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Lucky

Friday, December 25th, 2009
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Lucky, Lucky, Lucky

By Jan Gamm for for BoomerYearbook.com

 

Lucky is a rescue case.  He narrowly escaped being destroyed when his previous owner got too drunk one night to keep the vet’s appointment.  She was moving to Australia the following week and would not pay his fare, preferring to put an end to his life.  When we heard about her intention to have him put to sleep, we stepped in and said we would take him in. 

 

We had never seen him.  For all we knew, he might have been vicious but as we had no young children we thought it worth the risk.  I had a passing thought that I hoped he would not be plug ugly and waited for him to arrive.

 

He was plug ugly. 

 

He was one of those dogs you see hanging around on street corners begging for scraps.  His fur was a dirty grey; clipped close to his body.  His legs were spindly and sparsely covered with matted, dirty fur and he smelled bad.  He was quite large but skinny; his haunches stuck out and although he tolerated our touching him, he cowered away when we touched the top of his head.

 

“Where are his things?” I asked.

“Oh, well, I brought his bowl and a bag of biscuits to keep him going for a week.  He sleeps outside”.

“No, I mean: where are his brushes and combs and toys?”

“Nah – he doesn’t like toys.  He’s no trouble – he might play with a ball”. 

 

She was not in the least interested.  I insisted she walk him around our garden before she left which seemed to annoy her.  I wanted him to understand that she was leaving him here with us, hoping he would not run away as soon as she had gone.  She took him around the perimeter of our garden, thanked me perfunctorily for taking him in and promptly left. 

 

He had a dirty metal bowl, a frayed collar, an extender lead and a bag of biscuits to his name.  He had not been castrated (I had been assured that he was), he twitched and trembled, seemed to spend a lot of time scratching and at the slightest sound ran for cover behind a chair.

 

He had the most beautiful eyes I had ever seen.

 

The first night, he escaped through the open gate at the end of the drive and tried to find his way home.  A search party found him trotting happily along one of the busiest roads in town but he seemed happy enough to be rescued and settled a little better after that, although if the gate was left ajar he would try to make a run for it. 

 

In an effort to curb his desire to wander, I booked an appointment at the vet to have him castrated.  Amazingly, his shots had been regular and the vet’s address was on the card.  Fortunately, he loved being in the car so getting him there was easy enough.  I left him with the receptionist and was told to come back to collect him that afternoon. 

 

I was given a frosty welcome.  The vet knew the dog from a puppy and was pretty sure I was not the owner.  I explained the situation and his attitude melted.  The news, however, was not good.

 

“Señora, this dog is very sick.  He is full of parasites, fleas and tics – thousands of them.  I have done the operation and he will be recovered in a day or two but unless you can get rid of the fleas, he will die soon.  The fleas are inside as well as outside and his skin is infected on his legs.  He twitches because the itching is driving him crazy.  I can give you special shampoo for his skin.  He must be bathed at least once a week with the shampoo and some pills for the fleas which will make him very ill; the highest dose that it is possible to give without killing him.  If he lives, he will always be twitchy and nervous.  He is going to be a lot of problems for you and very hard work”.

 

I groaned but agreed to take the pills and the shampoo home with me, along with my twitching and trembling house guest, now limping from the effects of being castrated.

 

He followed us everywhere, which we found slightly annoying.  Once he decided this was to be his home, he explored it happily, trotting around and marking his territory, acquainting himself with the local stray cats who wandered through the orchard from time to time; in an all out brawl, he always fared worse. 

 

The pills were terrible.  After his weekly dose he would lay on his side for a full two days, unable to move, unable to eat, his eyes sad, looking at us, begging us to help. Please help me.  We gave him the full dose and petted him through the worst days.  The baths were terrible.  He had a horror of water and fought our attempts to get him into the bath.  If the hose was being used in the garden he would run, petrified.  We found out later his previous owner’s teenage boy would turn the pressure hose on him for fun.  The shampoo smelled awful and took the skin off our hands.  Slowly, slowly, he began to improve. 

 

He had been sleeping on a blanket but when his flea condition began to improve, we brought home a proper doggy bed and he beamed at us, wagging his entire body with delight, turning it this way and that, pushing his nose beneath it and proudly sitting in the middle of it: Is this really for me?  He slept in his bed at night in the sitting room but as soon as he heard us moving in the mornings, would come to the stairs, asking to be let into the bedroom where he could beg for the biscuits we took with our morning coffee.

 

One day, about six weeks after his arrival, we brought home a squeaky toy – a rubber replica of a baby’s bottle in bright colors.  His behaviour was disturbing to say the least.  He started to cry!  We watched, fascinated as he yelped and whined and washed the toy, turning it in his paws, carrying it around the room, then settling with it in his paws again, whining and yelping and crying.  We tried to take it away, worrying that it had upset him but he cried until we gave it back to him. 

 

He had never been given anything in his life, we concluded: Lucky’s babies were born.

 

Lucky got a new ‘baby’ regularly, about once a month, still in its bag from the pet store.  He would turn wheels in delight and open the bag himself; tossing the toy around the room and playing ‘catch me’ if we joined in.  Lucky was on the mend.  Slowly he inveigled himself into our bedroom at night under the ruse of being scared of fireworks and he slept on his bed in the corner.

 

His fur grew.  He put on weight.  He slowly lost his fear of the bath. The brushes and combs we used on him daily brought his coat to a shine and his natural coloring came through – pure white and ginger patching – his long coat reaching almost to the floor – time to get him clipped.  We took him to the local doggy groomer and when he emerged at the end of the afternoon, the ugly duckling had turned into a beautiful, albeit comical, swan.

 

He loved the car and would draw comment wherever we went.  He loved being petted and fussed on his walks and his favorite walk was along the seafront, where he could sniff the delightful food smells from the local restaurants and be petted by the local kids out skating and cycling.   He would give his paw and enjoy all the oohs and ahhs and compliments – playing to the gallery.

 

It had been almost six months: time to go back to the vet for his annual shot and to see if there was any trace of fleas.

 

We sat in the waiting room.  The vet passed through on his way to a treatment room and stopped dead in his tracks, delight all over his face.  He said something in Spanish, still smiling, and squatted on the floor next to Lucky, offering his hand and receiving the usual outstretched paw.

 

“This is what love can do”, he said.

 

No fleas; no infections; no worms; no rashes; no parasites.  Bright, shining eyes and wet nose; long, glossy white coat; claws beautifully manicured and luxurious tail sweeping the ground – he could pass for a one year old, said the vet…  We went home as proud as punch.

 

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He was seven when we got him.  He is ten now.  He follows us everywhere we go still but we are used to it now and automatically check behind us before we step back; check behind our chairs before we scrape them back and catch his paws; open doors carefully and check before we close them to avoid catching his nose.  Each move we make is tailored to mark his presence.  He gives us so much devotion; it seems little to do in return.

 

Then, last week, he started to limp. Slightly at first, then more and more.  We checked his pads.  Nothing.  Then his legs.  Nothing wrong there either.  We would take him to the vet tomorrow.  The next day he really began to stress.  We looked him over carefully yet again, and he eventually screamed when we put our hands on his chest, near his armpit.  We got him into the car and took him to the vet.  Now he began to yelp and scream whenever he moved. 

 

He had sprained his neck.  Not only that, the vet thought he had arthritis too.  We were given some tablets and told to dose him morning and evening and keep him quiet.

 

Anyone who has a nervous dog will know their reaction to panic and pain is to wander around the room.  They think movement will fix things.  Perhaps it is the assurance that if they are moving, they are not dying… Whatever the logic, it does not work and the dog becomes steadily more agitated, panic stricken and full of pain. 

 

The pain went on for days.  We kept him in our bedroom because the steps to the sitting room were too painful.  We listened to him screaming and laid down on the tile floor with him when it became impossible to move him onto a rug or blanket.  He wet his bed and looked at us apologetically as we turned it over to find somewhere dry for him to sleep.  Through it all, he insisted on begging at the door to be let out whenever he wanted something more than to urinate.  He dragged himself down the garden to his ‘bathroom’ and squatted in agony rather than soil in the house. 

 

Two days.  The vet gave us sedatives in two syringes to help his pain.  Three…

 

Vets in Spain do not make house calls.  Animals are sometimes loved and cherished here but in a country where not so long ago dogs and cats were killed for food in the deprivations after the civil war, house pets draw little compassion.  Our vet is better than most but still will not make a house call.  We begged a series of night clinics to come to our home to give Lucky a sedative.  We explained he was in agony and could not be lifted into the car. None of them would come. We trailed back and forth to the vet, asking this and that, begging for more sedatives.  In the end, they said to leave off the sedatives – they were making him too drugged to know what he was doing, so he wandered around the room hurting himself.

 

Mark went upstairs to make some sandwiches and left us, Lucky panting in pain on the floor and me soothing him as best I could.  Then he called me on the house phone, his voice full of tears: I know what we have to do.  He’s not going to die in agony and he’s not going to any vet either to be sent into the cold waiting room to die on the floor.  We’ll do it ourselves. Here, at home.  Then he rang off.  Lucky continued to cry and scream.  That night we spent with Mark on the floor again, Lucky wincing each time one of us moved.

 

Day four, Mark went back to the vet.  This time, the vet spoke to him at length and said that it was possible Lucky would recover.  Leave it till Thursday… Mark came home with more sedatives but also with advice not to use them unless it was absolutely necessary.  He had no intention of using them.  We were going to save them. In a couple of days we would get some more, until we had a lethal dose. 

 

 

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Today is a beautiful day.  Last night, Lucky started moving around without pain.  He went out into the garden without crying; he ate a meal and drank a bowlful of water.  His eyes are clear again.  He slept all night, hardly moving.  His pain is gone. 

 

How is it possible to be so pleased to see someone who has urinated on my bedroom floor for three days?  Mark and I ate a proper meal last night and enjoyed a peaceful evening with our dog sleeping on his bed in the corner.  The grisly syringes, half of our deadly dose, lay unused on the night stand. 

 

Does he know how much we love him? 

 

I think so.

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Baby Boomer Mistresses: Sex for Favors

Tuesday, November 24th, 2009
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This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied sexual behavioral patterns that occur as a result of the impact of the modern World; the challenges faced by men and women of the new age and the hurdles that must be addressed: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Dr. Karen for Boomeryearbook.com

The old adage is that love makes the World go round but in fact most people concede that it is sex that makes the journey interesting. Sex is responsible for so many of the World’s disasters: Samson and Delilah; Cleopatra and Mark Anthony; Marilyn and the Kennedys (both of them…) Baby boomers just adore sex and all the romance and intrigue that surround it and marriage need not necessarily dilute sexual interest (okay, in many cases it does).

Psychological articles on elderly problems portray The World of the ‘kept’ mistress as necessarily covert and also lonely. Whenever affairs, long term or otherwise, are brought to light it is usually the wife who draws sympathy, prompting a series of clichéd platitudes such as, ‘After xx years of marriage, how could he…’ or, ‘She was the last to find out…’ (Well, obviously, you idiot – if she had been the first, it would probably never have taken place!) or; ‘It’s the children who suffer’ – this last is true – it is the children who suffer.

Women who discover their husbands have been ‘playing away’ invariably imagine the mistress to be someone plastered in eye liner and wearing an ensemble that would not look out of place on Hollywood Boulevard but the truth is that men who fall into long term affairs find it difficult to extricate their affections from women who are intelligent, caring, affectionate, and considerate. Sorry, ladies, the truth is that most mistresses are everything the wife would love to be. Ouch!

One of the more common observations made by lady baby boomers on discovering their husband’s infidelity is: “Well if I spent XX dollars every week on clothes and make up, I could have an affair too!!” This is true, you could; but you didn’t, so you’re not and anyway that isn’t why he did it. Listen up girlfriend – men stay with their mistresses because they get something from the other woman they do not get from you. Simple. What is that ‘something?’ Well, if we knew that, the World would be happily married, wouldn’t it?

Mistresses at any age, not just baby boomers, can have a rough life when it comes down to it – they spend every family holiday alone; they have nobody to visit them in the hospital when they are sick, except for well meaning friends which is not the same as having your husband or partner bring you flowers and hugs when you are feeling low; they have to cope with every household emergency without the support of a male partner; they are expected to welcome unscheduled sex in the small windows of opportunity that present at odd times of day or night; psychological articles acknowledge that mistresses are deeply affected by their relationships and usually end up lonely and hurt: they are not all love rats.

The Psychological Article on Baby Boomer Mistresses: Sex for Favors is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Old is Young

Friday, November 6th, 2009

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Heard of ‘Young at heart football club’?

It is a club formed entirely of people who have put in at least 20 years of service somewhere, and are aged above 50! That means that the entire club is populated with boomers.

This is just one example out of hundreds of associations and clubs formed by boomers, who refuse to bow in their ‘middle’ years. In fact, the attitude has caught on big time, and today, like little league, there is an unofficial retired league too!

This brings us to the title of this article – ‘Old is Young’. That ‘Age is only for the body and not the mind’ is an old adage. Ever since time immemorial, there have been people who have defied their physical age, and have done crazy things right till they passed away. By crazy things, we mean things that normally people of ‘a certain age’ don’t do – like snowboard, or motocross!

Psychologists have been researching reasons why boomers have a different mindset then previous generations. The answer probably lies in the fact that boomers have been the most ‘Free’ generation in the history of the USA and Western Europe. Free not in the sense of the literal meaning, but in the sense of the freedom to do whatever they wanted, and be given an opportunity to be successful in it too. That led to a lot of confidence, and it is not an exaggeration to say that this boomer generation has defined the world economics in a way that no other group of people has ever done!

Though we are not old yet, we are slowly getting there. But then, ‘Old is young’ isn’t it?

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A Smile From the Heart

Friday, November 6th, 2009

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By Dr. Karen For Boomeryearbook.com

Does a smile given or received have any effect on others?

One thing we know for sure, when we are giving a smile away it usually means we are in a happy state of mind. When we receive one, no matter what the mood we may be in, it mellows and softens the heart. So what does this mean? It shows that people are connected both directly and indirectly.

There have been numerous studies conducted with respect to the effects of a smile. The researchers involved have been curious to ascertain if one person in a group smiles can it actually stimulate others within that group to smile as well? This is an experiment you can try for yourself. Next time you are on an elevator with several other people, smile at the person next to you and see what happens. Then perhaps smile at someone else as well. This is a great exercise, with great results. In fact, it may bring a smile to your face whenever you think about it.

In many ways, humans are both compassionate and caring. Often we react as per our environment, and not our personalities. Usually an irritable individual finds it a little more difficult to remain in that state when they are with someone who is happy and smiling. Have you ever been in the presence of a person who is smiling and happy and they have done something to make you smile although smiling is the last thing you wanted to do? Research actually shows that your happy friend can increase your chances of being happy by 9%, but that unhappy one can bring you down by 7%. That just shows you the type of effect that other people can have on us. A negative environment will spawn negativity, and a positive environment will do just the opposite.

Another interesting factor is that in order to benefit from another’s happiness you must be close to them in order to have a reaction to their happy emotional energy. Again, you can give this some thought. Think about a friend who is usually always happy and bubbly. You can talk to them on the phone and no matter what; they always make you feel good. You look forward to the time when you can be in their company again because of the way they make you feel. When you are with them, you enjoy their company since they make you smile. So being in close proximity really does strengthen the emotional bond. Exposure to a bright happy smile most certainly is contagious. It is probably adaptive and healthy that human beings can react to other’s emotions so well and so fast.

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A Word Puzzle to Light Up Our Brains

Thursday, February 26th, 2009
Boomers! Let's light up our brains

Boomers! Let's light up our brains

By Boomeryearbook.com

See if you can figure out what these words have in common.

  1. Banana
  2. Dresser
  3. Grammar
  4. Potato
  5. Revive
  6. Uneven
  7. Assess

Are you peeking or have you already given up? Give it another try. Look at each word carefully.

(You’ll kick yourself when you discover the answer.)

Word Puzzle Solution

Word Puzzle Solution

This Is Cool.

No, it is not that they all have at least 2 double letters.

(Thought I had the answer, but I did not go far enough.)

Answer:

In all of the words listed, if you take the first letter, place it at the end of the word, and then spell the word backwards, it will be the same word.

The brain is one of our most important organs; and just as the rest of the body requires exercise to stay healthy and active, so does the brain. Listen up boomers! According to psychological articles and research, online optical illusions and brain teasers such as those presented in Boomer Yearbook, are fun, proven ways to help ward off loss of memory, depression, and dementia! Let’s stop complaining about senior moments and do what psychological articles and research tell us we can to keep our brains active and alive.

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