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AN AMERICAN TALE

Friday, May 1st, 2009

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By: Joseph J Kusnell for Boomeryearbook.com

Harden County, Oregon, not long ago was one of Oregon’s richest counties. As a top logging town, it had the world’s largest pine mill and provided a lot of lumber and a lot of local jobs.

But the all-but-ridiculous environmentalists found that logging endangered the spotted owl and so, they lobbied to close the mill down.

Today, Harden County is bankrupt. Its unemployment rate is 25%. Families have had to move to find work elsewhere. The trees now grow under protection of the Federal Government. The spotted owls are thriving.

But –

The formerly largest pine mill in the world is closed and rotting away.

The men who used to work here can’t find work anywhere.

Logging in the American west is down 60% with a ton of lost jobs.

But America still need lumber (as we need oil). So we need to get that lumber somewhere (as we do oil). So where do we get it?

We import it from other countries.

Where do they get it?

They cut down their forests for it.

Do they have spotted owls in their forests?

Who knows.

Does anyone in these countries care?

I guess not.

Do we have to pay for the lumber we import?

Sure. We pay a lot of money for it.

Do these countries make money by selling their lumber to us?

Of course they do. It’s a thriving business way up in the past twenty years.

Is that because we stopped cutting down our own trees?

Yes, certainly.

Does that increase employment in those countries?

Yes, it does.

Does that increase unemployment in our country?

Yes, it does.

So they are doing great and we are doing poorly, right?

That’s right.

But our spotted owls are happy while theirs are not, right?

Right. Their owls are miserable, but ours party every night.

What about their people?

They party every night because they have jobs.

And ours?

We have nothing to party for, so we are miserable.

Join the party. One of the gravest dangers to America today are the environmentalists. They are thoroughly out of touch with reality yet somehow,

they stay in power. And – of course – they are all democrats.

They fiddle as America burns.

This is the result of having too many Democrats in power. All these wackos belong to the Democratic Party. I would love to track them down and ask them if they eat chicken? Or ever enjoy a nice steak or sausage or bacon with their eggs?

What about leather that comes from the hide of animals? Have any of that around the house in things like shoes, bags, belts, pocketbooks, or wallets? And what about the medication they use? Was any of that medication developed at the expense of certain animals in laboratories? If they answer yes to any of these questions, then they are disingenuous at best and phonies at worst. We need to get rid of them.

It is not too late to stop this destruction of America. In 2010 you can save your country but returning checks and balances to your government: Vote Republican – restore balance to both houses so they can’t get away with what they are trying to do. If you don’t, you will have to live with the result. And so will your children and so will your grandchildren – and I can assure you, you won’t like it very much.

A lot of lives were lost creating the best country the world has ever known. It would be a shame to see it destroyed by this crowd.

Joey

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Obama Apologizes To Europe For American Arrogance

Friday, May 1st, 2009
Pres. Obama bows to Saudi King

Pres. Obama bows to Saudi King

(shades of John Kerry’s apology tour)

by: Joseph J Kusnell for Boomeryearbook.com

An open letter to the President of the United States:

“Dear Mr. President: It is not America that is arrogant; it is you who are arrogant. That has become increasingly obvious with each of your public appearances. It might nevertheless be a good idea for you to take a moment to review American and World History since you seem to be somewhat lacking in historical perspective. To assist you in this undertaking, l will take a moment here to review specific examples of world-power arrogance and together we can see how America shapes up. It might be illuminating.

England: The English Colonial Empire extended around the world and into North America for centuries. To say England was arrogant on the world scene would be a gross understatement. If arrogance is defined as acting without regard to the opinion of others, then the English may have invented arrogance. Even so, it was certainly not limited to England. Most European countries at one time or other have been arrogant ranging from the Greeks to the Roman Empire to the Ottomans. World powers usually do that, act without the permission of others.

France: France is another example of a country that has acted arrogantly in its past. Study the conduct of the French in North Africa and see whether their conduct would properly be classed as arrogant. I’d say it would be. (By the way they also sent their fleet half way around the world to assist the fledging United States of America because of their hatred of the British. (A good example of national arrogance even if it did benefit America.)

Germany: This would be funny if the subject matter wasn’t so serious. Germany started two world wars that resulted in the death of eighty million people. Were they sensitive to the feelings of other nations? Give me break. America left 350,000 dead soldiers on European soil, boys sent there to defend EUROPE – not America – from that arrogance. (By the way, no one objected when our troops landed in Europe to save those Europeans from a German dictator but they did object when we landed in Iraq to save the Iraqis from an Iraqi dictator. If the shoe fits –)

Spain: Has everyone forgotten the history of the Spanish in the Western Hemisphere? The Spanish Armada or the brutal colonization of the New World by Spain? Arrogance anyone?

Russia: Would you call it arrogant when a people’s government decides to kill tens of millions of their own citizens as well as millions of citizens of other countries in order to create communist states? Did they ask the permission of any other nations before they acted? Did they care what anyone else thought of their activities around the world? No, I don’t think so. They just did what they wanted to do and slaughtered whomever they wanted to slaughter.

China: Mao Tse Tung and Chou En-Lai killed many tens of millions of their own people to install communism and then invaded peaceful Tibet. In doing so, they ignored the complaints of all other nations. I call that arrogance personified.

Japan: How arrogant was the Japanese attack on Pearl Harbor or their treatment of America prisoners of war in the South Seas? And what about their brutal, arrogant and vicious attacks on China before that? How much did they care about world opinion when they decided to act militarily against their neighbors? None at all.

Iraq: Would you call gassing 300,00 of your own people in order to establish and maintain a dictatorship, acting arrogantly? What about attacks on your neighbors and ignoring UN mandates? Would your call Hussein an arrogant dictator? will leave that one to you.

Who have I missed? Castro? Chavez’ Peron? How about Hannibal, Alexander and the Moors?

It would seem to me that arrogance is a staple of world superpowers and always has been. Why even recently, England sent warships half way around the world to fight the Argentines over Islands off the shore of Argentina. That seems to have been colonialism at its worst. You see, arrogance is acting without caring much for the opinion of others and by that definition, every one of these countries has acted arrogantly when it suited their purpose.

But you, Mr. President, never mentioned their histories. For some reason, all you could think to criticize was America. So tell me specifically sir, where and how America was so arrogant that you felt the need to apologize. As you do, keep in mind:

It was America that suffered on 9/11.

It was America that suffered from terrorist attacks that killed 250 of its Marines in Beirut.

It was America that was the victim when the US Cole was the target of terrorists.

It was America that was attacked in 1991 when the first WTC bombing occurred.

So Mr. President, it is obvious that we were provoked. So with that in mind, please point out where America was so arrogant and what did we gain from that behavior.

We went into Viet Nam but that was to aid the French who were there and stave off communist expansion as the French retreated (which they do so well). Did America have a national interest there? No, the French did. America went in to halt the takeover of South Vietnam by communist North Vietnam.

What about Korea? Was that an example of American arrogance? I think North Korea attacked South Korea and we entered the fray once again to halt the spread of a ruthless and despotic North Korean communist government. We had no other interest there and when we left, we took nothing with us. And what did we gain personally from that war? Nothing. What did we take away with us from that war. Nothing. Nothing that is except our wounded.

So exactly where was America arrogant? And who says so besides you? Is it your position that it’s arrogant for a world power to act in its own self-interest and if so, what are we doing in Afghanistan and what are our troops doing around the world defending those who do not wish to defend themselves. Is that more American arrogance?

Perhaps, Mr. President, you should go back and re-read a bit of history before you rip America.

So that takes us to Iraq, your long personal whipping boy and Democratic Talking Point (until you got elected). As I look back on Iraq, I see a dictator vanquished and a country that has now held three consecutive free elections for the first time in its long history. Remember those nine million Iraqis who risked their lives to vote? Remember how proud they were? Remember how they held up their green fingers. We did that.

So Iraq now has freedom for the first time along with a freely elected government. Hopefully they can keep it but we gave it to them. We suffered and died giving them freedom. No one wanted to help so WE are arrogant???? Would this freedom have occurred had we listened to Europe?

America put up the blood and the money to depose the madman Saddam Hussein. And what did we get out of it? How did we personally gain from it? What did we take home from Iraq to compensate for our sacrifice?

Nothing, sir. And what do you see that was arrogant in that? Or do you mean we were arrogant because others – particularly in Europe – didn’t want to fight there and so we did it ourselves. Was that arrogant, Mr. President? Should we have left when Germany, France and Russia refused to help out? Is that what you think should have been done?

Are other countries now going to make policy decisions for America during your administration? Is that how you plan to run our great country? Didn’t John Kerry once say he would do that if elected, visit every country (including anti-American countries) to ask if they approved of some contemplated US move? Just to make sure it was okay with them? Isn’t that what he said, Mr. President and is that where you got the idea?:

Now tell me, sir, which European power had done that in the past? When have they checked with us before taking actions they felt were in their own self-interest? If they did, I must have missed it.

Today we are in Afghanistan fighting another war and none of those European powers that wouldn’t help Bush is going to help you either. Know why? Because you are arrogant, sir. Look in the mirror. You just added more American troops to Afghanistan and so far none of the countries you have apologized to, has offered to send troops to help out. Same as with Bush. Therefore, to use your own logic, you must be arrogant.

Your speeches were ridiculous and ill-considered. Personally, I don’t think you know much about world history and I don’t think you know what you are talking about and were it not for the utter stupidity of so many American voters, you would still be working as a community organizer. But sadly, you are not. You now are leading the greatest country in the world. But where you are leading her is the big question.

So we were arrogant in Iraq because Germany, France and Russia refused to come in and help us to depose Hussein? Why when everyone knows these three countries were in bed with the guy. They were the primary markets for his oil. They were participants in his food-for-oil scam. They traded with the Middle East entire region and it was that which motivated their disinterest. Or did you think their lack of involvement was based on principal or simple altruism? Don’t make me laugh. They were all busy serving their own self-interest. Would you call that arrogance, Mr President? I dame sure would.

Finally, Mr. President let me look at something you said once in a speech, something about despots and dictators. You said we don’t have to fight them, we can let them ‘rust out’ or ‘run out of time’, words to that effect. In other words you can wait them out rather than go in and root them out. Of course many would die in the waiting, but you seemed to think that was the way to handle them.

I suppose this would indeed be the non-arrogant approach. But would it work? Can you really get rid of dictators by waiting them out? Let’s check on a few.

Castro President for Life

Peron President for Life

Chavez President for Life

Duvalier President for Life (Papa Doc)

Duvalier President for Life (Baby Doc)

Chou En Lai President for Life

Mao Tse Tung President for Life

Stalin President for Life

Hitler President for Life (Killed)

Mussolini President for Life (Killed)

The list goes on and on. Dictators don’t quit any more than their powerless people remove them. That almost never happens. Either someone else comes in and removes them or they don’t get removed. Your comment was pacifist nonsense. You recommend the gutless approach which itself is very self-serving.

What arrogance means to Europeans is that we fought in Iraq when Germany, France and Russia would not. They were against our being in there but we went in anyway. That’s why we were arrogant. Because we did what we thought had to be done – just as they have done throughout history.

Keep in mind, Mr. President, these same countries were not against us coming to Europe and leaving 350,000 dead American kids on European soil to save their butts in two World Wars. Coming in and using our power to save them could have been seen by some as acting arrogantly, but it was not because they needed us. Definitions can be flexible depending upon circumstances – and politics.

Your comment to Europeans that we are an arrogant nation played into their bruised psyches and they ate it up. What you said and where your said it and to whom, acted to elevate them at our expense. For that you should be taken to task since you are President of the United States and not of Europe. More to the point, what you said was dead wrong. You have no pride in America and it’s obvious. Your view is that of a one-worlder and Americans better understand that before you do irrevocable harm to our country.

Tell me, sir, America fought in Europe twice, in Iraq, in Viet Nam, and in Korea all in this century. What did we take home with us? What did we personally gain from those battles? What plunder did we amass as the Russians did in World War II or England and France and Spain did in their heydays. What plunder did America take home with us for our sacrifices?

The answer is nothing. That’s what we took home. When you were in Harvard, did they bother to teach you American history at all??? Or wasn’t American history all that important to them?

In all those wars, America fought for someone else or for freedom for someone else. We were not protecting anything we had from someone who wanted to take it from us. They were not wars of conquest. We fought to make life better for others. We fought to save Europe and the world from Nazi domination. We fought to save the South Koreans from the communist North. We fought to save the South Vietnamese from the communist North.

What selfishness! What arrogance!

America took nothing home from their victories. Nor did we occupy lands or rob national treasures. We did none of the things most victors do to the vanquished.

Yes, we’re the bad guys Mr. Turncoat President Obama. We’re the arrogant ones all right; not the European leaders that refused to fight Dictator Hussein for political and economic reasons. Who could care less about the hundreds of thousands of Iraqis he murdered or the young women he took off the streets and raped. They didn’t care. We cared enough to fight but they didn’t. And you call us arrogant?

According to you, MR. PRESIDENT, it was America that was arrogant, self-serving, and dictatorial. Well sir, you are lucky we have such a dishonest American press today otherwise you would be roasted on every front page in America. But you won’t be because they are arrogant in their politics and diseased in their dishonesty. Integrity is no longer a part of American journalism so your little gaffe will be largely ignored. But not to worry, you will repeat it because you believe it and in that will lie your undoing.

America is the best country this world has ever seen. Not perfect but the best. Someone ought to have told you that before you decided to run for the Presidency.

It might have helped you preserve her.

Joey

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Co-Dependency: A Relationship Addiction Psychological Articles by Boomeryearbook.com

Sunday, April 26th, 2009

Psychological articles show that normal relationships have a balanced level of healthy dependence but ‘relationship addiction’ connotes unhealthy dependency which can have a bad influence on both parties. Such relationships can cause serious problems among people and require effective co-dependency counseling.

Defining Co-dependency

When two people in a relationship become inextricable and extremely dependent on each other then you are witnessing co-dependency. Drugs, behavior problems and destructive habits of one person can influence the other person in a relationship to a great extent so that they start controlling each other. Psychological articles describe this co-dependency in terms of obsessive-compulsive behavior; as the co-dependent participants have become so intertwined that they have lost their individual freedoms.

Psychological articles warn that co-dependence brings fear, obsession and distrust. The victims of this disorder are helpless as they feel the compulsion to look after the other person in the relationship. Co-dependents display total dependence on the other person which if combined with a need for approval might goes as far as to take them towards insanity or irrational behavior. Co-dependents sacrifice their own lives, tastes, likes, and preferences to those of their partner, and will go to any length to preserve the relationship. Psychological articles inform us that the co-dependent’s fear of rejection and loss perpetuates the unhealthy relationship and sabotages belief systems as the co-dependent is so fearful of being alone, the dependent relationship tricks him/her into believing they are happy in the dysfunctional situation.

Remedies for Co-dependency

Oftentimes, psychological articles state that people in need of treatment for co-dependency or relationship-addiction also show co-committent problems such as eating disorders or drug addiction. Co-dependency resembles alcoholism and drug addiction in many ways. It has obsessive compulsive tendencies and generates uncontrollable behavior that can lead to disastrous consequences. But there are also great treatments available and co-dependents can resolve these destructive issues in “codependent programs of recovery’ which are comprised of teaching self importance, self reliance, and independent decision making.

Co-dependency treatment oftentimes becomes recognized and undertaken when the dependent partner is treated for alcohol, substance, or other addictive behavior. Yet, psychological articles alert us to the possibility that an addictive personality can be hard to cure and to be on the lookout that the person doesn’t cease one destructive behavior, such as alcoholism, only to find refuge in a dependent relationship. For instance, many psychological articles alert us to the fact that some people may seek refuge in co-dependency when they feel their other addiction is too over powering to be controlled. strongly argue that if a co-dependent want to recover, he/she will have to be separated from the person they are dependent on because they feel compelled in their addiction. Yet often the problem is rooted in the co-dependent and not in the other “dependent” person. Ultimately it can and should be done, but is not often easy to separate the dysfunctional dependent partners and allow them to grow to individual autonomous people.

Psychological articles reveal that what needs to change is the behavior- as the compulsive behavior is the real addiction. Once the co-dependent is empowered to control his destructive actions, other issues can be resolved through therapy and co-dependency counseling.

There are many effective co-dependent therapies such as individual or group treatment options. Psychological articles reveal that a particularly effective recovery program is based on the Twelve Steps; including daily meetings for the co-dependent and working with an experienced sponsor. For rapid recovery, psychological articles state that is it crucial to teach the co-dependent self-love, self-reliance, and self-respect. Healthy eating, exercise and adopting a healthy lifestyle will also facilitate recovery. Co-dependency might also cause a dependent to give up their life for the other, therefore, treatment and a better lifestyle is needed to help co-dependents control the addiction and become a healthy person autonomous individual.

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Co-dependent Parents Psychological Articles on Elderly Problems By Boomeryearbook.com

Sunday, April 26th, 2009

The vast majority of parents love taking care of their children, and appropriately, most of these parents are equally willing to retire from parental authority once their child has grown into adulthood. However, psychological articles show that co-dependent parents are not part of the vast majority of parents willing to relinquish control. Instead, co-dependent parents find it terribly hard to let go of parenting responsibilities and authoritarian power and continue treating their adult child as “their little baby”. Co-dependent parents of adult children thus relish having their child dependent on them for solutions to problems as well as life choices.

Co-dependent parents show extreme care and love, to such a high degree, that it becomes intrusive, demeaning and makes their child uncomfortable and insecure. Furthermore, psychological articles reveal that it is harmful for both the child and the parent. A co-dependent parent might consciously want to be helpful, but the hovering, controlling behavior makes the adult child self-doubting and nervous and discourages the adult child’s independent thoughts and activities. In extreme cases of co-dependent parents, the caretaker diminishes and debilitates the child’s self-esteem to onerous levels and the adult child remains totally dependent on the parent; while internally feeling resentful and angered.

Psychological articles argue that such excessive attention towards children is unnatural and can cause serious damage to the personality of a child. It is capable of bringing pain to the parent as well. By not enabling a child to solve his problems and making him depend on them, the parents are hurting their child. They can make him an emotional cripple who will be unable to be self sufficient and adequately navigate the adult role of problem solving and decision making. A co-dependent parent robs the child of the ability to see relationships clearly and to recognize the responsibility of his/her actions.

The co-dependent parent often lies and makes excuses for her child which results in maladaptive ways. Such parents think they can maintain control and build healthy relationships by fostering dependency, but this is never the case. The children of co-dependent parents, reveal psychological articles, are encouraged to comply with the decisions of the parents even if they disagree. The adult child feels incapable of challenging the parents who lead to irrational thinking and self doubt which can cause social withdrawal and future poor decision making strategies.

Psychological articles warn that a situation involving co-dependent parents is a delicate one. A co-dependent parent might believe they know what is best for their child without realizing that the child is being robbed of the right to choose and for chances of learning to make adult decisions. Psychological articles further state that co-dependent single mothers have even greater problems in understanding the independent adult life of their child. In particular, a lonely single mother might find it difficult to accept their child’s leaving home, and thus they feel a loss of identification with a primary role and way of establishing their own self esteem.

Psychological articles stress that co-dependent parents must realize that it is natural for a child to grow up and make autonomous decisions. The adult child must have some freedom to live independently and choose according to what “internally” feels right. Psychological articles tell us that parents can control co-dependency by getting support or professional help and learn to stop worrying and controlling their child’s life. Additionally, psychological articles reveal that it is imperative that co-dependent parents stop trying to plan their adult child’s every move and rather allow the child to find his own path in life.

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The Misery of Co-dependency

Sunday, April 26th, 2009

Here are some questions on co-dependency would like you to ask yourself. Do you find it difficult to let go of a relationship? Are you painstakingly loyal and afraid it will hurt the others or anyone for whom you care deeply? Are your children or others you love in danger because you are complicating your relationships? Are you rejecting all solutions offered by trustworthy friends? Do you have secret feelings of shame about your behavior or feelings of “caring” for another? Do you believe you have the ability to totally change another’s behavior and habits? If you have answered yes to any of these questions then you are a co-dependent!

According to psychological articles co-dependents depend on the behavior of their loved one in order to substitute for their personal lack of a sense of self. Oftentimes they have never learned and/or have learned but become oblivious to their own values and needs while heroically trying to mend the ways of the addict (dependent). Fortunately, do provide hope as co-dependency is a common and treatable problem. If you are a co-dependent, you are not alone and there is help.., but you must be willing to commit to yourself and not escape by trying to combat your loved ones problems while ignoring your own. For instance, psychological articles tell us that there are many instances of children, spouses, friends and lovers who have tried to make someone stop drinking or give up drugs. In some of these attempts the co-dependent may have so identified with the “addicted dependent” loved one that the co-dependent may have attempted to drink or do drugs with them to prevent overly excessive use. This “policing” and “over-identification” does not work and can have disastrous consequences in that the co-dependent person, already vulnerability to dependency, can become a drug abuser themselves, simply shifting the object of dependence from the person to the person’s substance. Psychological articles inform us that co-dependents convince themselves that they can change the other person but more often, without help, they wind up losing themselves.

If you are thinking that co-dependency is an addiction to a person, Yes!, you are right. Psychological articles tell us this is exactly what is going on, and this “person” addiction compels the co-dependent to want to adjust the dependents wrongs, and fix the other person; a psychologically impossibility. As stated in other Boomer Yearbook psychological articles, co-dependence usually results from a dysfunctional childhood family of origin, such as an alcoholic or abusive environment. If these circumstances fit your upbringing it will not guarantee that you will become co-dependent, but it behooves you to check out the signs, see if you fit the profile, and if you do, get help, as psychological articles state you can be susceptible to relationship addiction or co-dependency issues.

Co-dependency fills the person with an obsession to protect the other “dependent” person from harm and to decide for him/him because the co-dependent feels they can make a better decision than the dependent loved one. However, what the co-dependent is really trying to do is gain some control of their own life by trying to control others. This control can even extend to adult children, in that co-dependent parents, (sometimes called “hovering or helicopter parents”) can still feel their children are incapable of handling independent lives as mature adults, and will intrude and give unasked for advice, judgments, and opinions.

Additionally, the co-dependent has lost their freedom of choice as they are no longer an autonomous person but are living in the shadow of your partner. Psychological articles reveal that the co-dependents life totally revolves around the needs and occurrences of the person to whom they are addicted of co-dependent upon, and are content with the submissive role as it is a defense, an escape from the lack of self-fulfillment and personal responsibility. Compulsive urges control the co-dependents behavior and oftentimes leaves the person feeling helpless, and terrified of losing or damaging the relationship.

Psychological articles bring hope stating that all these miseries brought by co-dependency can be treated and resolved. In some cases there are group supports and recovering co-dependents can provide help, and there are many therapists specifically trained to aid the recovery of co-dependent issues. Psychological articles state that the therapeutic goal is to give the co-dependent a sense of self, improve self esteem and learn to think and act like an independent adult.

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Co-Dependency Issues: Learning How to Let Go

Saturday, April 25th, 2009
Psychological Article on Co-Dependency

Psychological Article on Co-Dependency

Psychological Articles by Boomeryearbook.com

All You can Control is Yourself

According to psychological articles we should have only one main responsibility- to make decisions for our own future and find ways to make our own life easy and comfortable. Controlling others and their lives is thus NOT our responsibility and thus cannot bring any happiness. Psychological articles have repeatedly stressed the fact that we with the exception of caring for young children, we can create success, love, and happiness just for ourselves and no one else; as psychological articles inform us that whenever we try to create these states of happiness, love and success from outside we pass on our power to the external world and lose control over the power of creating our own lives. The reason behind this is simple – these states can only be created from within!

Co-Dependency: A Plague

Psychological articles have observed that people suffering from ‘co-dependency’ have typically experienced an emotionally troubled or otherwise dysfunctional childhood, leaving the person unable to detach her/himself from others, to properly attend to personal circumstances, and thus not able to obtain good resolutions of their own problems. Feeling incompetent in their own lives, the co-dependent person becomes needy of others and outer-circumstances, causing an extremely unhealthy personality characteristic for everyone involved. In order to feel competent and important the co-dependent tries to control others; first through showing compassion and advice giving, which inevitable leads to lecturing and emotional black mail. Psychological articles tell us that sometimes co-dependents are simply re-living their pain by recalling their own painful childhood, and in other circumstances they are not only re-playing old familiar patterns of behavior but they are unconsciously trying to “fix” their own dysfunctional situation by enabling others.

Total dependency

Co-dependents are unhappy people and experience intense psychological pain as they are totally dependent on somebody or something other than themselves; a situation that never brings inner peace or joy. Additionally, psychological articles tell us that they oftentimes put themselves in emotionally, financially, and even physically high risk situations as they are so busy “caring for others” that they fail to provide for their own safety. They do not treat themselves with dignity or respect as they have turned over their own power to empower others and never fully gain the ability to identify good personal choices. They fail to get consolation from within, and without as “externals” can not support “internal” emotional needs and well-being.

Look Within

Since unable to control whatever is outside of self, the co-dependent must learn to spare themselves from the pain and unhealthy dependency on others and learn to rely on inner peace and power; making personally useful decisions, and bringing honor, dignity, love and true happiness.

The best approach if you have co-dependency issues, according to psychological articles, is for you to control them by shedding your fear of feeling out of control. To do this, you must feel responsible for your own emotions and behaviors and not try to escape authenticity by associating feelings of gratification with anything or anyone outside of yourself. Only personal responsibility can bring lasting peace and happiness.

Psychological articles emphasize that if you are suffering from co-dependency issues keep the following in mind:

1. You do not have any right to control or change others but it is in your power to control and change yourself.
2. Your attempts at controlling the outside world will only result in your being controlled by it.
3. You endanger yourself by relying on other people and situations for love and safety.
4. You can easily supply love and faith in life from inside youself.

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A Boomer’s Guide To Dog Ticks: II

Wednesday, April 15th, 2009
Baby Boomers Guide to Dog Ticks

Baby Boomers Guide to Dog Ticks

By Boomeryearbook.com

Since dog ticks do not usually harm people, they can be seen as an almost harmless nuisance. Fortunately, in the case of humans, by and large it usually is. The same can’t be said for dogs, and lack of awareness of what dog ticks or tick-borne diseases (TBD) can do to your pet can have disastrous consequences.

The first sign of a problem is a number of symptoms such as a general lack of health, unexplained feverish spells, lethargy, and lack of appetite and in extended cases: anorexia. You sense that something is wrong but you and your Vet may be unaware that it is TBD and thus are treating the symptoms of a syndrome rather than the underlying disease. When such symptoms present yourself, always be on the lookout for TBD as a possible culprit.

Called ‘ehrlichiosis’ in veterinarian science, TBD has an extensive number of bacterium that are borne by different types of ticks. As some ticks are more common in some places than others, particular types of TBDs are prevalent in different parts of the country. The most common is Ehrlichia canis and German Shepherds are known to be prone to the disease. In most TBDs, including E. Canis, the basic area of attack is the bone marrow of the dog that is of central importance to the immune system. As a consequence, the immune system of the dog is compromised and your pet gets sick easily, and sometimes this leads to an undiagnosed case and thus the Vet treats each and every illness separately without understanding that they are all related.

The transmission of TBD is generally the same. People are often prone to believing that cleaner environments compared to farms or dumps means that TBD won’t be a problem. However that’s not the case. Ticks latch themselves on to the dog’s skin; near the ear, under the legs, neck and shoulder. It penetrates the skin with pincers which also keeps it in place. Bacteria are transmitted through these pincers that feed and mate through the host’s (your pet’s) blood. If you find a tick on your dog, take a pair of tweezers to the tick’s head and remove it completely as you do not want it to become even more embedded into your beloved dog’s body. Ticks are really dangerous to your dog as they can not only transmit bacteria but can also sometimes cause temporary paralysis while secreting chemicals; a condition called ‘tick paralysis’.

Aside from E. Canis, other types of TBD are Ehrlichia ewingii, Anaplasma platys, Neorickettsia risticii, Ehrlichia chaffeensis and Anaplasma phagocytophilum. Each type varies in the type of tick that bears the disease, the regions where they are more prevalent, the severity of the problems they cause and the manner they infect and sicken the dog. Invariably, if left untreated and on entering the chronic stage of a TBD, dogs usually die with organ failure or another disease that doesn’t respond to medicine, giving it the awful recognition as “quiet dog killer”.

After being briefly introduced to TBDs, some precautions can be made to avoid this dreadful problem. One of the first things is to keep your dog as clean as possible while closely observing its skin for any strange lumps, which can be an indication that a tick has latched onto your pet. Also be on the lookout for any repeated sicknesses, loss of appetite and the other symptoms noted in the above mentioned Article One. Also, keep your pet’s environment clean; it may not prevent ticks but it may lesson infestation.

An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. So please use monthly dog and flea preventative measures and let your Vet check out any suspicious symptoms your pet may be exhibiting.

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A Boomer’s Guide To Dog Ticks: I

Wednesday, April 15th, 2009
Bayb Boomers Guide to Dog Ticks

Bayb Boomers Guide to Dog Ticks

By Boomeryearbook.com

Our precious dogs are definitely part of our families, yet unlike our human loved ones, our four legged relatives can not tell us where they may hurt or if they are feeling sick or uncomfortable. And since for the most part human and canines exhibit “different” signs of illness, it’s therefore quite understandable that we two legged creatures become confused in trying to interpret our pet’s symptoms. Fortunately, that’s where our Vets come into play as by and large our dog health providers, (and some very experienced dog owners) manage to avoid pitfalls or misinterpretations in dog symptoms and their related causes. However, there is one notable exception that can defy diagnosis by even the most seasoned Vet; that being dog tick-born disease (TBD).

Oftentimes ticks are mistakenly believed to result from “unsanitary” environmental conditions such as a neglected farm house or otherwise non-hygienic environment wherein TBD is seen as something lurking around just waiting to infect your dog. But this is far from the truth and can frequently catch a dog owner unaware as ticks do not discriminate and dog tick infestation is found in many upscale sanitized suburban neighborhoods. All dog owners need to be proactive in avoiding TBD (by using monthly preventative medications) as well as being on the lookout for all signs and symptoms as TBD can be difficult to diagnose and if left untreated can be fatal for your beloved pet.

Complicating matters further, some dogs who don’t have full blown symptoms of TBD are nonetheless carriers (i.e., think Typhoid Mary of the dog world), as dog ticks can live on other animals, can survive in non living environments such as dog bedding, towels, shoes and boots, carpets, or even hiding out in car upholstery just waiting for an unprotected dog to present itself for a good tick feed. While dog ticks are usually not interested in attaching themselves to people and are thus harmless to us 2 legged creatures, (remember we are talking about dog ticks illness TBD, not Deer ticks which can bring Lyme Disease to people), dog ticks love our dog’s blood and can easily latch on and cause problems. Some dogs tend to recover from a dog tick infection, however, a pet can be chronically sick, showing no or seemingly inconclusive symptoms, and can be gradually deteriorating before our unsuspecting eyes. Please be on the lookout as TBD can be solved if detected and treated early and of course, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure—ALWAYS remember to apply your dog’s monthly tick and flea medication.

Step one after seeing symptoms- get your dog to the Vet for a proper diagnosis. Your Vet will check your dog’s skin for lumps, either large or small, that may be latched on ticks. Second, be on the lookout for these possible symptoms of TBD:

1. Changes in appetite
2. Changes in urine and feces color
3. Your dog’s immune system might seem more vulnerable than it once was with evidence of lethargy, loss of appetite, fever and anorexia.

Any of the above may be a sign of onset of a TBD problem, and must be checked. Initially, TBD may be quite subtle but eventually, if untreated, TBD or ehrlichiosis can cause death.

There are various types of TBD with Ehrlichia canis being the most common, followed by Ehrlichia chaffeensis, Ehrlichia ewingii, Anaplasma phagocytophilum, Anaplasma platys, and Neorickettsia risticii. Each type, bacterium and tick alike, have various prognoses that share basic signs – but some are more treatable than others depending on the stage of the disease. The one thing they all share is deception, as TBD can mimic other illnesses. For example, tick paralysis is frequently misread as epilepsy, wherein the poor animal has a fit with momentary paralysis that looks like an epileptic attack. In fact, it’s a neurotoxin released by a tick into the bloodstream. Less dramatically though, lethargy, loss of appetite, fever and anorexia are signs seen in infected dogs.

Apart from recognizing that your dog might have TBD and taking him to a good Vet, other precautions are also possible. TBD doesn’t necessarily develop if you see a tick on your dog. Removing it is a precaution worth taking, however, care must be taken by removing it with a curved Kelly forceps, tweezers or a tool made for that purpose. Routine checking and keeping your dog clean are great ways to be proactive and not allow TBD to harm your pet.

Whatever the precautions taken TBD can still occur. The best solution is a general awareness of TBD, an understanding of your dog’s health, and early detection and treatment.

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Elderly Problems: Benefits and Risks of Seniors Living Alone

Monday, April 6th, 2009
Elderly Problems: Benefits and Risks of Seniors Living Alone

Elderly Problems: Benefits and Risks of Seniors Living Alone

Psychological Articles on Elderly Problems

By Boomeryearbook.com

An elderly problem that is often overlooked is how to live alone. It is overlooked not only by the caregivers, but more so by the elderly person themselves. After living independently upwards of thirty or forty years, it’s a difficult thing to realize that your independence is becoming limited. Thus, when possible, psychological articles tell us that it is advisable to allow an elderly individual to remain at home as it promotes a greater sense of security and well being, resulting in less anxiety and stress related health problems. However, living alone can pose significant challenges and other elderly problems, and needs to be well thought out to optimize the benefits and minimize the potential risks.

In addition to promoting security and independence, psychological articles and research inform us that living alone can stimulate the brain, helping to curb some other elderly problems such as boredom or forgetfulness. An independent person must make all kinds of simple daily decisions that we often take for granted until it is taken away from us. Small decisions such as what time to eat, what to eat, or when to do the laundry and clean the house make all the difference. These little decisions help to stimulate the brain and give us something to do, thus avoiding feelings of aimless boredom. If a person is less bored, they are less likely to feel lonely or depressed.

If family is unable to handle all of the responsibility of allowing a loved one to remain in their home, there are programs that offer assistance to help alleviate some elderly problems. Some of them include telephone calls at specific times from volunteers or social workers. If there is no answer, they can then call a family member or whoever is in charge. Depending on the health of the person, there is also the option of having a registered nurse attend to the patient’s elderly problems at home during day time hours. Many programs such as “Meals on Wheels” will bring food to senior citizens at a predetermined time every day. This eliminates the need for one meal to be cooked at home and is particularly useful to persons with low income.

Forcing a person to leave their home may bring on other elderly problems such as confusion, disorientation, or bouts of anger. This may be especially true if a person has lived several years in that home. If memories of children and grandchildren are attached to that particular location, it can be hard to leave, as psychological articles tell us that feelings of deep loss and abandonment may occur. If a person must leave their home because there is no one available to check in on them or because of health reasons, it is important to handle the move with delicacy and care so as to avoid creating additional elderly problems. Surround the person with pictures and other memories. Visit often and allow them to maintain as much independence and decision making as possible.

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Elderly Sleeping Problems

Monday, April 6th, 2009
Elderly Problems: Insomnia

Elderly Problems: Insomnia

Psychological Articles on Elderly Problems


By Boomeryearbook.com

According to the Encarta Dictionary, insomnia is the “inability to fall asleep or to remain asleep long enough to feel rested, especially when this is a problem that continues over time,” and unfortunately this condition of sleeplessness is one of the most frequent elderly problems. Psychological articles tell us that it often results from sleep cycle changes that occur with aging as well as various other elderly psychological, emotional, and bodily changes. Most elderly patients are very light sleepers because their sleep cycle is shorter than that of a child’s or a young adult’s. The elderly problem of disrupted sleep often derives from the elderly person’s sleep being fitful and restless and, consequently, abruptly waking many times during the course of a night.

It is important to note that insomnia is generally not an exclusive elderly problem in and of itself. Insomnia is often linked with or caused by other elderly problems such as arthritis pain, emotional stress, etc. If a patient is in any kind of pain or distress, whether it be physical or emotional, it can be hard to sleep soundly. Generally, psychological articles say that the patient’s underlying symptoms should be the first course of treatment to see if that alleviates the insomnia. If initial symptom treatment fails and there is still no improvement in sleep then a patient may consider looking to other treatments or medications for help falling and staying asleep. However, there is a risk of dependency with many medical sleep aids. In addition, it is not a good idea for elderly patients to use over the counter medications such as antihistamines for sleeping aids as they tend to have negative side effects in elderly patients, possibly even leading or exacerbating the elderly problems of confusion and delirium.

There are additional things that aging baby boomers and the elderly can do to facilitate sleep. For instance, eliminating bedroom temperature climate problems can make a tremendous improvement in alleviating insomnia, so it is advisable to check to see that the temperature in the bedroom is just right and not too hot or too cold. Another tip is to establish a regular bedtime routine; this means readying for bed and turning off the lights for sleep at the same time every night. Psychological articles refer to this as good sleep hygiene as it helps set the body’s natural biological clock, telling your body it is sleepy as it gets close to the accustomed bed time. Also, avoid the use of too much alcohol, especially around bedtime as it can disrupt your sleep cycle by first making you sleepy and then as the boost of sugar hits your system, waking you up in the middle of the night. Lastly, avoid taking daytime naps, specifically multiple daytime naps because this will also make it harder to sleep at night.

Whatever, the cause or causes of your personal insomnia, it is should not be considered a typical elderly problem. It is not a normal sign of aging so do not write it off as one. Consider all of your sources and possible causes. If you are still unable to fix the problem with some simple changes, contact your physician to see what he or she might recommend. A good night’s sleep is essential to maintain proper body functioning and that goes for every single person, young or old.

The Psychological Article on The Elderly Problem of Insomnia is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of psychological articles on Elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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