This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied behavioral patterns that occur when families are affected by outside events, or by the impact of second and third marriages; the dangers and coaching solutions concerned with ‘spoiled’ children and the hurdles that must be addressed for family newcomers: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Psychological Articles and Coaching Tips for Baby Boomers to Avoid/ Alleviate Elderly Problems

by Boomeryearbook.com

Family structures are affected by the industrial and social developments of the age in which we live and work. The modern family structure has become fragmented and unorthodox as a result of multiple partners throughout a daughter’s life or a son’s propensity to separate from or divorce a series of women; welcoming and rejecting a collection of step daughters and step sons and leaving baby boomer grandparents reeling in the confusion of disjointed and broken family ties. In a World once represented by the ‘2 plus 2’ equation for families, ‘new builds’ can be hard to file away in the right boxes.

Psychological articles from the schools of Attachment, Object Relations, and Positive Psychology that explore family structures and the cause and effect of multiple break ups observe that much of the conflict that exists within modern families is rooted with an inability to ‘let go’ of set ideas and concepts introduced generations ago. Once such notions are set apart as unrealistic and unworkable in our modern family society, a gateway emerges for new – albeit unorthodox – alliances, outside accepted conventions.

The pandemic discarding of respect for marriage in its traditional and original concept has produced multiple partnerships within the average family and turned out a generation of children who might be multi-racial, with dual connections to fathers, step-fathers, step-mothers, and half brothers and sisters. There is also an incidence of brothers and sisters who are of different generations; the older may be 35 while the younger could be as young as 2 or 3! The goal posts have moved for the baby boomer generation, forever this time, and we must therefore accept and learn to embrace new family structures.

The secret of contented family life in the modern age would seem to be acceptance in all its forms. Although the baby boomer fraternity is undeniably strong minded and more than capable of exerting influence on younger members of the family, trying to stop the invasion of multiple relationships within one’s family structure might be compared to shooting tapioca at an army…! A broader outlook is required, in fact vital, when dealing with the private relationships that exist between younger members within the family circle.

Psychological articles tell us that human nature is such that we run to smiles and run to escape from criticism, especially when the criticism originates with family members whom we love and wish to please. The reaction to a son or daughter bringing a new relationship to the family can either draw everyone close or push everyone apart: it seems a pity that acceptance, in a World where it is almost impossible to sustain marriage with a single partner, should be so elusive.

Baby boomer women are at the heart of family relationships and their daily efforts to create a peaceful and harmonious home environment encompass welcoming newcomers to the family of all ages, colors and cultures. The ability to do this seamlessly is the key to a happy and well balanced family life in the early 21st Century.

The Psychological Article on Getting it Right: Achieving a Balance Through the Generations is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied behavioral patterns that occur when families are affected by outside events, or by the impact of second and third marriages; the dangers and coaching solutions concerned with ‘spoiled’ children and the hurdles that must be addressed for family newcomers: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Psychological Articles and Coaching Tips for Baby Boomers to Avoid/ Alleviate Elderly Problems

by Boomeryearbook.com

Elderly baby boomer grandmothers spent their early youth in a disciplined environment, where a certain amount of responsibility and an exacting standard of behavior was expected by fathers and mothers brought up in the thirties, when the unenviable experience of the depression made an impact on their values and morals.

Now that it is Grandma’s turn to exert some influence on what happens within the family structure, she is determined to be generous and show her grandchildren, especially her granddaughters, that love can be expressed through giving as well as through discipline and a rigid social code.

While baby boomer grandmother was too busy contributing to the family finances to pay much attention to her daughter, resulting in a marked ‘coolness’ in their relationship, she is resolved to ‘make amends’ and show her granddaughter how much she loves her through a form of idolization.

Adoration has a lot to answer for when it comes to spoiled grandchildren, who as a result of over indulgence have no concept of ‘value’. Appreciation suffers cruelly when over indulgence takes over in the life of a child. By the time the child has reached teenage years, considerable damage might have occurred and be almost impossible to undo.

Psychological articles from the schools of Attachment, Object Relations, and Positive Psychology observe that when children are given too much, the basic elements of appreciation are lost. For example, kids who are showered with gifts throughout the year will derive little pleasure from receiving gifts on special occasions such as birthdays and at Christmas time.

The pleasure of receiving a gift loses its magic if the experience happens too often. The worst specimens of ‘spoiling baby boomer Grandmas’ give their grandchildren expensive gifts of toys, clothes and entertainment treats such as restaurant meals, every day. Parents struggle hopelessly to save enough to buy their child a special gift on a special occasion, only to be ‘up-staged’ by Grandma’s Platinum Credit Card. Naughty ole’ Grandma is so obsessed with single-handedly ruining her grandchildren, she hardly notices her daughter’s increasing coolness as resentment begins to bubble dangerously…

Spoiled children grow into spoiled teenagers and this is when the real trouble begins. Our modern society offers every indulgent gadget – usually costly – to gratify every whim of a young adult who hasn’t the slightest inkling of the amount of work required to earn the price of a new mobile phone or a new car or tickets for next week’s rock concert.

Teenage granddaughters who have been subjected to ‘whims of worship’ applied by deluded grandmothers, enjoy owning a wardrobe so extensive they could not possibly wear each outfit even if they changed three times a day for months! Their jewelery is up to date; their sense of style is years ahead of their maturity and their allowances are – well – generous!

Psychological articles that make an interesting study of such behavioral patterns also observe that the teenage granddaughters in this equation also display a capacity for being materialistic and criticizing others who are unfortunate enough not to have a baby boomer cash machine affectionately known as ‘Grandma’.

It may be wise for Grandma to remember the song and familiar adage of the depression years:
“God Bless The Child Who Has Her Own”
For if not, Grandma may unwittingly be creating an “entitled” spoiled young woman.

The Psychological Article on Spoiled Teenage Granddaughters: The Dangers of Giving Too Much is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied behavioral patterns that occur when families are affected by outside events, or by the impact of second and third marriages; the dangers and coaching solutions concerned with ‘spoiled’ children and the hurdles that must be addressed for family newcomers: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Psychological Articles and Coaching Tips for Baby Boomers to Avoid/ Alleviate Elderly Problems

by Boomeryearbook.com

Children who are born into relative comfort and security display a refreshing eagerness to please the adults that populate their small world. Parental influence has the greatest impact on the way children behave but all too often, the influence of an affectionate and over-indulgent grandmother can de-rail all attempts to achieve discipline and control for the parents. Baby boomers passionately attached to their grandchildren can sometimes cause a great deal of harm to children they spoil indiscriminately, undermining parental authority, causing resentment, discord and general havoc.

Older baby boomers remember all too well the disciplines of the forties and fifties and the constraints applied to children in the lean years following the war. Children who have a vivid recollection of a frugal or excessively disciplined lifestyle often grow into adults who have an over developed idea of their own entitlement to the good things in life. When grandchildren put in an appearance, baby boomers can ‘over compensate’ to attempt to guarantee in some way that grandchildren have a better experience of childhood than their own and that of their children.

Spoiling can present in many forms. Psychological articles from the schools of Attachment Object Relations and Positive Psychology look at a grandmother’s susceptibility to spoil a grandchild and suggest a variety of motives that range from being deprived in early childhood to ‘buying’ love from the child to help reinforce her own security. In the worst instances, a grandmother might ‘compete’ with her own daughter for the affections of a grandchild, causing extreme distress. In cases where the grandparents are financially better off than the parents, opportunities to over indulge and spoil are frequent and consequently lead to the child seeking the grandparent’s company in order to acquire gifts and treats, resulting in warped values.

One of the more chilling aspects of the spoiling process is that all too often, the damage caused by such behavior might be well established before a counteractive process or remedy may be put into place. Children who have been subjected to over indulgence tend to feel ‘punished’ when deprived of the treatment they previously enjoyed in quantity, whether it was in the form of actual possessions or simply through emotional manipulation.

Punishment of any kind is often seen by grandparents to be a form of abuse. A mother who scolds her child for poor behavior might be ‘called out’ by her own mother, sometimes in front of the child, and told she is being unreasonable or unfair. This leads the child into manipulative behavior, as the mother is thereafter viewed by the child as being without authority; someone who may be ‘side-lined’ whenever good behavior is an issue. Baby boomer Grandma wins again!

Psychological articles advise early attention to such matters before they get out of hand but of course these are not easy problems to handle. Grandparents hold a certain affection and seniority within the family structure that is both assertive and difficult to challenge. Taking on Grandma in the popularity stakes is not always to be recommended!

The Psychological Article on Grandmother Spoiling and Over-indulging: The Cause and Effect is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied behavioral patterns that occur when families are affected by outside events, or by the impact of second and third marriages; the dangers and coaching solutions concerned with ‘spoiled’ children and the hurdles that must be addressed for family newcomers: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Psychological Articles and Coaching Tips for Baby Boomers to Avoid/ Alleviate Elderly Problems

 by Boomeryearbook.com

Boomer Grandmother is a formidable figure and certain baby boomer grandmothers born in the late forties might have a daughter who is also a baby boomer, born in the sixties. Elderly female baby boomers display an interesting influence through the family line and manage to exert a significant amount of control, both on her boomer daughter and also on her granddaughter.

Baby boomers born in the forties to poorer families were subject to a certain amount of hardship. For many, this meant leaving school early to earn a wage, helping to raise younger children in the family and generally tending to obligations in a serious and diligent manner. Their standard were carried over to the next generation and some of the boomer mothers born in the sixties grew up as ‘latch key kids’ – the children who arrive home from school to an empty house and have to fend for themselves and younger brothers and sisters because Mom is working.

In the fifties and sixties, the World was recovering from the effects of World War II but there was also an element of moral rebellion taking place, which eventually led to the freedom of spirit celebrated in the late sixties and early seventies. Baby boomers who are now mothers of teenagers brought their children into a culture of liberty rather than discipline. Psychological articles from the schools of Attachment Object Relations, and Positive Psychology, note that the children produced by baby boomers of this generation enjoy increased freedom and a degree of excess in terms of material possessions.

Aging baby boomers have sailed through a World of radical changes and learned to embrace new technology. They have also, to an extent, learned to let go of their prejudices and accept new family structures previously seen as unorthodox at best and immoral at worst, such as unmarried couples; unmarried mothers; children in one family having different fathers due to the mother’s once considered ‘promiscuous’ personality; gay relationships and a host of other structural permutations that might once have been ‘taboo’.

Psychological articles from the schools of Attachment, Object Relations, and Positive Psychology, that examine the relationship between aging baby boomer women and their female descendants bring some interesting observations to the surface. The aging boomer female can be a scary character but seems to soften significantly when in the company of her female grandchild, who might enjoy certain privileges withheld from other family members. The reasons for this might be linked with the grandmother’s neglect of her own daughter: she transfers her affection to the next generation, ‘starting over’ with a clean slate. She feels her daughter resents her so gravitates to her granddaughter.

The development of extreme affection between a boomer grandmother and her granddaughter might often damage the relationship between the grandmother and her boomer daughter. The casualty at the center of all these swirling emotions is of course the boomer daughter, caught between the disciplines of the last generation and the liberties of the next; a reluctant passenger on a tide of emotions that pass between a controlling and influential aging/elderly lady and the spoiled object of her affection – the granddaughter.

The Psychological Article on The Female Equation: Boomer Grandmother and Her Influence is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!