taking in light and energy with every in-breath and exhaling all your stress and anxiety with every out-breath.

·        After a few minutes you will start feeling calm and relaxed. Now imagine that a beam of white light is entering your body from the top of your head

·        Let the beam of light penetrate into your scalp, feel every cell relaxing

·        Let the light now travel to your neck and upper back area, feel every muscle going limp

·        Imagine that the white light is now circulating inside your head

·        Imagine that all your thoughts are dissolving away into this white light

·        Let your mind become devoid of all thoughts

·        Relax

·        Slowly, open your eyes

Lack of concentration and focus, and even many senior moments,  can be self created; these therapies work by influencing the mind in subtle or direct ways so that it can focus more on building your concentration power instead of looking for ways to distract you.

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How Baby Boomers Can Develop our Artistic Talent?

Sunday, November 8th, 2009

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As a baby boomer have you found that you enjoy painting but find it difficult to put you imagination on canvas? Do you love dancing but feel embarrassed to try something different? Do you feel your creativity has left you along with your youthful dreams? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, the following tips may be able to help you develop your artistic talent:

Visualization

Boomers, our subconscious mind understands the language of visuals. When we visualize something positive or negative, neurotransmitters in our brain are activated and there is an acceleration of biochemical reactions in the body. In laymen terms it means that the body reacts to visualizations as if it were actually in the situation being visualized. For instance when you imagine yourself in the middle of a mid life crisis, your body might display signs of agitation and anxiety. The more intensely you visualize yourself in the situation, the greater will be your body’s response. Similarly if you imagine yourself taking a vacation, or envisioning your perfect retirement home, your body will start relaxing. This implies that visualizations affect our subconscious mind in a way that it starts directing our conscious actions to match the visualization. Therefore if you repeatedly visualize yourself expressing your creativity freely, eventually your mind and body will start acting accordingly. For instance if you can’t seem to sketch your imagination, visualize yourself painting, notice every little detail of your creation … the colors…the shades… everything. Enjoy the feeling of seeing your imagination come alive. You can modify this visualization exercise according to your needs and desires.

Positive affirmations

One of the reasons why baby boomers feel unable to express creativity is lack of confidence due to the feeling of generalized declining abilities. Positive affirmations may be able to be especially helpful to boomers. Affirmations work by the simple logic that whatever you are told repeatedly becomes your truth. So, if you’ve always been told that you have no artistic talent then that is what you, the grown up baby boomer will believe. Your own low-self esteem may also make you fearful of criticism. Positive affirmations can help you by building your self esteem and changing your negative beliefs.

Boomers, repeat the following affirmations to yourself as often as you can:

“I am creative”

“I see beauty in everything”

“I have a keen eye for detail”

“I feel free to express myself creatively”

“It’s safe for me to express my creativity”

Creativity gives wings to your imagination, it opens up your eyes to the beauty all around you. Baby boomers, we are as old as we think! We shouldn’t deny ourselves the sweet taste of freedom and the joy of appreciating the universe’s beauty by stifling our creativity. Set it free!

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Coaching for Goal Achievement: The Power of Affirmations

Friday, November 6th, 2009

By Boomeryearbook.com

We have all heard of positive affirmations and their benefits, a lot of articles, books and people swear by their power. But what is it about this simple technique of affirming good things to yourself that makes it so effective and powerful? The answer lies in the following facts:

Affirmations give you the power

When we affirm something positive to ourselves we acknowledge the responsibility for our actions and thoughts. With responsibility comes the power to change our situation. For instance when we affirm “I open myself to accepting love”, we tell ourselves that I am responsible for attracting love into my life, and once we take responsibility for it, we realize that we have the power to change our situation by being open to receiving love.

They simplify the process of life- change your thoughts to change your situation

We humans tend to complicate the simplest of things. For instance we make a simple act like loving ourselves difficult by bringing in issues like, what people think of us and base our self-worth on our material achievements or physical appearance. Affirmations simplify life, by reminding us that whatever we tell ourselves repeatedly becomes our truth. When we look at positive affirmations we realize how we have been affirming the exact opposite of them and it has done us no good! When you make a positive affirmation like, “I love and accept myself”, you simplify your life. Once you start loving and accepting yourself, most of your problems will disappear!

Talk about the present and give a subtle hint to the subconscious that the present is what matters

Affirmations are always about “I am”; they are about “now”. Repeated positive affirmations therefore give suggestions about concentrating on the present, to our subconscious. Self-talk of people who live in the past is about “was” and “were”, constant self-talk in the past trains the subconscious to focus more on the past than on the present. Similarly chronic worriers are always talking in “will”, “would” and “could”, the subconscious mind therefore gets trained to focus on the future. In both the scenarios we end up ruining our present. If want to change our life situation, we would need to make changes in the present, the past is gone, the future is unseen! Positive affirmations help us focus all are actions and thoughts towards changing the present.

These three factors are the source of the power of positive affirmations.

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Baby Boomers Guide to the Shy Child

Tuesday, June 30th, 2009
Baby Boomers and Shy Grandchildren

Baby Boomers and Shy Grandchildren

Psychological Articles by Boomeryearbook.com

Shyness can be heavy cross to bear, especially for children. The outward signs of shyness can cause unimaginable stress to the sufferer: the red cheeks; the sweating palms; stuttering and in extreme cases, an inability to speak coherently. Baby boomers involved with shy children can impart confidence and security, making the discomfort of shyness something that can be tolerated if not eliminated.

When first meeting a child who suffers with shyness, baby boomers might feel tempted to try to reassure and explain that there is no need for the child to be uncomfortable in any way. Unfortunately, this well meaning explanation might have the exact opposite effect of the one intended and make the poor child even more uncomfortable. It is the attention being paid that the child finds difficult to cope with. And in fact the child is more likely to fit in if you ignore him or her to some extent in the first minutes of meeting.

Baby boomers are possessed of a natural perception when it comes to making someone feel at home. They are practiced at forming a welcoming committee and seldom get it wrong when it comes to being sociable. However, in the case of shyness it is possible to overdo the social graces and make the child wish he had stayed well out of your way.

The best way to deal with shy children, for baby boomers or anyone else, is to minimize their presence and allow them to come forward out of their shyness when they feel ready to be included. That is not to say they should be marginalized or made to feel an outsider. There is a fine line between giving a child the space to gather composure and making them feel unwelcome.

In situations where a great deal of noise is being made, shy children suffer agonies of insecurities and prefer to hover on the edge of fun. This is the time when baby boomers might exert a little diplomacy and draw a shy child into a friendlier circle, taking care not to create an atmosphere the child might find intimidating or frightening. If possible, speak to a shy child at eye level rather than talk down. Baby boomers are old enough to be scary to a small kid in the throes of anxiety, so level speaking will assure the child you are not a threat and in fact are there to help.

Once you have cracked the hard shell that a child builds to protect himself from being invaded by nosey baby boomers, you can work on a program to build further confidence by involving other children in games and interests. Try to avoid allowing the child to anchor onto your side in the future, as this can be equally harmful.

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Baby Boomers Guide to the Bullied Child

Tuesday, June 30th, 2009
Baby Boomers Guide to Help Stop Childhood Bullying

Baby Boomers Guide to Help Stop Childhood Bullying


Psychological Articles by Boomeryearbook.com

Bullying is a sickness suffered by the bullied and also by the perpetrator of the bullying. Baby boomers as children were outgoing and sociable; qualities which provide an impenetrable shell against the kind of behavior that constitutes bullying as we know it today.

In the days when baby boomers were at school, bullying took a simpler form which usually included name calling, physical punches and kicks and the occasional black eye. In the playgrounds of today, children suffer more serious effects when bullied, such as mobile phone theft, text-based threats and internet intimidation which have the effect of invading the previously safe haven of home and family.

Baby boomers’ childhood experiences of being bullied might have been unpleasant but boomers could always escape and run home, slamming the front gate and the front door on the bullies, safe and happy in the knowledge that nobody could get in.

With the introduction of the internet, society opened an enormous platform from which to bully for those whose insecurities lead them in to intimidate and persecute others. Baby boomers, with the exception of those who are particularly technically proficient, might not fully comprehend the levels of bullying that are possible via emailing, website channelling and mobile phone message systems.

Young children are now carefully monitored by responsible parents when using internet chat rooms or facilities where a hostile communication might subject the child to bullying, even from someone the child is well acquainted with. Baby boomers when babysitting children or even their own grandchildren should take care not to allow a dangerous situation to develop through lack of supervision.

Children by nature are curious and anxious to experience life, especially those prurient aspects of cyber life forbidden at home, where parents keep a strict electronic padlock on forbidden territory. Baby boomers might not have such precautions in place and innocently allow a grandchild to surf websites strictly off limits at home.

Baby Boomers Guide to Stopping Cyber Bullying

Baby Boomers Guide to Stopping Cyber Bullying

When children display the symptoms of bullying at school, they sometimes feel unable to tell their parents the truth, worrying over the repercussions being worse than the actual bullying. In these cases, a friendly baby boomer grandparent might be just the person to talk to and help diffuse an unpleasant problem.

At these times, it might be prudent to remember that although it is pleasant to be confided in by a child in trouble and while you feel delighted to be able to help, you are not the child’s parent and should not make decisions which affect the child and his or her ability to cope with bullying. A friendly ear is one thing but boomers can get into all kinds of scrapes by over stepping the bounds of responsibility and trespassing on the parental role as guardian.

 

 

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Dependency Between Elderly Partners

Wednesday, June 17th, 2009
Can't Live Without You: Co-Dependency in Elderly Couples

Can't Live Without You: Co-Dependency in Elderly Couples


By Boomeryearbook.com

Dependency can be a king pin in an elderly relationship, especially one that has been established for many years. Elderly problems may be experienced by elderly partners both individually and as a couple, as a result of the deep rapport that exists between them.

‘So what is wrong with long term devotion?’ You may well ask. Absolutely nothing is wrong with a long serving and loving relationship that mutually benefits two elderly people. However, extreme dependency can lead to elderly problems in one or both partners as a result of their long term reliance on each other.

In cases where the individuals are of a similar age, elderly problems are likely to be easier to deal with. Where one of the partners is very much older, the younger will often experience enormous pitfalls when trying to adjust to a life without the other in the event of death or serious illness.

Lengthy partnerships or marriages of forty or fifty years are usually deemed to be highly successful, simply by virtue of survival! Some people cannot imagine spending an entire lifetime with one partner. As extremely long partnerships continue into the sixty year bracket, living a single life must be unimaginable for both parties and when it becomes necessary through death or illness, elderly problems result.

In traditional marriages, either the husband or the wife takes responsibility for carrying out tasks such as household accounts, getting the car serviced, making tax returns, and so on. Left to tackle such things alone, a bereaved partner struggles against a mountain of difficulties and related elderly problems that are a direct result of being dependent upon a long term personal relationship.

The solution to such elderly problems is hard to define, as elderly couples often see no reason to change their lifetime habits. Why would they? Gentle encouragement might be shown to exercise a little independence, however, as a safeguard against a lonely and frightening situation to come, where grief and isolation are aggravated by not being able to deal with day to day routines previously handled by a partner now departed.

Elderly couples sometimes share a devotion rarely found in modern relationships and often this devotion itself becomes an emotional support for individuals experiencing elderly problems. While the other partner is safely resident within the relationship, all is well: the loss of this relationship can send a perfectly balanced and grounded elderly person into a tailspin when they are required to survive alone in a world they no longer recognize or feel comfortable in.

Dependency between elderly couples is a plus while both partners are still living and free of elderly problems but a little self sufficiency does not go amiss to allow for future isolation.

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Co-Dependency: A Relationship Addiction Psychological Articles by Boomeryearbook.com

Sunday, April 26th, 2009

Psychological articles show that normal relationships have a balanced level of healthy dependence but ‘relationship addiction’ connotes unhealthy dependency which can have a bad influence on both parties. Such relationships can cause serious problems among people and require effective co-dependency counseling.

Defining Co-dependency

When two people in a relationship become inextricable and extremely dependent on each other then you are witnessing co-dependency. Drugs, behavior problems and destructive habits of one person can influence the other person in a relationship to a great extent so that they start controlling each other. Psychological articles describe this co-dependency in terms of obsessive-compulsive behavior; as the co-dependent participants have become so intertwined that they have lost their individual freedoms.

Psychological articles warn that co-dependence brings fear, obsession and distrust. The victims of this disorder are helpless as they feel the compulsion to look after the other person in the relationship. Co-dependents display total dependence on the other person which if combined with a need for approval might goes as far as to take them towards insanity or irrational behavior. Co-dependents sacrifice their own lives, tastes, likes, and preferences to those of their partner, and will go to any length to preserve the relationship. Psychological articles inform us that the co-dependent’s fear of rejection and loss perpetuates the unhealthy relationship and sabotages belief systems as the co-dependent is so fearful of being alone, the dependent relationship tricks him/her into believing they are happy in the dysfunctional situation.

Remedies for Co-dependency

Oftentimes, psychological articles state that people in need of treatment for co-dependency or relationship-addiction also show co-committent problems such as eating disorders or drug addiction. Co-dependency resembles alcoholism and drug addiction in many ways. It has obsessive compulsive tendencies and generates uncontrollable behavior that can lead to disastrous consequences. But there are also great treatments available and co-dependents can resolve these destructive issues in “codependent programs of recovery’ which are comprised of teaching self importance, self reliance, and independent decision making.

Co-dependency treatment oftentimes becomes recognized and undertaken when the dependent partner is treated for alcohol, substance, or other addictive behavior. Yet, psychological articles alert us to the possibility that an addictive personality can be hard to cure and to be on the lookout that the person doesn’t cease one destructive behavior, such as alcoholism, only to find refuge in a dependent relationship. For instance, many psychological articles alert us to the fact that some people may seek refuge in co-dependency when they feel their other addiction is too over powering to be controlled. strongly argue that if a co-dependent want to recover, he/she will have to be separated from the person they are dependent on because they feel compelled in their addiction. Yet often the problem is rooted in the co-dependent and not in the other “dependent” person. Ultimately it can and should be done, but is not often easy to separate the dysfunctional dependent partners and allow them to grow to individual autonomous people.

Psychological articles reveal that what needs to change is the behavior- as the compulsive behavior is the real addiction. Once the co-dependent is empowered to control his destructive actions, other issues can be resolved through therapy and co-dependency counseling.

There are many effective co-dependent therapies such as individual or group treatment options. Psychological articles reveal that a particularly effective recovery program is based on the Twelve Steps; including daily meetings for the co-dependent and working with an experienced sponsor. For rapid recovery, psychological articles state that is it crucial to teach the co-dependent self-love, self-reliance, and self-respect. Healthy eating, exercise and adopting a healthy lifestyle will also facilitate recovery. Co-dependency might also cause a dependent to give up their life for the other, therefore, treatment and a better lifestyle is needed to help co-dependents control the addiction and become a healthy person autonomous individual.

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Co-dependent Parents Psychological Articles on Elderly Problems By Boomeryearbook.com

Sunday, April 26th, 2009

The vast majority of parents love taking care of their children, and appropriately, most of these parents are equally willing to retire from parental authority once their child has grown into adulthood. However, psychological articles show that co-dependent parents are not part of the vast majority of parents willing to relinquish control. Instead, co-dependent parents find it terribly hard to let go of parenting responsibilities and authoritarian power and continue treating their adult child as “their little baby”. Co-dependent parents of adult children thus relish having their child dependent on them for solutions to problems as well as life choices.

Co-dependent parents show extreme care and love, to such a high degree, that it becomes intrusive, demeaning and makes their child uncomfortable and insecure. Furthermore, psychological articles reveal that it is harmful for both the child and the parent. A co-dependent parent might consciously want to be helpful, but the hovering, controlling behavior makes the adult child self-doubting and nervous and discourages the adult child’s independent thoughts and activities. In extreme cases of co-dependent parents, the caretaker diminishes and debilitates the child’s self-esteem to onerous levels and the adult child remains totally dependent on the parent; while internally feeling resentful and angered.

Psychological articles argue that such excessive attention towards children is unnatural and can cause serious damage to the personality of a child. It is capable of bringing pain to the parent as well. By not enabling a child to solve his problems and making him depend on them, the parents are hurting their child. They can make him an emotional cripple who will be unable to be self sufficient and adequately navigate the adult role of problem solving and decision making. A co-dependent parent robs the child of the ability to see relationships clearly and to recognize the responsibility of his/her actions.

The co-dependent parent often lies and makes excuses for her child which results in maladaptive ways. Such parents think they can maintain control and build healthy relationships by fostering dependency, but this is never the case. The children of co-dependent parents, reveal psychological articles, are encouraged to comply with the decisions of the parents even if they disagree. The adult child feels incapable of challenging the parents who lead to irrational thinking and self doubt which can cause social withdrawal and future poor decision making strategies.

Psychological articles warn that a situation involving co-dependent parents is a delicate one. A co-dependent parent might believe they know what is best for their child without realizing that the child is being robbed of the right to choose and for chances of learning to make adult decisions. Psychological articles further state that co-dependent single mothers have even greater problems in understanding the independent adult life of their child. In particular, a lonely single mother might find it difficult to accept their child’s leaving home, and thus they feel a loss of identification with a primary role and way of establishing their own self esteem.

Psychological articles stress that co-dependent parents must realize that it is natural for a child to grow up and make autonomous decisions. The adult child must have some freedom to live independently and choose according to what “internally” feels right. Psychological articles tell us that parents can control co-dependency by getting support or professional help and learn to stop worrying and controlling their child’s life. Additionally, psychological articles reveal that it is imperative that co-dependent parents stop trying to plan their adult child’s every move and rather allow the child to find his own path in life.

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