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Santa’s Little Helper

Monday, November 30th, 2009

Santa's Little Helper: BoomerYearbook.com

Santa's Little Helper: BoomerYearbook.com


 

 Karen Turner, PhD of BoomerYearbook.com
 
Author Bio
 
Clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner has created a social network for baby boomers interested in meeting and connecting with generational peers. Boomer Yearbook focuses on joining boomers from around the world, providing fun, integrative and interactive features that optimize social and emotional wellness. As a psychologist, Dr. Karen’s goal is to provide free challenging brain games, informational newsletters on life, professional coaching, boomer relevant forums, the latest news on cosmetic surgery and skin enhancements as well as health and wellness features that may maximize learning and functioning.
 
 
 
 
 
Santa’s Little Helper

 

Baby boomers, especially Moms, are up there with Santa’s Elves when it comes to getting an enormous number of tasks completed in time for Christmas.  The countdown starts in November, somewhere between Halloween and New Years and each day there seems to be a Christmas blind panic moment as we realise we have forgotten to order, buy, ice or stuff something in preparation for the big day.

 

Christmas is always a special family time and it is easy to understand why everyone loves the twinkling lights; Christmas roses; the smell of mince pies baking on an icy cold day; a roaring and welcoming fire wafting the aroma of cinnamon and pine through the house; snow falling; Christmas carols and dozens of brightly wrapped gifts under the Christmas tree.

 

These things don’t just arrive by auto-suggestion, unfortunately: someone has to make the effort to shop and organise and cook and arrange the hundreds of elements that go into a successful family Christmas and deal with the disasters along the way.  That someone is usually you! 

 

Retail marketing experts know exactly where our buttons are and start to push them in September when the first tentative boxes of Christmas crackers appear next to the check out in the supermarket, forcing us to mentally schedule the Christmas agenda of tasks to be completed.  For many baby boomers, Christmas entails booking flights for elderly relatives; arranging for train connections and airport pickups and decorating the guest room in time to receive Christmas visitors.  The ‘to do’ shopping list is endless!

 

One of the uglier aspects of Christmas shopping is the ‘proxy gift buying’ that goes on in so many families – Mom buys gifts for Grandma on behalf of the kids; gifts for the kids on behalf of Dad; gifts for Aunt Mabel on behalf of everyone else and the worst – gifts for herself from Dad!  This is absolutely the saddest moment of Christmas when baby boomer Mom is sent out to buy her own gift from her husband – ‘yeah whatever you want, Hon, you know what you like’ (Creep…)

 

This Christmas, think of the effort Mom puts in for everyone and take the ten minutes to buy her something thoughtful and have it nicely wrapped: it’s the least you should do.  Teach younger family members the importance of thoughtful gift giving; it will stay with them forever.

 

At what should be one of the more joyful times of the year, so many family arguments and disagreements color the holidays for baby boomer Moms who spend half their time in diplomatic arbitration between the in laws and the children or the husband and the mother in law, or whomever… Christmas brings out the best and the worst in just about everyone but if a mature effort is made by all, family gatherings can be enriching and enjoyable. Those who take the opportunity to air family grievances at Christmas need to rethink their priorities and remember there are some people who have to spend every Christmas alone.

 

The designer Christmas tree is usually a bone of contention at this time of year.  In so many homes, the children are prohibited from going anywhere near the perfectly arranged Christmas tree with its Versace or Swarovski crystal baubles that cost a small fortune.  Some have a ‘designated’ Christmas tree for children; solely theirs to decorate with their childish paper chains and home made gingerbread decorations, with a separate tree for everyone else to be pretentious about.  Ugh!  Not the spirit of Christmas but it works for some!

 

One of the greatest Christmas cooking tips of all time is: eat out.  Just kidding… It is easier for baby boomer mothers with a large family to schedule Christmas dinner for the evening rather than the traditional lunchtime or mid afternoon banquet.  This gives more preparation hours, allowing small gaps for playing board games with the kids; opening gifts; imbibing a festive cocktail or two and generally enjoying the Christmas cheer the rest of the family take for granted.  Be careful how many cocktails you consume on an empty stomach though, especially if you want to avoid napalming the turkey by accidentally grilling instead of roasting!

 

Delegation is everything: involve the rest of the family, right down to the youngest, in preparing the Christmas feast, even if it is only washing a few vegetables; setting and clearing the table or folding napkins. Make it clear that shirkers will be severely dealt with and resolve to abolish baby boomer Christmas slavery once and for all!

 

Young children can be a handful on Christmas day.  Around two o’clock, childish tempers become frayed and this is usually the result of being too tired, too warm and too hungry.  Most children stay up far too late (Santa watching) on Christmas Eve, resulting in broken sleep and over tiredness.  Make the effort to ensure that little kids are taken out for some exercise and that their tummies are topped up with some nourishing sandwiches if there is a long wait until dinner. Detail someone to take them out with the dogs for a walk and to work up a good appetite!

 

To keep the party atmosphere sweet, try to separate a play area for very young children so that elderly guests can have a little peace and quiet.  In smaller homes this is not always possible but most people have a bedroom or den where youngsters can play with their new and noisy acquisitions without deafening everyone else. 

 

A word of caution: Christmas food is yummy but if you overeat and drink too much you are likely to miss out on so much Christmas fun by having to sleep through the rest of the party. Snacking throughout the day and following up with enough food to feed a small country is asking for trouble for digestive systems of all ages!

 

A warm home with plenty of love in it – try this perfect and timeless recipe for an outstanding Christmas, this and every year…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Baby Boomer Mistresses and How They Keep Their Men

Tuesday, November 24th, 2009
How Mistresses Keep Their Man: BoomerYearbook.com
How Mistresses Keep Their Man: BoomerYearbook.com

Dr. Karen for BoomerYearbook.com

This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied sexual behavioral patterns that occur as a result of the impact of the modern World; the challenges faced by men and women of the new age and the hurdles that must be addressed: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

The word ‘mistress’ conjures images of half naked women permanently dressed in see through underwear and sporting expensive jewelry, a cosmetically enhanced cleavage and a wicked smile. In fact, excluding the odd exception to the rule, baby boomers who are mistresses are invariably ordinary women who fell in love with a man they could not have.

Despite baby boomers’ reputation for sexual liberty, many of them find monogamy very comforting and spend their lives with one person or perhaps two at a stretch. There are a few, however, that become drawn to the dreaded love triangle like a moth to a flame and these sexual intrigues can cause considerable heartbreak and emotional turmoil for everyone involved. Psychological articles tell us that heartbreak can be more difficult to cope with in later life and in serious cases can lead to depression.

Baby boomer mistresses who have been attached to one man for a very long time experience all kinds of emotional insecurity as they get older, for obvious reasons. As they age and lose their looks they believe – in some instances with good reason – that their man will feel less affection for them, no longer find them sexually alluring and eventually seek someone younger.

The reality of affairs is that they are often conducted in an atmosphere of home comfort rather than sleazy bars and private clubs. Baby boomers in the same affair for a long time have much the same home routine as conventionally married partners but without any legal obligation to carry on their association once attraction wears off. This leaves the mistress who is dependent on her man for support in the unenviable position of having no financial security and no emotional security either. This could be the reason for the relationship enjoying its longevity in the first place.

Men have had a generic love of being made comfortable by women since the beginning of time. When things go wrong at home and their relationships with their wives become strained through the daily pressure of family life, they sometimes seek the ingredients missing from their marriage elsewhere. If they are lucky enough to find it, a love affair can continue for many years as the man enjoys all the attention he does not get at home.

Psychological articles do not see extra marital affairs as particularly beneficial in terms of emotional health, for either party. A happier solution all round is to try to repair the cracks in one’s marriage rather than raid the emotions of a part time lover.

The Psychological Article on Baby Boomer Mistresses and How They Keep Their Men is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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The Makeover and its Results: Overhauling Your Appearance for Sexual Attraction

Tuesday, November 24th, 2009
 Overhauling Your Appearance for Sexual Attraction: BoomerYearbook.com

Boomers Overhauling Appearance for Sexual Attraction: BoomerYearbook.com

This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied sexual behavioral patterns that occur as a result of the impact of the modern World; the challenges faced by men and women of the new age and the hurdles that must be addressed: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Dr. Karen for BoomerYearbook.com

Sexual attraction is an elusive and fickle thing – some of the ugliest people on the planet enjoy the admiration of the opposite sex for no apparent reason and some of them even exhibit unfortunate table manners or poor hygiene! There is no explaining the foibles of the human mind when it comes to physical attraction and fancying someone; chemistry takes over and we simply cave in to our emotions.

There are times when we are attracted not just to the person but to the way they present themselves. Loving the way someone wears their hair or their clothes can be a potent ingredient for sexual attraction, psychological articles assure us. Baby boomers with plenty of cash to splash have the advantage of being able to stay in fashion, fund cosmetic enhancements and undergo quite serious makeovers from time to time. Don’t like your nose? Change it! Don’t like your hair? Dye it! Probably the only thing we cannot change is our height, although 5 inch heels can make a difference for those with a concern.

Makeover can travel a number of different paths: baby boomers who simply want a change of scenery might get a new hairdo or have their eyelashes dyed or be brave enough to have a tattoo (each to his own…) Others feel they can only be regenerated by having a breast lift or reduction; liposuction; botox; tummy tuck or hair transplant. People who opt for a radical makeover usually accomplish the transformation in stages to avoid scaring the neighbors.

Start with the mirror. Be critical and decide which of your features are quite attractive and which are definitely due for a change. Consider whether they can be changed by cosmetic therapies and treatments rather than by drastic surgery. Consult your dentist and see if he (of she) thinks that some dental work is possible to improve your smile and then use it. Psychological articles recommend that smiling can extend our life expectancy as well as enhance our appearance!

Should you decide that surgery is the only solution, be sure to consult a surgeon with faultless credentials and testimonials.

When it comes to clothes, baby boomers know their own minds about what suits them and don’t mind spending cash to keep up with the latest fashions. There are one or two basic guidelines which some people miss such as always matching nail polish to lipstick; always matching shoes to purses and other accessories; never wearing blue and green together; never wearing white stilettos with anything but a white dress and never with jeans. For us baby boomers dressing for sexual attraction, there are no hard and fast rules – only sensible guidelines that will hopefully prevent you from blundering into the realms of “pig wearing lipstick”!

The Psychological Article on The Makeover and its Results: Overhauling Your Appearance for Sexual Attraction is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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Cosmetic Enhancement for Baby Boomers Seeking Sex

Tuesday, November 24th, 2009

Cosmetic Enhancement for Baby Boomers Seeking Sex: BoomerYearbook.com

Cosmetic Enhancement for Baby Boomers Seeking Sex: BoomerYearbook.com

This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied sexual behavioral patterns that occur as a result of the impact of the modern World; the challenges faced by men and women of the new age and the hurdles that must be addressed: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.


By Dr. Karen for BoomerYearbook.com

As we enter the tail end of life we begin to feel a little piqued at the injustice of having more money than we had when we were young but not much of looks to accompany the lifestyle we can finally afford! There is something tragic about baby boomers wearing gorgeous Armani designs with a face like a ploughed field! Wrinkles and crow’s feet are seen by many as the medals of older age but some of us prefer a smoother appearance.

Cosmetic enhancement is no longer the huge leap it once was and it is no longer considered to be the exclusive facility of the rich and famous. Baby boomers from every walk of life now seek surgical solutions to big noses; droopy eyelids; pinched lips; saggy hips; dropped bottoms and slack breasts. It can all be pinched; tucked; sucked and straightened – stitched; stretched and etched into physical perfection.

Traditionally, people who resorted to cosmetic surgery have been criticized, almost as if they have somehow cheated time (usually by people who desperately needed cosmetic enhancement but could not afford it). Baby boomers represent one of the largest groups of clients who opt for the surgeon’s scalpel over aging none too gracefullyPsychological articles observe that the motive for seeking surgical cosmetic enhancement might be self improvement; wanting to feel ‘better turned out’; wanting to feel more confident. The truth is, though, that many baby boomers seeking surgical help for the bits that have dropped; popped; flopped or sagged simply want to be able to feel sexy again. That’s it really – wanting to feel like a hot number again despite having a face and body that has seen a great deal of traffic; wanting to be desirable to Mr Right or Mrs Right. Right?

The first step toward achieving treatment is to find a reputable doctor, even before a budget has been set for the procedure. Compromises should not be made when finding a reputable surgeon. Make absolutely sure your surgeon carries perfect credentials and if possible try to go by personal recommendation. Be realistic when making adjustments to your face and body – it’s the only one you have and mistakes can be tragic – don’t part with your personality by making your nose too snub or your eyes too wide – certain surgical enhancements can have the effect of making you look younger but at the same time a little silly if your default expression is too taut and stiff. Research and find the best surgeon and then take your surgeon’s advice!

The Psychological Article on Cosmetic Enhancement for Baby Boomers Seeking Sexual Interest is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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Sex and How to Dress to Get It

Tuesday, November 24th, 2009
Sex and How To Dress: BoomerYearbook.com

Sex and How To Dress: BoomerYearbook.com

This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied sexual behavioral patterns that occur as a result of the impact of the modern World; the challenges faced by men and women of the new age and the hurdles that must be addressed: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.


Dr. Karen for BoomerYearbook.com

In the interests of getting sex, baby boomers turn all kinds of cartwheels and perform any number of fashion contortions. As we reach our fifties, sixties and seventies we often have a libido that is no less active and unfortunately, a mirror that is no less truthful than it was twenty years ago!

Women who are getting on in life go through the aging process. This removes elasticity from the skin; drops stomachs making it difficult to wear jeans attractively; piles weight on and turns hair gray and wiry: all part of growing older but not exactly helpful on a hot date. Male baby boomers have different problems: hairy ears, noses, and backs; baldness; love handles that nobody wants to handle.

Psychological articles tell us that one of the worst possible fashion faux pax made by baby boomers needing to dress to attract a sexual partner is making the effort to appear younger. A sixty year old woman in a short skirt does not look like a thirty year old woman in short skirt: she just looks like a sixty year old woman who should be wearing a longer skirt.

Male baby boomers with a hair problem (or rather a ‘lack of hair’ problem) really need to address the issue with some practicality and not try to fool themselves that their toupee, three shades lighter than the rest of their hair, looks natural: it just looks silly! Sorry to be cruel, guys! A cringe-inducing story is that of the young lady who found a fifty year old irresistible and went to bed with him, then screeched to wake the dead when she found a 12 inch piece of hair encroaching her pillow in the morning – a legacy of ‘comb over’!

A professional hair transplant is a much better idea if your lack of hair is causing you a confidence problem, boys. But make sure you consult a professional – perhaps start with the International Society of Hair Restoration Society (ISHRS – www.ishrs.org) and pick a doctor you can trust.

Psychological articles recommend that you consult your mirror with pride and make a brave decision to be yourself when you are seeking a sexual partner. There is little value in finding a common ground with someone and then being unable to sustain the artifice you have used to draw their interest in the early stages. Ladies who wear revealing clothes to attract sexual interest run the risk of attracting the exact kind of interest she would be better to avoid.

Boomer Sexuality: BoomerYearbook.com

Boomer Sexuality: BoomerYearbook.com

Men who delight in attracting young women for sex usually end up being very lonely when they find they have nothing in common other than sex – try finding a partner of your own generation, boys, for real fun-in and out of the bedroom!

The Psychological Article on Sex and How to Dress to Get It is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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Using Sex to Get What You Want: How Can It Be Wrong?

Tuesday, November 24th, 2009
Greying Boomers Using Sex: BoomerYearbook.com

Greying Boomers Using Sex: BoomerYearbook.com

This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied sexual behavioral patterns that occur as a result of the impact of the modern World; the challenges faced by men and women of the new age and the hurdles that must be addressed: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Dr. Karen for BoomerYearbook.com

Baby boomers are a sexy generation, everyone knows that – they invented the wheel when it comes to matters of the libido and continue to interest the rest of society with their ‘gray sex revolution’ and their determination to be the oldest swingers in history. Psychological articles observe that baby boomers have turned sexual interests into something that can be freely debated; enjoyed outside of the institution of marriage; used to get what you want.

What was that?! Used to get what you want? How can that be right!? The fact is, though, that some do use sex indiscriminately to attain all kinds of things – material possessions; career advancement; emotional one-upmanship within a relationship. Is it wrong? You decide.

There is a fine line between knowing something is wrong and actually doing it. We all know that using one’s sexual allurements in exchange for money is called prostitution and all our mothers teach us that this is immoral and nice girls (and boys) don’t do it. However, when we are striving for success in our career and we know the boss has a soft spot for us, Mom is not always on hand to say; ‘Don’t you dare do that!’ Or at the very least, ‘Don’t you dare do that without a condom!’

Sexual favors are a persuasive element in just about any context, whether it is the simple act of getting your own way with the boyfriend over how to spend Sunday afternoon or using your sexual influence to turn opinion over how to spend the state security budget: it is all a matter of scale.

Baby boomers and their sexual relationships have the pebble in a pond effect – one small act changes so many events. A woman sleeping with her boss for favors can change the career path of everyone around her; some of them detrimentally: people who deserve advancement don’t get it because Flossie in accounting dropped her drawers for JP on the top floor after the last Christmas party.

Psychological articles take a dim view of the effect sexual compromise can have on the human psyche. Baby boomers indulging in this method of getting what they want all of their lives suddenly suffer emotional fallout when they realize they no longer have the sexual allure they once had and experience all kinds of loss issues when they have to come to terms with attainment through different means.

The Psychological Article on Using Sex to Get What You Want: How Can It Be Wrong? is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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AN AMERICAN TALE

Friday, May 1st, 2009

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By: Joseph J Kusnell for Boomeryearbook.com

Harden County, Oregon, not long ago was one of Oregon’s richest counties. As a top logging town, it had the world’s largest pine mill and provided a lot of lumber and a lot of local jobs.

But the all-but-ridiculous environmentalists found that logging endangered the spotted owl and so, they lobbied to close the mill down.

Today, Harden County is bankrupt. Its unemployment rate is 25%. Families have had to move to find work elsewhere. The trees now grow under protection of the Federal Government. The spotted owls are thriving.

But –

The formerly largest pine mill in the world is closed and rotting away.

The men who used to work here can’t find work anywhere.

Logging in the American west is down 60% with a ton of lost jobs.

But America still need lumber (as we need oil). So we need to get that lumber somewhere (as we do oil). So where do we get it?

We import it from other countries.

Where do they get it?

They cut down their forests for it.

Do they have spotted owls in their forests?

Who knows.

Does anyone in these countries care?

I guess not.

Do we have to pay for the lumber we import?

Sure. We pay a lot of money for it.

Do these countries make money by selling their lumber to us?

Of course they do. It’s a thriving business way up in the past twenty years.

Is that because we stopped cutting down our own trees?

Yes, certainly.

Does that increase employment in those countries?

Yes, it does.

Does that increase unemployment in our country?

Yes, it does.

So they are doing great and we are doing poorly, right?

That’s right.

But our spotted owls are happy while theirs are not, right?

Right. Their owls are miserable, but ours party every night.

What about their people?

They party every night because they have jobs.

And ours?

We have nothing to party for, so we are miserable.

Join the party. One of the gravest dangers to America today are the environmentalists. They are thoroughly out of touch with reality yet somehow,

they stay in power. And – of course – they are all democrats.

They fiddle as America burns.

This is the result of having too many Democrats in power. All these wackos belong to the Democratic Party. I would love to track them down and ask them if they eat chicken? Or ever enjoy a nice steak or sausage or bacon with their eggs?

What about leather that comes from the hide of animals? Have any of that around the house in things like shoes, bags, belts, pocketbooks, or wallets? And what about the medication they use? Was any of that medication developed at the expense of certain animals in laboratories? If they answer yes to any of these questions, then they are disingenuous at best and phonies at worst. We need to get rid of them.

It is not too late to stop this destruction of America. In 2010 you can save your country but returning checks and balances to your government: Vote Republican – restore balance to both houses so they can’t get away with what they are trying to do. If you don’t, you will have to live with the result. And so will your children and so will your grandchildren – and I can assure you, you won’t like it very much.

A lot of lives were lost creating the best country the world has ever known. It would be a shame to see it destroyed by this crowd.

Joey

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Obama Apologizes To Europe For American Arrogance

Friday, May 1st, 2009
Pres. Obama bows to Saudi King

Pres. Obama bows to Saudi King

(shades of John Kerry’s apology tour)

by: Joseph J Kusnell for Boomeryearbook.com

An open letter to the President of the United States:

“Dear Mr. President: It is not America that is arrogant; it is you who are arrogant. That has become increasingly obvious with each of your public appearances. It might nevertheless be a good idea for you to take a moment to review American and World History since you seem to be somewhat lacking in historical perspective. To assist you in this undertaking, l will take a moment here to review specific examples of world-power arrogance and together we can see how America shapes up. It might be illuminating.

England: The English Colonial Empire extended around the world and into North America for centuries. To say England was arrogant on the world scene would be a gross understatement. If arrogance is defined as acting without regard to the opinion of others, then the English may have invented arrogance. Even so, it was certainly not limited to England. Most European countries at one time or other have been arrogant ranging from the Greeks to the Roman Empire to the Ottomans. World powers usually do that, act without the permission of others.

France: France is another example of a country that has acted arrogantly in its past. Study the conduct of the French in North Africa and see whether their conduct would properly be classed as arrogant. I’d say it would be. (By the way they also sent their fleet half way around the world to assist the fledging United States of America because of their hatred of the British. (A good example of national arrogance even if it did benefit America.)

Germany: This would be funny if the subject matter wasn’t so serious. Germany started two world wars that resulted in the death of eighty million people. Were they sensitive to the feelings of other nations? Give me break. America left 350,000 dead soldiers on European soil, boys sent there to defend EUROPE – not America – from that arrogance. (By the way, no one objected when our troops landed in Europe to save those Europeans from a German dictator but they did object when we landed in Iraq to save the Iraqis from an Iraqi dictator. If the shoe fits –)

Spain: Has everyone forgotten the history of the Spanish in the Western Hemisphere? The Spanish Armada or the brutal colonization of the New World by Spain? Arrogance anyone?

Russia: Would you call it arrogant when a people’s government decides to kill tens of millions of their own citizens as well as millions of citizens of other countries in order to create communist states? Did they ask the permission of any other nations before they acted? Did they care what anyone else thought of their activities around the world? No, I don’t think so. They just did what they wanted to do and slaughtered whomever they wanted to slaughter.

China: Mao Tse Tung and Chou En-Lai killed many tens of millions of their own people to install communism and then invaded peaceful Tibet. In doing so, they ignored the complaints of all other nations. I call that arrogance personified.

Japan: How arrogant was the Japanese attack on Pearl Harbor or their treatment of America prisoners of war in the South Seas? And what about their brutal, arrogant and vicious attacks on China before that? How much did they care about world opinion when they decided to act militarily against their neighbors? None at all.

Iraq: Would you call gassing 300,00 of your own people in order to establish and maintain a dictatorship, acting arrogantly? What about attacks on your neighbors and ignoring UN mandates? Would your call Hussein an arrogant dictator? will leave that one to you.

Who have I missed? Castro? Chavez’ Peron? How about Hannibal, Alexander and the Moors?

It would seem to me that arrogance is a staple of world superpowers and always has been. Why even recently, England sent warships half way around the world to fight the Argentines over Islands off the shore of Argentina. That seems to have been colonialism at its worst. You see, arrogance is acting without caring much for the opinion of others and by that definition, every one of these countries has acted arrogantly when it suited their purpose.

But you, Mr. President, never mentioned their histories. For some reason, all you could think to criticize was America. So tell me specifically sir, where and how America was so arrogant that you felt the need to apologize. As you do, keep in mind:

It was America that suffered on 9/11.

It was America that suffered from terrorist attacks that killed 250 of its Marines in Beirut.

It was America that was the victim when the US Cole was the target of terrorists.

It was America that was attacked in 1991 when the first WTC bombing occurred.

So Mr. President, it is obvious that we were provoked. So with that in mind, please point out where America was so arrogant and what did we gain from that behavior.

We went into Viet Nam but that was to aid the French who were there and stave off communist expansion as the French retreated (which they do so well). Did America have a national interest there? No, the French did. America went in to halt the takeover of South Vietnam by communist North Vietnam.

What about Korea? Was that an example of American arrogance? I think North Korea attacked South Korea and we entered the fray once again to halt the spread of a ruthless and despotic North Korean communist government. We had no other interest there and when we left, we took nothing with us. And what did we gain personally from that war? Nothing. What did we take away with us from that war. Nothing. Nothing that is except our wounded.

So exactly where was America arrogant? And who says so besides you? Is it your position that it’s arrogant for a world power to act in its own self-interest and if so, what are we doing in Afghanistan and what are our troops doing around the world defending those who do not wish to defend themselves. Is that more American arrogance?

Perhaps, Mr. President, you should go back and re-read a bit of history before you rip America.

So that takes us to Iraq, your long personal whipping boy and Democratic Talking Point (until you got elected). As I look back on Iraq, I see a dictator vanquished and a country that has now held three consecutive free elections for the first time in its long history. Remember those nine million Iraqis who risked their lives to vote? Remember how proud they were? Remember how they held up their green fingers. We did that.

So Iraq now has freedom for the first time along with a freely elected government. Hopefully they can keep it but we gave it to them. We suffered and died giving them freedom. No one wanted to help so WE are arrogant???? Would this freedom have occurred had we listened to Europe?

America put up the blood and the money to depose the madman Saddam Hussein. And what did we get out of it? How did we personally gain from it? What did we take home from Iraq to compensate for our sacrifice?

Nothing, sir. And what do you see that was arrogant in that? Or do you mean we were arrogant because others – particularly in Europe – didn’t want to fight there and so we did it ourselves. Was that arrogant, Mr. President? Should we have left when Germany, France and Russia refused to help out? Is that what you think should have been done?

Are other countries now going to make policy decisions for America during your administration? Is that how you plan to run our great country? Didn’t John Kerry once say he would do that if elected, visit every country (including anti-American countries) to ask if they approved of some contemplated US move? Just to make sure it was okay with them? Isn’t that what he said, Mr. President and is that where you got the idea?:

Now tell me, sir, which European power had done that in the past? When have they checked with us before taking actions they felt were in their own self-interest? If they did, I must have missed it.

Today we are in Afghanistan fighting another war and none of those European powers that wouldn’t help Bush is going to help you either. Know why? Because you are arrogant, sir. Look in the mirror. You just added more American troops to Afghanistan and so far none of the countries you have apologized to, has offered to send troops to help out. Same as with Bush. Therefore, to use your own logic, you must be arrogant.

Your speeches were ridiculous and ill-considered. Personally, I don’t think you know much about world history and I don’t think you know what you are talking about and were it not for the utter stupidity of so many American voters, you would still be working as a community organizer. But sadly, you are not. You now are leading the greatest country in the world. But where you are leading her is the big question.

So we were arrogant in Iraq because Germany, France and Russia refused to come in and help us to depose Hussein? Why when everyone knows these three countries were in bed with the guy. They were the primary markets for his oil. They were participants in his food-for-oil scam. They traded with the Middle East entire region and it was that which motivated their disinterest. Or did you think their lack of involvement was based on principal or simple altruism? Don’t make me laugh. They were all busy serving their own self-interest. Would you call that arrogance, Mr President? I dame sure would.

Finally, Mr. President let me look at something you said once in a speech, something about despots and dictators. You said we don’t have to fight them, we can let them ‘rust out’ or ‘run out of time’, words to that effect. In other words you can wait them out rather than go in and root them out. Of course many would die in the waiting, but you seemed to think that was the way to handle them.

I suppose this would indeed be the non-arrogant approach. But would it work? Can you really get rid of dictators by waiting them out? Let’s check on a few.

Castro President for Life

Peron President for Life

Chavez President for Life

Duvalier President for Life (Papa Doc)

Duvalier President for Life (Baby Doc)

Chou En Lai President for Life

Mao Tse Tung President for Life

Stalin President for Life

Hitler President for Life (Killed)

Mussolini President for Life (Killed)

The list goes on and on. Dictators don’t quit any more than their powerless people remove them. That almost never happens. Either someone else comes in and removes them or they don’t get removed. Your comment was pacifist nonsense. You recommend the gutless approach which itself is very self-serving.

What arrogance means to Europeans is that we fought in Iraq when Germany, France and Russia would not. They were against our being in there but we went in anyway. That’s why we were arrogant. Because we did what we thought had to be done – just as they have done throughout history.

Keep in mind, Mr. President, these same countries were not against us coming to Europe and leaving 350,000 dead American kids on European soil to save their butts in two World Wars. Coming in and using our power to save them could have been seen by some as acting arrogantly, but it was not because they needed us. Definitions can be flexible depending upon circumstances – and politics.

Your comment to Europeans that we are an arrogant nation played into their bruised psyches and they ate it up. What you said and where your said it and to whom, acted to elevate them at our expense. For that you should be taken to task since you are President of the United States and not of Europe. More to the point, what you said was dead wrong. You have no pride in America and it’s obvious. Your view is that of a one-worlder and Americans better understand that before you do irrevocable harm to our country.

Tell me, sir, America fought in Europe twice, in Iraq, in Viet Nam, and in Korea all in this century. What did we take home with us? What did we personally gain from those battles? What plunder did we amass as the Russians did in World War II or England and France and Spain did in their heydays. What plunder did America take home with us for our sacrifices?

The answer is nothing. That’s what we took home. When you were in Harvard, did they bother to teach you American history at all??? Or wasn’t American history all that important to them?

In all those wars, America fought for someone else or for freedom for someone else. We were not protecting anything we had from someone who wanted to take it from us. They were not wars of conquest. We fought to make life better for others. We fought to save Europe and the world from Nazi domination. We fought to save the South Koreans from the communist North. We fought to save the South Vietnamese from the communist North.

What selfishness! What arrogance!

America took nothing home from their victories. Nor did we occupy lands or rob national treasures. We did none of the things most victors do to the vanquished.

Yes, we’re the bad guys Mr. Turncoat President Obama. We’re the arrogant ones all right; not the European leaders that refused to fight Dictator Hussein for political and economic reasons. Who could care less about the hundreds of thousands of Iraqis he murdered or the young women he took off the streets and raped. They didn’t care. We cared enough to fight but they didn’t. And you call us arrogant?

According to you, MR. PRESIDENT, it was America that was arrogant, self-serving, and dictatorial. Well sir, you are lucky we have such a dishonest American press today otherwise you would be roasted on every front page in America. But you won’t be because they are arrogant in their politics and diseased in their dishonesty. Integrity is no longer a part of American journalism so your little gaffe will be largely ignored. But not to worry, you will repeat it because you believe it and in that will lie your undoing.

America is the best country this world has ever seen. Not perfect but the best. Someone ought to have told you that before you decided to run for the Presidency.

It might have helped you preserve her.

Joey

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Co-Dependency: A Relationship Addiction Psychological Articles by Boomeryearbook.com

Sunday, April 26th, 2009

Psychological articles show that normal relationships have a balanced level of healthy dependence but ‘relationship addiction’ connotes unhealthy dependency which can have a bad influence on both parties. Such relationships can cause serious problems among people and require effective co-dependency counseling.

Defining Co-dependency

When two people in a relationship become inextricable and extremely dependent on each other then you are witnessing co-dependency. Drugs, behavior problems and destructive habits of one person can influence the other person in a relationship to a great extent so that they start controlling each other. Psychological articles describe this co-dependency in terms of obsessive-compulsive behavior; as the co-dependent participants have become so intertwined that they have lost their individual freedoms.

Psychological articles warn that co-dependence brings fear, obsession and distrust. The victims of this disorder are helpless as they feel the compulsion to look after the other person in the relationship. Co-dependents display total dependence on the other person which if combined with a need for approval might goes as far as to take them towards insanity or irrational behavior. Co-dependents sacrifice their own lives, tastes, likes, and preferences to those of their partner, and will go to any length to preserve the relationship. Psychological articles inform us that the co-dependent’s fear of rejection and loss perpetuates the unhealthy relationship and sabotages belief systems as the co-dependent is so fearful of being alone, the dependent relationship tricks him/her into believing they are happy in the dysfunctional situation.

Remedies for Co-dependency

Oftentimes, psychological articles state that people in need of treatment for co-dependency or relationship-addiction also show co-committent problems such as eating disorders or drug addiction. Co-dependency resembles alcoholism and drug addiction in many ways. It has obsessive compulsive tendencies and generates uncontrollable behavior that can lead to disastrous consequences. But there are also great treatments available and co-dependents can resolve these destructive issues in “codependent programs of recovery’ which are comprised of teaching self importance, self reliance, and independent decision making.

Co-dependency treatment oftentimes becomes recognized and undertaken when the dependent partner is treated for alcohol, substance, or other addictive behavior. Yet, psychological articles alert us to the possibility that an addictive personality can be hard to cure and to be on the lookout that the person doesn’t cease one destructive behavior, such as alcoholism, only to find refuge in a dependent relationship. For instance, many psychological articles alert us to the fact that some people may seek refuge in co-dependency when they feel their other addiction is too over powering to be controlled. strongly argue that if a co-dependent want to recover, he/she will have to be separated from the person they are dependent on because they feel compelled in their addiction. Yet often the problem is rooted in the co-dependent and not in the other “dependent” person. Ultimately it can and should be done, but is not often easy to separate the dysfunctional dependent partners and allow them to grow to individual autonomous people.

Psychological articles reveal that what needs to change is the behavior- as the compulsive behavior is the real addiction. Once the co-dependent is empowered to control his destructive actions, other issues can be resolved through therapy and co-dependency counseling.

There are many effective co-dependent therapies such as individual or group treatment options. Psychological articles reveal that a particularly effective recovery program is based on the Twelve Steps; including daily meetings for the co-dependent and working with an experienced sponsor. For rapid recovery, psychological articles state that is it crucial to teach the co-dependent self-love, self-reliance, and self-respect. Healthy eating, exercise and adopting a healthy lifestyle will also facilitate recovery. Co-dependency might also cause a dependent to give up their life for the other, therefore, treatment and a better lifestyle is needed to help co-dependents control the addiction and become a healthy person autonomous individual.

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Co-dependent Parents Psychological Articles on Elderly Problems By Boomeryearbook.com

Sunday, April 26th, 2009

The vast majority of parents love taking care of their children, and appropriately, most of these parents are equally willing to retire from parental authority once their child has grown into adulthood. However, psychological articles show that co-dependent parents are not part of the vast majority of parents willing to relinquish control. Instead, co-dependent parents find it terribly hard to let go of parenting responsibilities and authoritarian power and continue treating their adult child as “their little baby”. Co-dependent parents of adult children thus relish having their child dependent on them for solutions to problems as well as life choices.

Co-dependent parents show extreme care and love, to such a high degree, that it becomes intrusive, demeaning and makes their child uncomfortable and insecure. Furthermore, psychological articles reveal that it is harmful for both the child and the parent. A co-dependent parent might consciously want to be helpful, but the hovering, controlling behavior makes the adult child self-doubting and nervous and discourages the adult child’s independent thoughts and activities. In extreme cases of co-dependent parents, the caretaker diminishes and debilitates the child’s self-esteem to onerous levels and the adult child remains totally dependent on the parent; while internally feeling resentful and angered.

Psychological articles argue that such excessive attention towards children is unnatural and can cause serious damage to the personality of a child. It is capable of bringing pain to the parent as well. By not enabling a child to solve his problems and making him depend on them, the parents are hurting their child. They can make him an emotional cripple who will be unable to be self sufficient and adequately navigate the adult role of problem solving and decision making. A co-dependent parent robs the child of the ability to see relationships clearly and to recognize the responsibility of his/her actions.

The co-dependent parent often lies and makes excuses for her child which results in maladaptive ways. Such parents think they can maintain control and build healthy relationships by fostering dependency, but this is never the case. The children of co-dependent parents, reveal psychological articles, are encouraged to comply with the decisions of the parents even if they disagree. The adult child feels incapable of challenging the parents who lead to irrational thinking and self doubt which can cause social withdrawal and future poor decision making strategies.

Psychological articles warn that a situation involving co-dependent parents is a delicate one. A co-dependent parent might believe they know what is best for their child without realizing that the child is being robbed of the right to choose and for chances of learning to make adult decisions. Psychological articles further state that co-dependent single mothers have even greater problems in understanding the independent adult life of their child. In particular, a lonely single mother might find it difficult to accept their child’s leaving home, and thus they feel a loss of identification with a primary role and way of establishing their own self esteem.

Psychological articles stress that co-dependent parents must realize that it is natural for a child to grow up and make autonomous decisions. The adult child must have some freedom to live independently and choose according to what “internally” feels right. Psychological articles tell us that parents can control co-dependency by getting support or professional help and learn to stop worrying and controlling their child’s life. Additionally, psychological articles reveal that it is imperative that co-dependent parents stop trying to plan their adult child’s every move and rather allow the child to find his own path in life.

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