Psychological Articles and Coaching Tips for Baby Boomers to Avoid and Alleviate Elderly Problems

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These series of Boomer Yearbook’s articles explore the weird and wonderful structures that can happen within families of second and third marriages along with the psychological dangers and coaching solutions to giving preference or spoiling some children who have enjoyed longer/closer familial associations (i.e., daughter’s children closer to the grandparents than the son’s, etc), and the difficulties and joys of ‘newbie” blended relationships….Boomer Yearbook’s Guide to Yours, mine, and ours coaching strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Some men go through life attached to one partner or wife and some actually remain in unhappy relationships to please family traditions. Others behave as though their real ambitions lay in owning their own harem. Baby boomers who strive for secure family structures despair of sons who habitually change partners, hurtling from one divorce to another at breakneck speed. Some get engaged and then break off the engagement so often, their parents barely have the time to learn the name of their new fiancée before they are onto the next!

The difficulty is in the fact that these men have chosen to make a formal commitment to each woman but do not actually take the relationship seriously enough for it to last. Perhaps the ring on the finger is the incentive for regular sex, or the man yearns for the secure routine of having a wife or long term partner at home but chooses partners too casually for a long term commitment to work. Psychological articles from the schools of Attachment Relational and Positive Psychology analyze the relationships men with multiple partners have with women and find generally that the men are emotionally inadequate in some way that undermines their ability to enjoy a long standing relationship (i.e. read commitment phobic).

Whatever the reasons, baby boomers with philandering sons must somehow make the best of things and the only way forward is really to take as casual an attitude to their son’s relationship as the son himself. Certainly it can be painful to get to know a daughter-in-law and become fond of her over time, only to have her ‘removed’ from the family circle through divorce or separation.

The problems that arise as a result of this kind of behavior might be far reaching and a series of failed relationships can bring about a pattern of events the son feels helpless to change. As the son begins to feel emotionally ‘numb’ through so many failed alliances, he begins to dabble in even more casual sexual encounters and might ultimately stay single as a result of his inability to conduct a successful love life with a long term partner.

Baby boomers with a healthy and affectionate marriage might often feel they have ‘failed’ their son somewhere along the way and begin to question the way they raised their children in general. Psychological articles that explore the logic parents apply when their children behave unacceptably observe that often, such men are the products of highly efficient parents. Their expectations are therefore somewhat unrealistically high when they enter new relationships, expecting the same level of care from their new partners that they enjoyed from their mother.

Baby boomers in a situation where their son has a number of failed relationships behind him might find an in depth conversation with a professional psychologist helpful when trying to approach a solution and form a strategy on how to deal with multiple partners in their son’s private life. ‘Minding your own business’ is sometimes less than productive is such instances!

Attachment Theory of 'The Self'

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